Family & Relationships - 18 July 2007

I had a close relationship with my children. I encouraged both to be independent. Both married and both have partners that do not want me around except to borrow money, baby sit, clean or needs help with a problem.
The one that I baby sit for is a three hour drive so I proposed that I baby sit 4-5 days straight each month and take am on-call job there evenings and nights. My son and his wife thought this was a great idea.
On call as nurse eve/nites five days a month and I baby sit, clean house, cook meals, buy whatever my son needs, but I must stay/sleep at their house to babysit during th day and be on call at night.
I was always welcome in the past, but now that I have a job my son informed me that “your living on our couch is putting a strain on my family”.
I do not want to quit my job. I am going to refuse to baby sit, lend money, buy groceries etc… Paying for a hotel room and not seeing my granddaughter defeats working down there, but this is life.
I feel hurt. I do not want to put pressure on my son & his wife but I also do not want to see either of them at this time. I spend what I earn paying for a hotel room there.
Also I pay for my dog to be kenneled because my daughter dumped her pit bull on me and refuses to watch him (even though I pay her $10/day to put him his pen & back in my house each night).

2007-07-18 04:34:28 · 11 answers · asked by Traveler 4 in Family

Just for fun and I am curious!
What puts it over the top like in the Wow Category? What makes you think- OH my goodness can I just go home now?
You’re most memorable wedding story good or bad please!

2007-07-18 04:32:22 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Recently, my ex-girlfriend called me on my birthday after about five months of no contact. She encouraged me to contact her, made it clear she wanted me in her life and ended the call abruptly with the words, "I love you in my own way."

Unfortunately for me, I learned that she is living with a man she was having an affair with while she was with me. I was very upset and surprised. Frankly, I'm baffled.

Are any of you familiar with this kind of experience? What's your honest read on the situation?

2007-07-18 04:31:43 · 14 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

just need a good laugh.

2007-07-18 04:31:14 · 8 answers · asked by girl 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I've been working with this guy for almost 3 years, but I've only started liking him about 5 months ago. He's 18, just graduated from high school, and is about to leave for college in about a month. I'm 20 and go to a local college. Over the past few months, we've gotten a lot closer, and many times when we're together at work or somewhere else, he'll exhibit some "signs" that he may like me. I've read lots of sites and articles about the lil things guys do that show he may like you, including body language and behavior, and I see a lot of that when we're together. Problem is that he doesn't ALWAYS do this stuff. So I'm getting mixed signals and I'm not positive he likes me. But with him going off to college, I'm not sure if I should tell him how I feel? Should I tell him soon? Should I wait till just before he leaves? Should I maybe wait till he's home during a school break? Or should I not say anything, since he'll probably be meeting soo many new people at college?

2007-07-18 04:30:57 · 16 answers · asked by dreamer55 2 in Singles & Dating

like i no that all guys are different, but what are main things that guys like in girls? personality and physically

2007-07-18 04:29:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hey people it's V-ness, Can anybody tell me how to get more points on my profile so that I can move up to the next level??

2007-07-18 04:27:55 · 6 answers · asked by xXxEpic VictoryxXx 4 in Singles & Dating

I have thought my spouse has been a little sneaky for a while. This morning I went through his cell phone and checked his sent text messages. I found one from an old ex-girlfriend that he recently found again on Facebook. I confronted him. He feels violated because I went through his cell. I feel violated because he is having secret communication with this woman. I also might add he has flat out told me he wasn't even talking to her on facebook anymore.

We are both wrong...but who is more wrong in your opinion.

Please...helpful answers. I just don't need a BS today! :)

Thank you.

2007-07-18 04:27:53 · 26 answers · asked by ~Brenda~ 4 in Marriage & Divorce

i never accept any intercourse with any guy i feel they are not true lovers but role players.

2007-07-18 04:22:33 · 19 answers · asked by kitty 1 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-18 04:22:21 · 13 answers · asked by Destiny 4 in Singles & Dating

i already know the girl, where she lives...a friend he told stuff too and who dropped him off over the girl already told me everything..the girl works for his company and they have had sex in the office...yet he still lies and got her lying to....i gonna to catch them then but until then its hard being nice...

2007-07-18 04:21:58 · 21 answers · asked by Jacqueline 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm really good friends with this girl....and i'm extremely good frieends with this guy......BUT those two are going out, and i really like that guy.
Do i just get over him?

2007-07-18 04:21:45 · 22 answers · asked by megan c 2 in Singles & Dating

I am a father of two, well to do professionally and financially. Recently i learned that my wife has a very intimate relationship with my cousin. I checked her phone records without her knowledge to confirm, and it is true. my cousin visits my house when i am away. what should i do?

2007-07-18 04:19:46 · 20 answers · asked by skandel9 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My parents have been fighting alot lately. I asked my mom what had happend and why she was so mad at my dad. she told me not to worry about, that it is her and my dads problem and not mine. im really upset because today she told me that she is no longer living a happy life being together with my dad. Are they going to get a divorce??? What do i do??? im so scared because my dad left to go to work today, and he left angry. im scared that he is not going to come back for a while. Give me some advice on how to cope with this problem my parents have. i am 14 years old.

