Ive been seeing this guy for around 8 months or so, he has said he loves me and he wants to be with only me,the only problem is he is going thru a divorce and it feels as if he is slowly pulling away from me. Im can see signs and everything and im trying not to read that deep into them but its now starting to frustrate me cause he is confusing the hell outta me. He isnt doing or acting the same how he used to.Wut do all these signs mean and wut do i have to prepare myself for.??HELP!!!!!
2007-08-06 04:38:27 · 21 answers · asked by jennm0104 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So, he's still married then? Why on earth did you get involved with a married man? I'm afraid you've got heartbreak in your future.
2007-08-06 04:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jen, you could very well be a rebound. You've been dating him for 8 months and his divorce still isn't finalized? How long is this divorce taking?
Divorce does take a toll on people. You promised before God that you'll love someone for the rest of your life, then it breaks apart. Divorce is very serious. Maybe the guy just needs space for now and doesn't want to say it that way in fear of pushing you away.
This guy may come with some emotional baggage and the only true way to find out what's going on is to ask him. Talk it over with him. He could also have just been using you to get over the pain of his divorce. Maybe he just didn't want to be alone. We can all assume, but you need to have a discussion about the disconnect you're having. Do it sooner rather than later.
2007-08-06 04:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by mmatthews000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a divorce is a stressful thing, maybe he's acting differently because of that. I say give it some time, if he acts the same way after the divorce then sit down and talk it over with him. If after that things don't get any better, well it may be best to move on.
2007-08-06 04:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going through a divorce, he probably just needs to have some time to deal with that before he goes on with a relationship with you. In other words, don't read into it until his divorce problem has been solved.
2007-08-06 04:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by Tim Buck 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run Jen run.
This guy was playing with you. He's acting weird because he is getting ready to play a bunch of other unsuspecting females as soon as he is free. Get away from him.
2007-08-06 04:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by Felix The Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is going through a divorce. It's not exactly a stroll through the park you know? He might just be going through hard times.
2007-08-06 04:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Throneguard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
number one, if he is going through a divorce, then he isn't divorced yet. divorce is a difficult thing to go through, and maybe he is just as confused as you are. talk to him about it, and get his side of the story. tell him you are confused.. maybe he needs a little time.
2007-08-06 04:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by sr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in all seriousness hes probaly just as torn or confused as you are, id wait untill he seems kinda down then talk to him (he might not open up as much if you just randomly approach him when he's feeling fine), just ask him what hes thinking and feeling tell him your there for him and those kinds of things, hope this helped
2007-08-06 04:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by Chris S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well without further details as to how he's changing, it could be that he is:
A. Just trying to get finished with the divorce and move on
B. "Different" isn't always bad. He could just want to get closer to you
C. You could be right, and he's losing interest
2007-08-06 04:43:25 · answer #9 · answered by Cameron L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u could ask him what's goin on and tell him how u feel but guyz today well its kind of hard to trust anyone. well he could also be playin u. tellin u wants to be with u but really he wants to be with his wife. and 1st of all never get with a guy who's married. gurl leave his a** and treat ur self shoot u dont need a married guy. u need a guy thats single.
2007-08-06 04:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. T. Giggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