Family & Relationships - 17 April 2007

my husband handed over me sum1000dollrs saying gifted by his friends for me,bcuz we recently married. i told him to use that but he dont agree. he saying thays your right. you use it. i dont know how to use that. he having some loans . bit he dont agree.

2007-04-17 06:26:42 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My kids Grandma has just left me a voice message stating that she's going to see a solicitor for visitation rights. My children are 8 and 9 years and we don't want her in our lives for various reasons, she is a loose woman, selfish, greedy, lazy and manipulative. The children are better off without her as her morals and standards pretty much don't exist. We are in the UK, what rights could she have, I've looked around on-line and there are organizations but I want to know the legal stance. Any advice please?

2007-04-17 06:20:17 · 7 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family

Well I am not trying to complain here...just trying to understand how to deal with a mom in law who always makes rules. I am forced to become 'the obidient' daughter in law everytime she makes the rules. I dont mind if she interferes in the big decisions...but not in every small detail of my life!! ...even about what i wear! for God's sake ..dont you feel its too much interference in ones life!!
I really dont want to say anything bad to her...cos i know thats the way she is bought up...how do i intelligently deal with this...how do i become a little more assertive and still not hurt her feelings!?!? Please help.
And my mil has come to visit me here for a couple of months and am having hell of a time dealing with her!

2007-04-17 06:17:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I just recently got engaged! We are both sooo excited, and havnt started the real planning yet but just throwing idea's around. I have an 8mo (future) niece, she is the only little girl on both sides of our family. We are planning an August 2008 wedding , so she will be two years old by then. Has anyone had flower girls this young? I understand she may not do exactly what she's supposed to which is fine, or get down the aisle in a straight line, haha, It's just important to me to include her because she is so special to us, what do you think??

and, if we have a flower girl, must we have a ring bearer? We have a shortage of small children in the family! haha

2007-04-17 06:17:37 · 16 answers · asked by Katie 3 in Weddings

I am 22 yrs old and hubby is 24 yrs old.We have been married a 1.5 yrs our relationship was always on again off again mixed in with love-hate.I just graduated from college and he is in the air force currently in England.To get to the point at one of his friends bachelor party's he got drunk and had sex with one of the strippers.Our relationship got really nasty after this he went to England saying he would do as he pleased.Out of revenge i went and had fling with an ex.bf got pregnant .I am 6.5 months pregnant not told anyone and hidding it .My hubby is being transfered and comes home in 2 months he says he wants to work things out but i dont think this applies.

2007-04-17 06:16:04 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am intending to go to india my and my fiance are british citizens. So under what act exactly do I marry?
Also under the astrology process I cannot see my hubby until1 days after marriage so is it possible if he signs the marriage certificate alone then me alone, so we cannot see each other.

will our details e.gdate of birth, full name, occupation be stated on the certificate before we sign it, and does anyone know any temples in the punjab district where the mandir gives a certificate of 'shaadi' and details of marriage court too

all replies will be appreciated
regards

2007-04-17 06:05:59 · 5 answers · asked by Perfectionist 6 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband got a new job 6 months ago. It's a high profile once in a lifetime chance. I have been very supportive of him (he had to go to school for 3 months and we were without his income for this time) and I am also very excited and happy for him. Anyway, ever since he took this job, he has been terrible to live with. I was always able to talk to him before (married a long time) but now whenever I say something about work - he says "Don't question me" and I have to walk around on eggshells to keep him from blowing up at me. It has gotten to the point that I don't even want to be in the same house or room with him. We have two teenagers. They notice a change too. He can't have a normal conversation anymore, it has to be about work. I feel like a piece of furniture in my own home. This has been going on for three months. We still are not where we want to be financially, but he is good at what he does and I know things will work out in this regard. Any advice?

