Well I am not trying to complain here...just trying to understand how to deal with a mom in law who always makes rules. I am forced to become 'the obidient' daughter in law everytime she makes the rules. I dont mind if she interferes in the big decisions...but not in every small detail of my life!! ...even about what i wear! for God's sake ..dont you feel its too much interference in ones life!!
I really dont want to say anything bad to her...cos i know thats the way she is bought up...how do i intelligently deal with this...how do i become a little more assertive and still not hurt her feelings!?!? Please help.
And my mil has come to visit me here for a couple of months and am having hell of a time dealing with her!
2007-04-17 06:17:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When she offers up advice, calmly but firmly say, "Actually, I think I'm going to do____. But thank you for your input." Try to include her in things that you want advice on, that way she will feel wanted. Good luck.
2007-04-17 06:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all Unless somehow its going to dramatically affect her. you dont have to include her in big or small decisions. You are married to her son and although you have to respect for your husbands sake. Those decisions are to be made between you and your husband only. She lived her life now she needs to allow her son and you to live ya's life.
You have two options
1. Nodd and say yeah and still do things how you and your husband have decided to do things.
2. Say " Thank You for your help but this is something me and your son will discuss and decide on."
If ya cant get along at least respect each other.
2007-04-18 15:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lil'n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a really hard question because most mother-inlaws are like this and want what's best for their kids. So I would just tell her how you feel and ask her how she would feel if she were in your position. I'm sure that she has a lot to talk about too. Or I would just kick her out and tell her you can't deal with her anymore. Hope I helped! ^_^
2007-04-17 13:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by phantomdream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she comes to stay, make her follow your rules however ridiculous they are make her clean the toilet, be sweet to her infront of your partner and talk bout having children because its just time.
when she dictates what you wear say your husband likes short skirts because they are "easy access" and the boots are just an added fetish of his.
then kindly tell her that she looks horrible in what shes wearing and she should change it asap maybe then she will "get some action" off her partner, never know might loosen her up a bit after that!
2007-04-20 11:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by almost_angelic_jane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out to lunch and get a bottle of wine and just talk with her.
Remember you have one thing in common, you love the same man!
Peace and Good Luck!
2007-04-17 13:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is your house that she is in, then just be polite and ignore her rules. She has no right to make rules for you at all. Stop this insanity now.
2007-04-20 23:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you appreciate her advice but would prefer something else.
2007-04-17 13:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by JM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