Family & Relationships - 21 February 2007

I have been told by one of my close friends that i am wish washy. he say's sometimes he doesn't think i want to be happy because all i seem to do is pick fights even when it is un nessacary. i has that promblem in my last relationship to and it is so hard for me to trust people. I am thinking about taking some time out and just shutting out everyone to truly find myself. Does anyone else have some suggestions?? it seems no mater how good things get i am never truly happy.

2007-02-21 07:32:32 · 18 answers · asked by mama 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

just two months ago we were untouchable and had a sweet and caring relationship. we dated over 4 years but long story short he decided to chose something else over me (NOT another girl, a THING) and we broke up when i gave him an ultimatum unless he decided to change his mind.
i moved out, and we left on good terms. its been a month and im doing okay, im not crying or obsessing over whether or not he is out on dates or anything like that.... the only thing really bugging me is that he doesnt seem to miss me very much. the guy i swore i knew so well would have been calling everyday, showing up at my work, etc. but its like he just doesnt care.
even tho im thankful there is no drama, it makes me feel like what we had wasnt real....my mom always said if a guy really loves you, he will fight for you and do whatever he can to keep you in his life....
is it that he doesnt love me the way i thought he did or do guys just go thru break ups differently?? just curious

2007-02-21 07:31:52 · 4 answers · asked by plenymo 2 in Singles & Dating

always used to be the perfect student-straight A's all through high school. Then came college and pre-med.
Also, I have never had a b/f. In jr. high, I used to think, "It'll happen in high school." In high school, I used to think, "It'll happen in college." Now I'm on the brink of turning 21-It hasn't happened. Oh and friends? They always seem to have plans-with my roommate. This ultimately renders them too occupied to pick up the phone and invite me to their outings. Some friends, huh? If you look at my phone, in fact, you'll find the only calls I get are from mom & dad.
I'm just so scared that my life is going to be some mediocre joke, that I'll end up alone once my parents, God forbid, pass away, I'll be alone. I'll literally be the crazy old woman (old maid) who lives in a (mediocre) house, w/ a mediocre job (b/c she didn't make it into med school) full of cats. I don't even like cats! :( What do I do? I'm so lonely it hurts..

2007-02-21 07:31:46 · 1 answers · asked by abby j 5 in Friends

I don't have one right now(I'm 23 btw), but my parents are super nosy and overprotective about me and think they have to know every single thing in my life and give their opinion on it. They are really critical and judgemental. It just makes me nervous, and all I want to do right now is get to know a guy and have some fun and see what happens.

2007-02-21 07:30:37 · 20 answers · asked by Smiles 3 in Singles & Dating

This is my sisters name, we were seperated after our mother passed. Her maden name was Chunning, and she moved to Ohio with her father. She was married to A Robert Streets. The were from West Va.

2007-02-21 07:30:32 · 1 answers · asked by Geraldine W 1 in Family

I always used to be the perfect student-straight A's all through high school. Then came college and pre-med.
Also, I have never had a b/f. In jr. high, I used to think, "It'll happen in high school." In high school, I used to think, "It'll happen in college." Now I'm on the brink of turning 21-It hasn't happened. Oh and friends? They always seem to have plans-with my roommate. This ultimately renders them too occupied to pick up the phone and invite me to their outings. Some friends, huh? If you look at my phone, in fact, you'll find the only calls I get are from mom & dad.
I'm just so scared that my life is going to be some mediocre joke, that I'll end up alone once my parents, God forbid, pass away, I'll be alone. I'll literally be the crazy old woman (old maid) who lives in a (mediocre) house, w/ a mediocre job (b/c she didn't make it into med school) full of cats. I don't even like cats! :( What do I do? I'm so lonely it hurts..

2007-02-21 07:30:30 · 1 answers · asked by abby j 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-21 07:30:20 · 2 answers · asked by tigger 1 in Weddings

I wants to start a family and wants to know which state is the best for my future children?

