Family & Relationships - 9 August 2007

I am deciding if I should move in with my mom (like 2 states away) or stay with my dad. I have had a great high school experiance thus far, lots of friends and sports etc. But I really hate bing so far from my mom and the school where she lives is AMAZING. Should I leave my friends and my whole life and plunge into the unknown at a brand new school halfway though high school? I am really outgoing and like meeting new people and I think it would be an adventure in a new place, but I don't know if i can leave my life behind me. But I know I'll be leaving for college in two years anyway. Any serious advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys.

2007-08-09 19:49:06 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-09 19:46:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i am 25years old chinese girl
i married my husband( canadian swedish ) year before, he used pretended him as a very nice guy and he was 43years ,i firstly was forbidden by dad but he keep on contact me and treat really like a queen then i agreed feel happy and positive to the future.after i moved to sweden from hongkong ,everything changed ,i first looked up a document by accident that he used be in prision for 5 years for rob and have been sent to certain place for his drinking problem and drug problem which he never TOLD me about ,and he used told me he never been a criminal!!he is a lier.then i found that he owe a lot of money about the rent of house and tax and etc....and i got a mortage refund from our post i dont know what did he done even !
i feel scared aboutfuturei have a stable work,he just do nothing just get warefare,i want to divorce but he will of course refuse,is it hard for us to divorce?i have to pay for the money he owe since we married one year?pls help me,pls

2007-08-09 19:45:33 · 15 answers · asked by lily z 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He says he is unhappy in job, house and other areas of life, but "doesn't know" how he feels about much else. I am not sure how to cope, just looking for some insight.

2007-08-09 19:44:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-09 19:41:20 · 2 answers · asked by kamran k 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

okay...let's keep this real...we have only IMed each other 2 times. when we did we were up all night talking.needless to say i fell for the guy.
i noticed a patern. i used to write him a lettter every day. now i write him and wait for him to respond.
i feel stupid for falling for this guy. he's in another state.
he writes me back appologizing for being so buisy, tells me he wants to meet me in person, and he misses talking to me...

okay great....so why dont we IM each other any more. why is he not on line for day's st a time.

should i believ him that his labtop broke? i tell him to just let me know if he doesnt want to talk to me, and he say's i'm not bothering him.
i just dont get it.

so....oppinions any one?

2007-08-09 19:39:55 · 8 answers · asked by sheri 2 in Singles & Dating

My mothers been with this guy for like a year now and i've never really noticed anything till recently i dont know if im just thinking something is happening when its probably not! he gets a bit touchy when no ones around (mainly arms and back) but not in a way thats obvious.he'll tell ajoke or somethin and then start rubbing my back slowly starting from my shoulders and then makes his way down to the middle of my back .and another thing hes really shy.EXTREMELY shy and he doesnt talk to me unless my mother has left the room. which is a little weird. he also makes little comments about how he likes his girls young. my mothers about 5 years younger than him but i just have a feeling hes trying to say something without being too obvious.he creeps me out but i dont want 2 ask him
'whats his deal' or tell my mother because my mother hasnt had a relationship in years(very long time) and shes really happy. i dont want to hurt her!

please help me what should i do,am i over thinking this?

2007-08-09 19:31:47 · 12 answers · asked by SVETLANA B. R. FROSTS PROUD MOM! 3 in Family

i have a friend that met a guy online about 3 months ago. she had just joined a black website community (i wont say which one) but she met him her first day there. they have chatted online everyday since then and she says she really likes him. they even now end each conversation with "i love you ".

now here's where it gets tricky.

my friend has a lot of self esteem issues that evolved from bad relationships where she doesn't too much like herself, and how she looks. i personally thinks she's beautiful, and so do all the guys who constantly hit on her. anywho, she says she really wants to meet her "online lover" face to face, and he is dying to spend time with her also. but she lied when she first met him. she used a picture of her sister on her profile, and they look nothing alike. she said the guy constantly tells her that she is beautiful... but it's not her he's looking at. so now she's scared of what he may say when he sees the real her.

what advice can i give

2007-08-09 19:29:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-09 19:28:08 · 11 answers · asked by sharon s 1 in Weddings

Even though the guy has used excuse the three times that you have conversated with him, excuse meaning, his phone going dead, he did only call you back once. That 's when you called and he wasn't there. Not even thirty minutes he calls you back. After that he hasn't called yet. When we was on the phone he kept telling me that he wants a baby, asking about my relationship with my boyfriend. Do you also think it's possible giving his a jealous guy that he is upset because the times I did call was always around the same time and not different times giving that he probley know I have a man?