2007-04-17 06:04:44 · 3 answers · asked by casey308 2 in Marriage & Divorce

...we both end up saying pardon to eachother a lot! We can never hear what eachother is saying and it's kind of annoying. The reason I can't hear him properly is cause I get butterflies and stuff. But he does it too- he leans towards me and says 'Pardon?' But this happens to none of my friends when they talk to him,he never says pardon to them. Does this mean he doesn't like me cause he isn't listening properly? Its frustrating that we cant have a proper conversation.

2007-04-17 05:54:25 · 13 answers · asked by x me x 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband has two kids with his ex. He has paid maintenence for them since they split 6 yrs ago and we have them every other weekend. Now because we offered to take the kids on holiday (which she said no to) she thinks we should pay her more. The CSA want my earnings and although i love the kids and am happy to buy them stuff (it would be me paying for the holiday) I don't think i should have to give her money. I work really hard (she doesn't work and lives with her non working husband - they have another child too) I really don't want to give my earning details to the CSA. My husband is happy to give his details (and for the record when she asks for more money, he gives it to her) Does anyone have any suggestions?

2007-04-17 05:53:53 · 8 answers · asked by Jostar_Magic 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm running out of ideas and need new ones. Please keep in mind that I'm limber, but not extremely flexible. Thanks. All ideas will be greatly appreciated.

2007-04-17 05:53:37 · 11 answers · asked by 2MuchnDaBac 2 in Singles & Dating

I've seen them as a display on ebay but noone can help me there i really want them so anyone who knows where i can buy some from would be great.

2007-04-17 05:52:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

There is this guy named Tyler. He is so nice and sweet. But I'm not interested in him. How do I tell him I have a great boyfriend without hurting him?

2007-04-17 05:50:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am in Oregon. I used to live in CA. My first husband passed away. A few years later I married again. He moved down from Oregon. He had no job, no money. Everything was in MY name. I sold that home and bought a home in Oregon. Stupidly, I put it in both of our names. He is still not working and has put me in debt. If I divorce him and can prove this in court, would I be able to keep my house and him not get any of it? What about debt incurred during the marriage? Would he be responsible for any of it? We have been married less than 2 years.

2007-04-17 05:43:50 · 19 answers · asked by Disco Diva 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend- 32 yrs old- tells me he's friends with an ex still as he dont like to end off on bad terms and he likes talking to her. Well he still meets up with ex sometimes at 1130pm at night cause she works late. Well I do trust him completely with her and know he just talks with her as friend but it makes a difference that he's meeting her LATE at night rather than for lunch or something. But she works almost everyday so that would be hard. I tell him that it bothers me esp about time of day they meet up- so late. He does say if he wanted to be sexual with her it could happpen any time really. I see what he means but how can i argue my point that time of day does matter- maybe it sounds silly but i feel uncomfortable with him meeting up that late. He DOES respect my wishes to not meet up with her late but I just want to argue my point though about meeting up late and I want to let him know that its not about trust. Please reply ASAP on this, best answer wins 10 points.

2007-04-17 05:43:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well I am not trying to complain here...just trying to understand how to deal with a mom in law who always makes rules. I am forced to become 'the obidient' daughter in law everytime she makes the rules. I dont mind if she interferes in the big decisions...but not in every small detail of my life!! ...even about what i wear! for God's sake ..dont you feel its too much interference in ones life!!
I really dont want to say anything bad to her...cos i know thats the way she is bought up...how do i intelligently deal with this...how do i become a little more assertive and still not hurt her feelings!?!? Please help.
And my mil has come to visit me here for a couple of months and am having hell of a time dealing with her!

2007-04-17 05:41:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My hus doesn't know. Should I tell him? We don't even live in the same state now.

2007-04-17 05:41:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been in my relationship for over 4 years and wonder if you can love someone but not be right for each other? Mostly we get on well but there are issues that keep cropping up? Also do age gap relationships work? There is 7 years between us

2007-04-17 05:39:59 · 11 answers · asked by profile not in use 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm not worried about anything, i was just wondering a basic fact.