2007-02-21 07:29:35 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was in a long term relationship with someone that I loved very much that I wanted to marry. She felt she needed to date around and hurt me very bad. In the meantime I have avoided all contact, started seeing a therapist, rediscovered myself, finding my identity before her, and beginning to lose that sense of attachment with her. The strange thing is everytime I start to heal, its as though she can sense it, by trying to send an email, calling me, to prevent the process. I do still love her dearly, and I'm a little confused, but for the first time I am beginning to lose the feelings I once had. It's a strange feeling, and I feel myself letting go. I refuse to reply, b/c I want to heal, make her feel what its like to not have someone there for them, and I am beginning to not care so much anymore. The question I had is its as though she knows the exact time when I start to lose feelings? Anyone experience that before?

2007-02-21 07:29:33 · 19 answers · asked by Need Answers 4 in Marriage & Divorce

if ur dating a guy but hes more like a friend and u feel like ur not even dating what should u do???

2007-02-21 07:29:12 · 7 answers · asked by Cassie C 2 in Singles & Dating

I had my bachelor party last weekend and my best friend showed up the next day with a camera in hand and showed all the photos to my fiance while explaining the nights events. Though most of the night was uneventful, there were four photos where the best man had arranged for a waitress or random girls to sit on my lap or sit next to me while a picture was taken. In the last photo, as we stood up to leave, the waitress gave me a kiss on the cheek and a hug. These photos were not well received by my fiance' and she is now threatening to postpone the wedding. I had no intention of hurting her and have been surprised with how much my actions have caused her grief. I have apologized to her for hurting her but it hasn't helped. Her father was at the bachelor party and from confirmed to her that the photos were innocent fun. Any advice on how to convince my fiance' that it was innocent bachelor party fun and not what to expect in the future?

2007-02-21 07:28:32 · 18 answers · asked by In Hot Water 1 in Weddings

i just broke up w/ my boyfriend 2 days ago beacuse i like some1 else....
i really want 2 go out w/ him but i dont no if it is weird 4 a girl to ask out a guy beacuse some ppl think so.b4 i was going out w/ my bf the guy i like liked me but now i dont think he does because i had a bf.im not afraid to ask him out but i just dont no if it would be werid.

help me!

2007-02-21 07:27:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Im the baby of the family and now im 18...My oldest sister is 32,and I have a 26 and 24 year old sister and 21 year old brother.All of my sisters have had children at a young age..I learned from them how hard it is to raise a child along the way...I just got married 2 months ago..And now people are trying to pressure me to have a baby..My sister said im selfish saying I want to wait to have a baby...And,others are saying so when is the baby due and different remarks like that...Why is it when you just get married everybody start implying you should have children??It shouldnt be considered selfish or odd to want to go out with your new husband and have fun...

2007-02-21 07:27:24 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

so i flirted back. he was in front of me. so what i did was i pretended to trip and fall on my knees to were he would see part of my boobs. do you think i made a wrong move. be honest.

2007-02-21 07:27:11 · 2 answers · asked by Kaitlyn A 1 in Singles & Dating

and you perceive that it is not being used for one now - what awesome purpose would you wish to have your life to be used for?

2007-02-21 07:27:04 · 5 answers · asked by lowroad 2 in Singles & Dating

i like is gonna go up to me and ask me out!! wow how should i react, i like him too but i don't wanna be like YES YES YES!!u know like all desperate and stuff...any advice??thanx..

2007-02-21 07:26:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

at the time, she didnt know him. But after i told her how i felt about him, they became very close. Now she has his phone number, his myspace and his adress. Plus she hangs out with him on the weekends. How do I tell her how I feel. I think it would be better if he approached her, but she approached him. And that was so messed up because i had just finished tellling her my feelings for him :(

2007-02-21 07:25:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I've always wondered how someone's first love/like effects who and what they like throughout the rest of their lives. I can say from expirience of what it did to me, but I'd like to know what it's done to other people (both sexes answer this please).

2007-02-21 07:25:49 · 5 answers · asked by Andrew H 2 in Singles & Dating

What's the worst feeling of these 2: to feel guilty or annoyed?
Let's say you are fighting with someone. So he or she is screaming at you. So what is worse? For you to scream back and then feel guilty or not to scream but to feel annoyed for the rest of the time?
lol I'm confused! I don't know what to think!

2007-02-21 07:25:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Turkey...

I made this one up. Please pass it on and let me know your opinion.