2007-08-09 19:25:07 · 3 answers · asked by Promise 2 in Marriage & Divorce

A friend of mine is being abused by his father. He is afraid to do something because he doesn't want to be seperated from the rest of his family. He refuses to call for help. What should I do?

2007-08-09 19:22:22 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i have no money, transportation, or anything, but my lil bro lives there, and i havent seen him in 2 years..... help...!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1



dont give mean answers!!!!!!!!

2007-08-09 19:20:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i dont have a girlfriend, and it just seems like every girl is already taken, i feel very alone.

2007-08-09 19:16:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-09 19:16:32 · 1 answers · asked by badboy 1 in Singles & Dating

I am going to divorce my husband and I am very depressed right now because I really love him but he is not showing me love at all.

Do u think I have a chance to find a guy who wants to have a relationship with me?

I feel like my destiny its to be by myself :(
Here are some pics of me and hubbie

http://picasaweb.google.com/zhaindell/BrianKirbyAndZaindellKirby

2007-08-09 19:15:45 · 32 answers · asked by LOL 3 in Marriage & Divorce

this morning we was informed that we will no longer be the supers where we reside at. we were shocked by the news due to the fact that they told us that we have to leave by the first without further notice. I have 3 kids and I have no income coming in since the position I had was being the super here. Is there anywhere that I can go to for help?? the thought of me and the kids being on the streets is scaring me out of my mind....

2007-08-09 19:12:20 · 4 answers · asked by cantseepastthis 1 in Family

2007-08-09 19:07:32 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My mom and I can't have a normal mother/daughter relationship because my step dad is controlling. I have tried everything. All we can do is email each other, or she calls me when he isn't around. I barely know her. He won't let her call me, or go anywhere with me, and I have a 19 year old sister, whom I have never spent any time with, because of him. And to top it all off, I don't attend church on a regular basis, and that plays a lot into it. He is a religious hypocrit. He's a real jerk. He hits my mom sometimes too. I try to do everything I can, but when she does call, or needs help, he always yells at her to get off the phone. I am not sure what to do. Any help or advice, I would really, truely appreciate it. Oh, and also, she only lives 2 blocks from me.

2007-08-09 18:58:49 · 4 answers · asked by Justagirlfromcali 1 in Family

I just found out i was going into the Marines and i told my aunt who has six kids that i was going and she said i was not tough. Why would she say that when she barely even knows me?

2007-08-09 18:57:50 · 21 answers · asked by Anikin 1 in Family

You was with a guy for almost 5 years. Within that time frame he hasn't had to good of luck with a job or keeping one, he has a slight attitude problem, he is dependant on you. Besides, those negative points he is a pretty descent guy. Would you want to stray or stay?

2007-08-09 18:54:12 · 12 answers · asked by Promise 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, so my first date with this hot girl didn't go well.. I need advice. She cut the date short and then texts me 7 messages talking about how she felt it went wrong.. stating that it was me who wasn't talking or anything, but she barely said a few words too.

Well I asked her if there was physical attraction... she didn't answer me really. She said that would be decided if we had a next date. She said she wanted to friends if nothing else.... She said there was chemistry and I have a great personality but was holding back tonight... we only talked on the phone, never met.

What does this mean? Fact she mentioned "friends" aint good...