If you had a boyfriend that you wanted to marry, yall have been dating for a year and a half. When you go out with your girlfriends and a hot guy comes up with you flirt with him a little or just tell him your not interested.

Please tell me if you do this, or you would do this.

Please tell the truth im not judging anybody on here!

I just wanted to know how yall feel around other men when you already have a boyfriend.

2007-04-17 05:38:18 · 26 answers · asked by JAY 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-17 05:34:01 · 16 answers · asked by jb1234girl 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

i am depressed right now and stressed out from school and life. should i just leave my bf b/c i feel that he will leave me b/c of how i am and just get sick of it.

2007-04-17 05:32:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband says things to me like: Your selfish and always want your own way, you don't beleive me, don't think i'm just going to beleive things you say 100%.These things really hurt me, and i cannot beleive he feels so strongly inside like this. I asked him, if you truly feel these things about me then why don't you leave me? He says because he loves me. I don't understand how a husband can think or even say such things to his wife, and still feel that he loves her. Even yet, when i am working out he makes comments at me and say "Ummm, you look so sexy, etc...and physically wants to touch me all over and kiss all over me. Can someone PLEASE explain this to me what is going on? I am so confused by my husband. I wonder is he trying to push me away, is he cheating, is he waiting for me to end our marriage etc,etc....????

2007-04-17 05:30:45 · 24 answers · asked by ilih2006 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend has stated that because he is often busy that he isn't going to be able to answer my calls every time I call, & sometimes I know he avoids my calls on purpose. I try not to make a big deal out of it because I know sometimes I want my piece of mind and don't want to be bothered either, but if I turn my phone off after a certain hour at night or if he calls & I don't answer & sometimes when I put my phone on charge the signal doesn't come through so it goes straight to voicemail he makes a big deal out of it. He's always like, "I called you last night but the calls went straight to voicemail." I told him that sometimes when my phone is on the charger the signal doesn't always come through. He thinks that I may be with a guy, just because I'm not answering the phone.

Isn't he being a little unreasonable, sometimes you can't always get to the phone & you can't control cell phone signals. He's come by before when I didn't answer his calls & I'm always home alone.

2007-04-17 05:28:51 · 17 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Singles & Dating

she is there every night when I come home from work, she says can talk to him coz I dont "listen" but I do, I stopped chatting to my friends coz that is what she said she needed,I ask the same in return and she refuses to budge. Now my mates av buggered off I'm alone at home holding our 6 month old son and she's playing the single woman !! what do I do?

2007-04-17 05:27:04 · 15 answers · asked by michael_1984 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

OK, i am a brides maid in my fiances brothers wedding. She has gotten these ridicoulously ugly dresses (for free) and she expects me to wear it in front of our entire family. To make matters worse, it does not fit properly. The top is like 3 sizes to small, and i am extremely busty. It looks as though i have a tissue box stuffed up top and my breasts are boiling over the top. Not to mention i cannot wear a bra with it. Big no no for me. She had the nerve to ask me if i could just stand to wear it for one night.....and be completely humilaited for the rest of my life due to wedding photos. I just want to cry. She is having her entire wedding payed for, and she cant afford to buy her 2 bridesmaid decent dresses?!@ I offered to pay for mine in full so i dont look horrible. Her sloution is having her grandmother tear the dress apart to try and add panels. It wont work i know. She is in my wedding and i would never do this to her. I just want her to ask someone else. What do i do? *CRYS*

2007-04-17 05:25:17 · 51 answers · asked by tiggy198077 2 in Weddings

I've been married for 2 years, and cheated on my husband. I feel like my lover and I have more in common, and compliment eachother. He's married too. We've both never fooled around. I broke it off with my lover. I'm not sure if I made the right decision? I never thought I would have found myself in this situation. My lover has children with his wife. He was going to leave until I broke it off. I always felt like he would never stay with me anyway because he would feel guilt over leaving his children behind. He hasn't been in love with his wife over a year. I love my husband, but he has been verbally abusive to me, and won't get help. I think about this other man all the time. I'm confused, and I am trying to keep busy. It seems like when one person is ready to make sacrifices the other person get scared, and says they just can't change their situation for one reason or another. We both don't want to hurt our spouses. In the end, we will have heartache, what do I do????