2007-02-21 07:25:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-02-21 07:24:53 · 21 answers · asked by leelee 3 in Family

isn't this wrong? i ask him and he says stuff like oh you did not do this or if u do this for me i will have sex...for example~ when he does not want to go to the store to buy his beer and makes me go he says if you do i might have sex w/u tonight~ i feel horrible!! i feel he punishes me by witholding sex if he can not get his way . i feel manipulated.

2007-02-21 07:24:40 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

me and my husband will be married for a year in april and im already feeling maybe we shouldnt be together. I'm 6 months pregnant so i know alot of this may be just my hormones but i cant help how i feel. My husband is a good man and takes very good care of me and my daughter, and is very excited about our son thats on the way. My problem is that he is never home. I know he has to work but he works 10 hour days and has been volunteering to work overtime for an extra 30 hours a week. I'm very lonely. I moved to this town when we got married and i dont know anyone so i have to rely on my husband for all social interaction. He works so much when he is home all he does is sleep and I feel like im losing my mind. I'm on bedrest so i never get out and i'm so lonely it is depressing me. what would you do? i know its not my husbands fault he has to work but he's making no time for me. He says we are married and live together so he doesnt need time for me we see each other every day!

2007-02-21 07:24:29 · 14 answers · asked by Crystal Woods 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Thank you in advance for your suggestions!

2007-02-21 07:23:22 · 20 answers · asked by Sofia Aleka 2 in Weddings

I caught him in 3 lies before this one. All things that I didnt care about if he only was upfront about it. Since he "lied" to me it just makes it worse. If he only took responsibility to pay them and was on time I wouldnt even care. Your credit is your lifeline if you want to have a nice house, car, things that you want, places you want to go. I told him if he doesnt straighten up we have no life together. What does he do again? lie right to my face about another stupid lie. He is divorced and has a 3 year old son. I have no kids of my own just 2 cats. Im 29. They live with me in my home I bought and paid for. I have excellent credit while his is shot. He does make good money. I dont want to marry a man that will bring me down to his level as soon as I share his name. I dont think I can do it anymore.....besides his ex is psychotic and his child already shows signs of growing into a brat because of his upbringing. Probably a blessing that I get out? anyone else in the same situation

2007-02-21 07:23:13 · 16 answers · asked by mizzkitty2778 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-02-21 07:22:46 · 8 answers · asked by Angelica 2 in Singles & Dating

In just a short term relationship I am perfectly fine, sweet ect.....
In a long term relationship i notice i get moody with the person, irritated quickly, and they bug me and sometimes i like to start fights with them just because i can..

I am now married and 1 year anniversary is march 16th and i love him to death i mean he is my world, he is everything to me but i still get this way with him, i get irritated, bugged, and moody with him and sometimes it's for no reason, then when we fight i feel really stupid and can't believe i act the way i do sometimes and i don't understand how he could sit their and take all the **** i give him..
Am i a messed up person?
Do all girls act like this?

I use to have very very bad anger problems but went to anger management for years and learned how to control my anger and was able to control it until now, it seems to be getting harder and harder to control my anger and their isnt even anything that's causing me to be angry..
any advice???

2007-02-21 07:22:30 · 8 answers · asked by Kasja 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-02-21 07:22:18 · 18 answers · asked by kristinjoshy 1 in Singles & Dating

Girls please advise;
I grew up with my best friend since grade school.
His sister has become the eventuality of a very good friendship over the years I've known her. But recently I've come to realize that I am utterly in love with her. About a year ago I told her that I liked her to which she reluctantly but sweetly responded that she saw me as a good friend. But recently we've been going out and having the time of our lives which to my response is " I can't relieve the strong feelings I have for her. "Flirting and the casual but ever so innocently touching games all become a factor of me thinking that she might feel the same way. I've known her all my life and she makes me think that if there is someone out there for everyone, She would be the one for me. What can I do about this frustrating situation????

2007-02-21 07:21:35 · 22 answers · asked by Gatumadre!! 1 in Singles & Dating

quality of hummer she gives me?

2007-02-21 07:20:59 · 13 answers · asked by SEAHAWKS P.O.ED 2 in Singles & Dating