Family & Relationships - 6 August 2007

Ive been seeing this girl for about 2 months now. She drinks and i dont (i really look down on it), so im never there when she goes to these parties and such. She knows that i dont like it when she drinks but still does. She promised me she wouldnt go so far as to get drunk, just a little buzzed. But the other day she lied to me, saying she wasnt feeling well due to food poisoning, but then later confessed she had drank wayy too much the other night with two of her guy friends, who are also my friends and im pretty sure they wouldnt touch her. So what should i do? should i give her another chance? i really like her but im very frustrated with her drinking problem.

2007-08-06 04:55:25 · 7 answers · asked by olnavybean 1 in Singles & Dating

Whenever I look in the mirror I get turned on when I see my own reflection.

2007-08-06 04:54:49 · 9 answers · asked by Gods_Gift_2_Women 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been together for 14 years next month. We have a 4 month old son who I adore : ) I am pretty much fed up with his behavior this past year....or so. He leaves home and doesn't come back until 3 or 4 AM! When I ask where he was he says "I was just out"...when in reality, he was at the bars drinking and stuffing his nose. I confronted him early this morning since he decided to come home at 3AM again....and he didn't deny the fact that he was out using drinking and doing drugs. This is not an every day thing, but he has been doing this at least twice a month! I have dealt with it because my son is so young and nobody wants to lose their family. I'm so exhausted and so fed up, that I am ready to go. I am afraid of change. I doubt that he'ss faithful while he is out since bars stop serving alcohol at 1:30AM! Just the thought really makes me sad. He's a nice guy, responsible, & has a good job.

2007-08-06 04:54:10 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Why is is that when a man treats a women like ****, doesn't take care of his kids or denies them, the woman loves him to death? But, when someone treat her like a person, she doen't know how to accept it. Do you have to cheat on black women or treat them like **** in order for them to love you?

2007-08-06 04:53:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Alright My Nephew( he is 14 yrs old and I am 18 yrs old) and I Were Just walking around town After awhile of walking I'm like Alright im done walking. My nephew is like is it because their are girls behind us, and I didnt even know their were girls behind us I just heard loud voices so I was like what girls and turned my head for a half a second then turned and contiued walking then the girls said take a picture it will last longer i really didnt know what they said my nephew did, I thought that was the most stupidiest thing to do, to say take a picture itll last longer to a complete stranger Im come from a kinda rough background and even I know better to not just smart off to someone in the street, why dont parents teach their kids this? seriusly My nephew and I could of been some guys lookin for girls to rape, I think thats why alot of kids end up dead because they smarted opff to a stranger

2007-08-06 04:51:39 · 8 answers · asked by vengeance45458 2 in Family

i landed myself in some really sticky situations.

i've juz started my job for barely 3 mths. initially, i hung out w a bunch of people whom looked like fun. there's some deal conflict within the grp. i was accused of snatching another's account when in fact i was the one bringing it in. it didn't help when the director has prejudice(she hates women) against me & my colleague is directly under her.

i'm rumored to be an eye-candy at work has evoked some jealousy in a girl of the same bunch. she's somewhat close to me yet seems to be throwing cutting remarks in some crude kidding manner.

to make things worst, i'd some flirtations(nothing physical) going w two attached guys before. one of em lied he's single. both didn't end on a very good note, i estranged them 'cause i think they're players.

i feel so disturbed that i drifted from most them. the back-stabbing wont stop. being close before, they potentially make used of the shared info against me.

how'd i deal wit it?

2007-08-06 04:50:55 · 4 answers · asked by cherry 2 in Singles & Dating

she holds the title and plus it is paid off. She refuses to give me the title to purchase this car. What can I do?

2007-08-06 04:50:29 · 12 answers · asked by Joe 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Me, Charley(my ex) and Steph(my ex's bestfriend) always hang about together at school and I asked Steph a few days ago if we could meet up sometime(I know she'd probably be doin sommat girly but I'm used to taggin along now) and she said she's not sure about it and I want to know why?

2007-08-06 04:49:16 · 16 answers · asked by Lily R 6 in Friends

I live with 2 girls in a 3 br, 2 ba apt with a laundry room. 1 of my roommates is MESSY, the other a neat freak. I fall somewhere between neat freak and tidy.

I share a bathroom with Messy, and (of course) we all share the kitchen/laundry/living room.

