He was mad at the beginning when I got the kitten because he said he felt left out, and 2nd best because he did not get to be included in picking out the pet but we were broke up at the time. 1 month later he says my kitten makes him very sick, and he has developed bronchitis from his allergies. My daughter and I both have allergies and suffer from asthma, we are o.k. I dust, vacuum daily, and put the cat in another room before he comes in, purchased a 2nd hepa air purifier, use allergen reducer carpet powder, febreze allergen reducer spray, and wash the cat every day. the cat doesn’t shed much or jump on furniture either He told me to get rid of it or he’ll have to stay away because of his health, my daughter and I love the new kitten so I refuse to give it away am I wrong? Today I even offered to buy him Claritin and buy a cage to go outside to put the kitten in when he comes over he said no b/c he didn't want to put his health at risk and he broke up with me. What should I do?
2007-07-18 04:18:09 · 16 answers · asked by single mami 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep the kitten, dump the boyfriend.
He's a total jerk... can't you SEE that?
take care of YOU and your daughter... i can't imagine a man being jealous over a kitten, or left out because he didn't get to help pick it out.
he has the emotional maturity of a toddler. after reading the first two sentences, i could see that.
2007-07-18 04:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds to have insecurity issues to the point he comes off as extremely childish and immature. If you are sure the kitten is not contributing to his state of health, then I would say he is only pouting to get his way. He is testing to see if the object of your affections, the kitten, comes before the love you have for him. If so, let him pout. If you give in then he will know that pouting and breaking up gets him his way. But if from the beginning he resented the cat because of his allergies and you went ahead and got it anyway, then I could understand his point.
2007-07-18 11:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well, it sounds like you may have gotten the cat behind his back. Needless to say, with out asking him first. HE likes to be in control. And since he had no say, he is finding every excuse for you...to feed you till you get rid of the cat. Not only that but he sounds, childish for saying that he fells left out because of the kitten. I mean really? Lets get real! I say keep the cat! You cant break your daughters heart, because the man you are dateing does not like cats, and evidently has his own personal problems! Tell him that the cat stays, and its your daughters, and there is no need to be jealous....and tell him that you have did everything to prevent him from getting sick from the cat, and you dont want to hurt your daughter. So he better, get his act together....or out the door he goes. Besides there is tons of men out there who love cats! ;) Good Luck!
2007-07-18 11:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two problems here that lead me to say dump him! He frankly sounds like an immature baby. To say he felt "left out" sounds like something a spoiled child would say. Why would you want to be with such a wimp?
Furthermore you "refuse" to give the cat away. If you were really that interested in this "man" you would get rid of the cat or never have got it in the first place.
Dump the guy, keep the cat.
2007-07-18 11:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by tulseciffo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's QUITE obvious that he's second, or third best in your life over an animal.
Your allergies are not the same as everyone else's allergies. You don't and can't know what his are like.
You obviously choose the cat over him, so....let him go, and keep your cat. Then he can move on to find someone that actually cares about him. He feels second best for a reason, and it's probably not all because of this cat, and there's probably more you haven't told us. That's my take on it.
You are one dandy human being....nice values.
2007-07-18 11:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. If he feels threatened by a cat... imagine how much worse he might get in the future.
He is either trying to manipulate you or looking for an excuse to break-up. Neither one is good so be glad he is no longer in your life.
Hope you find someone who appreciates you and your daughter... and likes cats!
2007-07-18 11:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by BS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just doesnt like the cat and hey he should lighten up sinc eur tryin ur best to make him feel better so he wont have his allergies out the poor kitten even th ough i do hate cats but ur doing a good thing...hes just jealous n doesnt like the pet...give him more attention..if he doesnt like it well he will end up loosing u
2007-07-18 11:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by *S!LL!3G00B3R*TTC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just the beginning of a controlling relationship, time to push off and set sail for smoother waters.
2007-07-18 11:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by Mountain Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay well if u really like him and the cat is making him sick for real then i would dump the cat it is just an animal but if u dont love him then i would ditch him and keep the cat...
2007-07-18 11:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by Kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhh...please....he is jealous and exaggerating....if you are both allergic and are fine he should be fine to. ITS IN HIS MIND. As long as he doesn t live in your house he should not decide on what you keep in it. You pay the rent and other bills and all decisions should be up to you. If he doesn t want to come over see him in his house until he will get use to the cat.
2007-07-18 11:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by saldalia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