2007-07-18 04:19:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-07-18 04:18:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

He was mad at the beginning when I got the kitten because he said he felt left out, and 2nd best because he did not get to be included in picking out the pet but we were broke up at the time. 1 month later he says my kitten makes him very sick, and he has developed bronchitis from his allergies. My daughter and I both have allergies and suffer from asthma, we are o.k. I dust, vacuum daily, and put the cat in another room before he comes in, purchased a 2nd hepa air purifier, use allergen reducer carpet powder, febreze allergen reducer spray, and wash the cat every day. the cat doesn’t shed much or jump on furniture either He told me to get rid of it or he’ll have to stay away because of his health, my daughter and I love the new kitten so I refuse to give it away am I wrong? Today I even offered to buy him Claritin and buy a cage to go outside to put the kitten in when he comes over he said no b/c he didn't want to put his health at risk and he broke up with me. What should I do?

2007-07-18 04:18:09 · 16 answers · asked by single mami 2 in Singles & Dating

Well i am dating this girl, she was born in China and came here when she was in 6th grade. We have had a crush on each other since junior year in HS. We are now going into junior year of college. We finally started dating about 4 weeks ago now. Thing is she is from China and i guess her dad is kinda upset at the fact that i am not Chinese. I am a full blooded Sicilian (Italian). I dont think he really likes me because of this, im not sure tho. Has anyone had a similar situation like this before? what should i do?

2007-07-18 04:17:32 · 6 answers · asked by aero 1 in Family

2007-07-18 04:15:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I want to have something delivered to my bf on his b-day which is in a little over a month, but all I can think of is flowers. Do guys like getting flowers?

2007-07-18 04:14:04 · 17 answers · asked by princess 3 in Singles & Dating

For my husband... Would you rather have a romantic picnic on the beach with food I made (I can cook!) or a hotel room with an in-room jacuzzi at the oceanfront and dinner in a restaurant?

2007-07-18 04:13:45 · 22 answers · asked by wondering 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I am in my 20s and am a virgin by choice, which has got me thinking on this issue. Many people have stressed sexual compatibility as a reason to have pre-marital sex. However, in other questions, people say that being with a great lover isn't important because all of this can be learned. Therefore, my question is is pre-marital sex important? Don't tell me, I know what the Bible says, but what I need to know is truth (which if the Bible is true should jive with it anyway). What have you found in your experiences? If you have someone that you love and that is open to learning and truly loves and cares about you, is sexual compatibility important or can you rest assured that that person will learn and will become the perfect lover for you?

So, if you are looking for someone for the next 50+ years, is it important to have pre-marital sex to see if you are sexually compatible, or will someone who truly cares about you and is willing to grow become sexually compatible with you?

2007-07-18 04:13:40 · 14 answers · asked by irish68178 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-18 04:13:39 · 14 answers · asked by snowcow521 1 in Singles & Dating

So awhile ago I ask the question before and asked what should i do, So recently I put my car in the shop to get it fix and they were okay with everything then as soon as it was time to pay, they started acting funny, one of them even starting being disrespectful and we got into an agruement about it because he kept saying to me Im not paying for sh*t! Im beyond fustration because my car is in the shop and I can't afford to get it out.......what should i do?

2007-07-18 04:12:08 · 15 answers · asked by camryn 1 in Friends

property and he made me sign three gift deeds of a portion of my property and built unofficial shops and leased out and ran away with the money and my children.He tried to sell the property with moneylenders whom he borrowed without my knowledge but came to know of it and put injuction and after months ,have got the injuction in my favour.I got court order for child custody too.My son is just 5 years old.He has been poisoned to call me aunty and is being emotionally abused.He is made to get scared of me and tortured being alone at home for 5 hours.I tried bringing him with plice...but to no avail.That's the courts in India.I dont want to add up to my child's burdens and have am concentrating on other affairs.He has gone for a appeal in the high court. So almost all my days in running to court to get my child back and to get rid of the person who lived with me ...who cheated me, who abused me, who physically abused me.I hope in India law is firm and thhey do justice to broken hearted w

2007-07-18 04:11:57 · 5 answers · asked by Jessy 2 in Marriage & Divorce

when i lost my virginty... my b/f thought i was cheating on him bcause my wall neva broke... my doctor said he probably wasn't mature enough (big or hard enough) or i just wasn't ready and it still haven't broken yet... so n/e advice on how to break it or just keep having sex till it's broken? or is there another solution?

2007-07-18 04:11:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I am terribly in love with a married man, I am not a bad girl, I don't want to be juged, he does not even live in my country, it's just a question of feelings !
Ther's no way fot the future between us, if he devorce he lose his kids, I don't want him that ! but we still say to each other that we are in love !
is there anyone in my situation, and how did you get your self out of these troubles
Thanks

2007-07-18 04:11:12 · 36 answers · asked by Just me 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What 10 things women want in the man they want to marry....

2007-07-18 04:10:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i have a hot spot on my neck. i ususallyget lots of hickeys. if have kids should i cover them up?

2007-07-18 04:09:46 · 12 answers · asked by girl 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My first sex I had when I was 18 with girl who was 20. After I was with girls who were 27 and with 24, 20 when I was 21. But with that girls I didn't enjoy and get stimulation. Now I'm 22, and when I see girls who are 15 or 16, and if they have good body, I really get excitement. Is it ok?
I don't think that I'm madman or something else and I got good breeding from my family. I have good and clever friends, and it's really hurt me, when I think I maybe pedophile. I don't know what to do, I even dont know girls of that age can feel really orgasm and it's ok for them, but I keep trying not to have relationships with girls who are about that age, but it's very difficult.
Please tell me, what do you think about me.

2007-07-18 04:07:43 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-07-18 04:04:39 · 38 answers · asked by woodtigernz 3 in Singles & Dating