she is there every night when I come home from work, she says can talk to him coz I dont "listen" but I do, I stopped chatting to my friends coz that is what she said she needed,I ask the same in return and she refuses to budge. Now my mates av buggered off I'm alone at home holding our 6 month old son and she's playing the single woman !! what do I do?
2007-04-17 05:27:04 · 15 answers · asked by michael_1984 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it sounds like major issues! first of all...there is a lack of communication. you both need to sit down and talk about your problems with trust and respect. if she loved and respected you, she needs to talk about her feelings with you...not some other guy down the street. that sounds like trouble.
also, if she loves you, she wouldnt do things like that to hurt you. have you made it clear to her that it hurts you? also, why is out having fun when she is a mother now. its ok to go out once in a while but not every day. she needs to grow up and take responsibility for her baby. the baby needs her and so do you..
just remember...a relationship is based on trust and respect. if you dont have those ,, then you dont have a relationship to save. its a good thing the baby has you. i commend you on being a good father. i know its hard but the rewards will come
2007-04-17 05:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by sylonthego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girlfriend would never do that to a guy unless for a good reason. You know what? I don't think you have done ANYTHING mean to her at all, and, I just want to say this, talk to her and ask her why she is acting so different from the way you thought she would always act as normal, and if she doesn't want to talk about it, I think you should dump her. It'd be better to say it in her face, then she'd see that you mean business, you know, you can always find another girlfriend, that's much nicer =) I do think she is cheating, by the way I read your question, it sounds very... what's the word, well, the word that makes it sound true, you know?
I'm sorry to change the subject, but babies are so cute! ^.^ Are you happy that you have a 6 month old son?....On the other side, if you are...then is your 'girlfriend' happy with him? If not, then I really think that she is trying to get away from you and the baby =( Look, all I can now say is good luck, and try talking to her, otherwise, dump her, and go in search for a better girlfriend, a one you can trust =) and who loves babies! ^.^ Good luck, and hope I helped! =D
2007-04-17 05:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to grow up, she's a mother. Just because she carried the child for nine months is no excuse for buggering off when it's born - leaving you alone while she goes partying - that's ridiculous.
You should never have to leave your mates behind when you have a partner (unless they're scum).
Your other half should accept you and the friends that come with you.
2007-04-17 05:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by Felicia B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her straight out! its definitely not good idea to cut off your friends, as you would grow to feel resentful! this guy u say she talks to could just be her friend, thats ok you know! dont jump to conclusions, just maybe arrange for ababysitter some night, take her out for a meal and recapture the way things were and make a point to go on a 'date' with eachother once amonth, then other weeks, go out wih your friends... if they are friends, true friends they will understand why things went the way they did! hope this helps!
2007-04-17 05:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by purplegal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have an issue. Sit down and talk with her about it. If she won't talk about it, than there is obviously more to it than she says. If you dont like, be the adult and leave. If you want your son, do it the legal way and get custody of him.
2007-04-17 05:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just need a break, good for you for being a good dad. Don't assume the worst, having a baby is hard work, maybe she just wanted to GO OUT! Don't be so jealous.
2007-04-17 05:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is cheating and big time. Dump her now and don't take her back. She is playing you for the fool, and everytime you kiss her guess where those lips were just an hour earlier!
2007-04-17 05:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take off one night with the son and stay at a close friends, if she wrings u she cares!
2007-04-17 05:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by Hollz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out get the friends back and tell her to stay at home for once, you need space sometimes, time for you, also time with others, maybe shes feeling trapped with the nipper and all. have you tried asking her whats up?
2007-04-17 05:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by juejua 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cheating on u pa am sorry but she is and you need to talk to her you need to tell her how u feel cuz then she gonna think what she doing is right and she aint doing the right thing or just leave her cuz you sound like a good man but you need to tell her
2007-04-17 05:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by ghetto mami loves her rainbows 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