PROBLEM: Messy leaves dishes filled with nasty water in the sink. Doesn't cover food in the microwave. Won't wipe down counters. Has NEVER contributed to the purchase of trash bags, cleaning supplies, paper towels, etc. Leaves wet washrags piled in the bathroom, has only once scrubed the floor/shower/toilet. Uses the kitchen as her personal drying rack for wet clothes (when we've got a laundry room...a whole room for washing). Eats my food, uses my laundry supplies, sleeps on the couch b/c her bed is always covered with dirty clothes...you see my problem?

Any ideas for addressing the issues tactfully? Tried both letting the mess go for weeks and leaving notes. Have a chores chart on the fridge...doesn't do her share.

2007-08-06 04:48:35 · 4 answers · asked by wealth-of-knowledge 2 in Friends

we have been broken up for over a month now (i broke it off due to petty stuff)

i see quite often because we work close by each other
and everytime she sees me, she initiates conversations
its ok to chi chat but she always bringin up the new girl in my life and commenting on her
wanting to know information about her
the recent convo she kept lauging and smiling which i felt like i was doing anything out of ordinary to make her laugh
she kept on tappin me on the arm and smiling
she grab my note pad and sign her name on it also adding "hugs"
i mean i still have feeling for this girl
but i dont understand why is she so interested in my personal stuff after she said we are friends and that she met someone new (which i kinda think it was a made up story)

she doesnt call me but whenever she sees me in person she s always sparking convo and somewht flirting with me

why is that?
any adivce or suggestion

2007-08-06 04:47:08 · 7 answers · asked by simple J 4 in Marriage & Divorce

like im not saying every guy thinks thay are hot. but lodes think thay are. so i want to know, what makes them so hot?

2007-08-06 04:46:59 · 59 answers · asked by <3supp<3 1 in Singles & Dating

I feel like taking them to the grand canyon and leaving them there.

2007-08-06 04:45:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My mother is unemployed. I get social security checks each month because my father died. All I can afford to give her is $200, and she wont take because it's not enough! I have my own bills to pay. My grandmother I cannot stay with for various reasons. I pay for all my own clothes, shoes, my cell phone, school supplies, and food, which she ends up eating almost all of it! She wont get over her childhood dream of being a writer so she thinks she can pay the bills by sitting on her butt and trying to take money which is rightfully mine. I cannot afford an apartment on my own, or I would have already gotten it. How can I tell her I will not pay any more that what I get? I dont even get privacy, she'll walk in on me when I'm getting dressed, talking on the phone, on my computer, even when I'm with my boyfriend, to complain about her bills. I wont pay for her dream any longer, and I'm sick of being her pincusion. It isnt my responsibility. This has been happening since Dad died 3 years ago

2007-08-06 04:45:20 · 10 answers · asked by writergirl 3 in Family

Should I flirt with his dad?
He deserves it.

2007-08-06 04:44:42 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-06 04:44:09 · 7 answers · asked by Missy 4 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-06 04:44:04 · 1 answers · asked by tall 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Alright, I'm aware that I may come off as an insensitive, controlling wife (and I've already been told that by my husband), but I'm pretty sure he's mistaking that as me being a concerned wife. Tell me what you all think...

My husband is 6'2, 245 pounds (that's a 65 pound gain since we got married 4 years go). He drinks AT LEAST one 2 Liter of Mountain Dew a day, eats these god awful greasy breadsticks that he gets from the town gas station, eats plenty of fast food on his way to work, and can literally eat a whole pizza (and does very often). I call him a walking heart attack, and I really believe that. Heart disease runs in his family.. and he refuses to eat the fish or chicken I make for dinner; however, he never turns down a big juicy cheeseburger or steak.

I'm not trying to come off a motherly type, screaming at my husband to "eat his vegtables," but I don't want to be a wife 15 years down the road with a dead husband either. Am I overreacting?

2007-08-06 04:43:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

okay, so I have a few questions.

1. what do most guys look for in a girl?
2. what would you do if you saw a really pretty girl in the hall at school that you didn't know?
3. what are your biggest turn-ons?

= P

2007-08-06 04:42:33 · 7 answers · asked by findawaytosmile♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

Months ago, i found out that my cousin and my husband had an affair, it hurts me a lot but i need to stay with my husband for the sake of my kids. Although my life is miserable right now. i don't know what to do but i love so much my kids. Don't really know how to handle this right now. It makes me crazy everyday.

