I am so tired of having sex because no matter what I cannot get the big "O". Anybody else feel this way

Question

Maybe I have had the big "O" and didn't know it, but I thought something was supposed to actually come out. I seem to get all of the feelings that lead up to that - tingling, hot, fast heart beats, can't be still, feel like I am going to scream ... but nothing comes out. Also, a lot of the time right after I get that feeling it's like the high goes away and I am not interested in moving forward with the physical aspect of it. It's like I have this really good feeling but once it goes away I am totally disappointed and not in the mood. I get this feeling with oral and a toy. Very rarely do I get this feeling with just plain old sex. This has been the case with anybody that I have been with, not just my husband. I have tried to relax, but I just keep thinking about other things (bills, work, etc.). I've been this way for a long time. It's to the point to where I am feeling what's the point of having sex. It is VERY frustrating.

Any thoughts or ideas?

Answer 1

Yes, you are thinking too much. You need to find a way to relay, because your mind should be on sex, not bills.
Try having a glass of wine or two before you start it might let you relax and enjoy the sex.

Answer 2

Everybody's body is different. It's OK if nothing comes out, you still can have an orgasm. Most people I know don't have anything that comes out. I, honestly, thought I was the only one. It also matters about how good your husband is. I had never experienced an orgasm while having sex with any man until my husband. He was very good and even when I wasn't in the mood, he always made me orgasm. I don't know if either of you exercise or not, but this helps a lot with stamina and with level of your orgasms. When you have sex, just don't focus on all the other things that come to mind....just focus on your husband. Try to spice things up a bit, by adding a mirror to watch or dressing up sexy or in a costume....it's really fun & can be exciting. It's in your control. It worked for me. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

It sounds to me like you just need to relax and let go. Clear your mind. Think only of you and your husband together. Sometimes I can't have an orgasm from sex alone. I need my vibrator to go along with the sex. Some women can't orgasm without having clitoral stimulation. Try incorporating your toy with the sex and maybe even start taking an antidepressant to help relax you a little more. You sounds like you are so stressed out it's interfering with your sex life. Good luck and I hope that helped.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

You answered your own question. You mind is in the wrong place. You don't think of bills and bullshit when you are making love. If thinking of those things get in the way of being happy in an everyday situation what do you expect to happen during sex?

Answer 6

Don't worry if nothing comes out. Only a small percentage of women have something come out, and even those are theorized to be urine anyway.

Just enjoy the feeling!

Answer 7

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