My mothers been with this guy for like a year now and i've never really noticed anything till recently i dont know if im just thinking something is happening when its probably not! he gets a bit touchy when no ones around (mainly arms and back) but not in a way thats obvious.he'll tell ajoke or somethin and then start rubbing my back slowly starting from my shoulders and then makes his way down to the middle of my back .and another thing hes really shy.EXTREMELY shy and he doesnt talk to me unless my mother has left the room. which is a little weird. he also makes little comments about how he likes his girls young. my mothers about 5 years younger than him but i just have a feeling hes trying to say something without being too obvious.he creeps me out but i dont want 2 ask him
'whats his deal' or tell my mother because my mother hasnt had a relationship in years(very long time) and shes really happy. i dont want to hurt her!
please help me what should i do,am i over thinking this?
2007-08-09 19:31:47 · 12 answers · asked by SVETLANA B. R. FROSTS PROUD MOM! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This man is definitely trouble. Tell him that he has been making you uncomfortable lately when he touches you. Tell him that you would appreciate it if he kept his distance. If he starts getting more forward, then tell him that you are going to talk to your mother about the situation. Also, avoid him like the plague. He is probably going to hurt your mother, but she may not want to believe that he is doing those things, if you try to tell her. She will probably say that he is just being friendly. In that case, tell your school counselor, and ask her to talk to your mother with you.
Do something immediately, if he tries to touch you at all after you tell him that he is making you uncomfortable. He may be a pedophile, and could hurt you.
2007-08-09 19:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not over thinking nothing! You shouldn't care if your mom is happy or not in this relationship if this guy is doing what you are saying. Tell your mom right now to get rid of him, he is no good and you will be doing your mom a favor.
2007-08-09 19:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by Miss YSL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with some other people. This guy is really trouble. Stay as far as you can from him, and don't be alone with him. And I think you should talk this to your mother (if your relatioship with her is good), coz if he is doing this to her daughter, sure he can betray your mom and by then she will get badly hurt. Be careful with him. Better safe than sorry.
2007-08-09 20:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he creeps you out your instinks are right on. This guy is obviously coming on to you and I would not be alone with him.I know your mom is happy and every thing is going great for her or so it seems. these guys prey on situations like yours and he is biding his time waiting for the right moment. Yes I would definatly tell your mom as if something ever happened to you she would never forgive herself for keeping this pervert around.Trust your instinks they are usually right.God bless and Good luck as you'll need both.
2007-08-09 19:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by JackieG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom ! Immediately. This guy is no good for either of you, and even if you think she deserved to be in a relationship, I am sure you'd rather it be with a good guy. Not a CREEP !
2007-08-10 07:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a really hard question to answer, you should go with your gut.
you could be over thinking it and you don't want to wrongly accuse him if he is only trying to be friendly but, he should behave the same weather your mom is there or not. does he say those things only when its you and him? or is he referring to your mom.
its tough one, be careful, you don't want to hurt your mom or wrongly accuse someone but at the same time you should feel safe and comfortable in your on home.
I hope it is just a misunderstanding, good luck.
2007-08-09 19:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by Cooter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good situation. Your mom's love for you is very powerful though, and you should tell her what is going on. Explain what is happening and how it makes you feel.
2007-08-09 19:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by Madama Butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he's marrying her to get to you. Just tell your mom what he's doing. If he touches you again tell him to stop.
If you are not comfortable with him touching you, he has already gone too far.
2007-08-09 22:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, you need to ask a proffesional. i asked the wrong person, and they told me to overlook it, and then he winds up raping me.... im not saying it will happen to you, but its a possibility..... ask someone who knows about that kind of stuff. a person you KNOW that you can trust.
2007-08-09 19:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he thinks you're a hottie. He might also be a paedophile
2007-08-09 19:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by sexc_n_h0rny_now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