2007-08-06 04:42:32 · 69 answers · asked by Desperate Wife 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband moved away from all of his family to another state to be with me & our child (I am also pregnant). We had marital problems including past abuse (over 1 year ago), & extreme amounts of cheating on his part. He promised me the world & was doing very well this last week. He found employment quickly, & has been very supportive toward me & our child. However, Saturday night he backslid. He was feeling antsy, & agitated. He left the house & went to a strip club. When he came home at 330 I saw video on his phone of him going out to eat with three girls he had met (they weren't doing anything but eating) & also several video clips from the strippers in the club. He promised me that he would never cheat on me again & that is why we got back together. I cannot just pack up my things & leave him because as I said he has a history of violence & although he has not harmed me in anyway in well over a year it is not easy to just up & leave. Am I overreacting I really need advice.

2007-08-06 04:40:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I thought she was going to be different than what everyone seems to say about their mother in laws, but she's not! She drives me insane and she seems to do it on purpose!

2007-08-06 04:40:19 · 2 answers · asked by Leslie K 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My wife left me and she wont hardly talk to me. She says that I took her for granted and she needs time to find her self. She says she wants to be friends for now and take things slow but she realy wont even act like friends and always has an attiude with me and is very secretive. She blames me and a sexual harressement issue that she ended up getting fired over due to not taking part in bosses advances towards her, but this happened a year and a half ago and now the issues started. Just dont know what to do. HELP

2007-08-06 04:40:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i don't like kissing my husband, because he has bad breath, and i think he needs to brush his teeth more often. but i don't want to be rude about it. does anyone have any ideas?

2007-08-06 04:39:13 · 15 answers · asked by tiffany s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Maybe I have had the big "O" and didn't know it, but I thought something was supposed to actually come out. I seem to get all of the feelings that lead up to that - tingling, hot, fast heart beats, can't be still, feel like I am going to scream ... but nothing comes out. Also, a lot of the time right after I get that feeling it's like the high goes away and I am not interested in moving forward with the physical aspect of it. It's like I have this really good feeling but once it goes away I am totally disappointed and not in the mood. I get this feeling with oral and a toy. Very rarely do I get this feeling with just plain old sex. This has been the case with anybody that I have been with, not just my husband. I have tried to relax, but I just keep thinking about other things (bills, work, etc.). I've been this way for a long time. It's to the point to where I am feeling what's the point of having sex. It is VERY frustrating.

Any thoughts or ideas?

2007-08-06 04:38:52 · 7 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Ive been seeing this guy for around 8 months or so, he has said he loves me and he wants to be with only me,the only problem is he is going thru a divorce and it feels as if he is slowly pulling away from me. Im can see signs and everything and im trying not to read that deep into them but its now starting to frustrate me cause he is confusing the hell outta me. He isnt doing or acting the same how he used to.Wut do all these signs mean and wut do i have to prepare myself for.??HELP!!!!!

2007-08-06 04:38:27 · 21 answers · asked by jennm0104 1 in Singles & Dating

I need some interseting ragging ideas, some really creative ones....

Like when i was ragged, i had to dance and sing popeye's song, and one of my batchmates had to sing like himesh.. other had to act like sharukh in the "hakala" voice, etc...

2007-08-06 04:38:23 · 9 answers · asked by goddess_of_fame 2 in Singles & Dating

They've been married 61 years and have never been apart. Dad has been getting worse and is now dilusional most of the time. Mom does'nt want to let him go.

2007-08-06 04:37:28 · 16 answers · asked by jammer 2 in Family

Well there will be 2 weddings going on next year && 2009 ((also good to plan ahead)), and one is my moms((renewing her vials)), and one will be mines. Both will take place in the winter, and thats where we're stuck! Now my mom has one out of two colors picked, she wanted the color Hunter Green, and she needs another... ((thats where YOU come in))


Now for my wedding its also going to take in the winter time, but i'm not sure of any winter colors, My fiancee' love the color Lavender, but ((this is where YOU come in)) I need some beautiful winter colors.


My mother is renewing her vials in November
I'm getting married in January of 09
--Hope that helps with the colors.

2007-08-06 04:36:24 · 9 answers · asked by Kristen 2 in Weddings

Ok, so I'm trying to come up with ideas to spice things up with my husband of 17 years and I came across an idea I'm looking for some thoughts.

Has anyone been to a 'clothing optional' vacation resort? I looked and they have them in Cancun and places like that.

What are they really like? Do people really walk around totally naked? Is that weird? Do you think this would be a good idea to spice up a relationship, or is it gross?

I think it would be fun to try, but I really have no idea what I am getting into.

2007-08-06 04:35:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

and what do I have to do? Do I need to wait untill I get a document saying I am married and my name has changed? I know it's kind of a dumb question, but I've been so busy, I kind of forgot that this was next.
Thanks

2007-08-06 04:34:56 · 16 answers · asked by lillibellemichele 2 in Weddings