2007-04-17 05:24:52 · 27 answers · asked by Confused Chick 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am in a 7 yr relationship with my boyfriend, we have lived together
> now for 7 yrs and at first he was loving and attentive. But at first
> he would say things like "our relationship is on a day to day basis
> today I am here but tomorrow I might not be" It tugged at my heart
> and made me want to prove to him that I do love him and that this
> relationship is the best thing that ever happened to him. 18 months
> into our living together (I have 2 kids then they were 7 and 8 yrs
> old) we went to his brothers for new years eve with the kids, he got
> mad and wanted to leave and me and the kids didn't want to so he
> started yelling at me and I was crying, so his brother came over gave
> me a hug and said "are you ok?, he shouldn't talk to you like that"
> that inraged Jim even more and told me to get my AS_ in the car and
> why do I have to be such as stupid CUN_! I was scared at this point,
> cause I never saw this side of him before, I left the kids there and
> took him home when we got home packed his things and said its been
> nice the last 18 months with you, have a good life. I was sobbing,
> beggin him to not leave, but he did anyway and I was devastated. the
> next day I called every motel in town til I found him, I went there
> we made up and he came home and over the next 6 1/2 yrs that has been
> the cycle he will get mad, call me names, pack his things and leave
> and would go after him. As the years went on he became more and more
> like Jekyl and Hyde. my kids are now 14 and 12 and they hate him,
> they hate how he makes me cry, they hate the names he calls, one time
> he got mad because he thought I slammed my dresser drawer shut and I
> tried to tell him I didn't and he spit in my face, he got so mad
> another time he threatened to bash my head into the wall. Now my son
> is wanting to go live with his dad because he can't stand the way
> things are at my house, and all I do now is cry. And NOW my
> boyfriend wants me to leave, I KNOW he is verbally and sometimes
> physically abusing me, and my children, SO WHY ISN'T THIS ENOUGH TO
> WANT IT TO BE OVER WITH? Why do I want nothing more than to be with
> him? HELP? How do I get through this?
>

2007-04-17 05:22:25 · 23 answers · asked by lynlee39 1 in Marriage & Divorce

About 2 years ago me & my best friend where pretty much in the same situation. We both where frustrated with life & how we didn't find that special someone in our lives. At about the same time we both found women who seemed to like us & it turned to love. We both where about to get married at the same time too. But suddenly things went wrong. To make a long story short my ex fiance stabbed me in the back in the worse way while at the same time my best friends relationship with his lady blossomed & ended up marrying her & having a daughter with her. Since that time i grown to be very angry with how everything turned out for me. My friend tried to be there for me but i would shun him away telling him that he's forgotten how it felt to be alone & now he wants to throw it in my face about how his relationship is going great. He's still my friend but he won't mention anything about his family life anymore . Is this jealousy or bitterness that i'm feeling? Or is it both?

2007-04-17 05:17:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I need a theme that is subtle and not too outgoing, but really romantic for not only me but my guests. Any ideas??

2007-04-17 05:17:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I hate feeling like this, what can I do to make my feelings change

2007-04-17 05:11:50 · 8 answers · asked by What Happen 1 in Friends

i am 33 year old male and i have a 31 year old feonsay and my parents don;t want us to get married because they think we will make the same mistakes my parent did they are verry protective i am getting married this july her birthday and i don;t want my parent to get in the way after we get married is there any thing they can do? like putting a consevitership on me? so they canot do anything once i get married?

2007-04-17 05:11:48 · 18 answers · asked by stephen w 1 in Marriage & Divorce