2007-08-09 18:53:08 · 5 answers · asked by andrew a 1 in Marriage & Divorce

The guy i've been dating for 11/2 months just completely stopped talking to me. Last time I saw him he told me he was only dating me and I told him I was only dating him too. He said he wanted this relationship to the next level. Since we both have strong feelings for each other, I totally agreed with him. Well, a few days after our talk, I felt like he was totally blowing me off. When I would call him he said it wasnt a good time and he would call me back. I did this for about 3 days and he never returned any of my calls. He did call me back after I had sent him a sweet text msg on his phone. Then said he would call me back in a few days. Well, it's been a week since our last conversation. What do you think happened? Did he change his mind about us being more serious and is afraid of commitment? He 's the one that brought up this topic. I'm soo depressed. I really do miss him and I don't want to call/txt him bcuz I don't want to seem pushy.

2007-08-09 18:44:22 · 10 answers · asked by Ana D 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-09 18:42:38 · 1 answers · asked by littleme836 6 in Friends

I was married for 9 years. When we arrived to US, he let me for his first wife. He didn't want to get me the sign to finish the legal process because he told me he didn't want to let me go.

2007-08-09 18:38:51 · 13 answers · asked by Irene C 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-09 18:38:15 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He was cheating on me with her but he claims he dont have a girlfriend shes 27 and hes 19 and she say she dont want him but he sleeps ther every nite and he says shes nothing to him that we are getting back together and he calls me everyday begging

2007-08-09 18:37:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My wife and my sister's husband flirt a lot and some times they are too close from each other. I've endured this for some years, but this time my wife seems to be going to far with the way she expresses her feelings about him.

My kids got her an e-mail address and I decided to do the craziest thing ever I impersonated the guy with an e-mail addres and started to send e-mails to her with friendship stuff, then love poems and a lot of cheese stuff and she fell for all of that.

When I finally told her I was in love with her, she first said was confused and fearful. Then she wrote that she was thinking of me all day, at work,etc that she wanted to see me (him)

I couldn't believe she said how happy she was the night the family met and she was able to see me again and wanted to hold me but many eyes were watching so she had to hold me in her mind.

I think she likes him and wants him, I think she has at least in her heart cheated on me.

What do I do friends?

2007-08-09 18:35:38 · 22 answers · asked by Hector 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I come home every day, the house is a mess. She homeschools one of our children during the schoolyear for six hours a day, so I do all the laundry to help out, including our two children's, plus all the yard & house maintenance. She complains about having to cook meals, so 75% of the time, she pulls frozen food out of the refrig and throws it into the microwave. The children dont do their chores during the day, I have to nag them when I get home. Its summer, so now she doesnt work in or out of the house, and its still the same routine. She wanted me to pay for a housekeeper, because she says she's tired after 6 hrs of homeschooling. I said it wasnt important enough for me to pay for it, let the mess be. I work 10 hours a day, I come home and work some more to help out. Sometimes, she's napping when I get home. Is it expecting too much to ask her to at least fix me a nice meal and keep the kitchen stocked with decent food?

2007-08-09 18:35:20 · 21 answers · asked by BradNahler 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I married a man i had only talked to for a few years online and had only met once in person. I had a baby 6 mo before we got married and it changed me into a different person. After the first year it was obvious to me that my husband and i were on totally different wavelengths and we were not meshing well together at all.
But before I left we got pregnant.
Now that we have kids together, I am torn because I feel that I am missing out on a great marriage simply because i am not connected to my husband due to our Huge differences.
He has made many changes and we are living together again, but i feel as though i am just going through the motions and I can't for the life of me feel connected to him.
I don't know which way to go, to accept this as my marriage and situation for life or hope for something better and prepare my life to except a new relationship that is a better fit for me.
what is your opinion?
Harshness invited, let loose, let me know if I'm being a selfish woman.

2007-08-09 18:33:47 · 12 answers · asked by googlebugg 4 in Marriage & Divorce

All you see these days are women that are nothing but arm candy for men. Do men grow out of that and eventually like real women or am I doomed.

2007-08-09 18:33:25 · 5 answers · asked by like it or not 1 in Singles & Dating