Why do i act like this???

Question

In just a short term relationship I am perfectly fine, sweet ect.....
In a long term relationship i notice i get moody with the person, irritated quickly, and they bug me and sometimes i like to start fights with them just because i can..

I am now married and 1 year anniversary is march 16th and i love him to death i mean he is my world, he is everything to me but i still get this way with him, i get irritated, bugged, and moody with him and sometimes it's for no reason, then when we fight i feel really stupid and can't believe i act the way i do sometimes and i don't understand how he could sit their and take all the **** i give him..
Am i a messed up person?
Do all girls act like this?

I use to have very very bad anger problems but went to anger management for years and learned how to control my anger and was able to control it until now, it seems to be getting harder and harder to control my anger and their isnt even anything that's causing me to be angry..
any advice???

Answer 1

go c one of those ppl that sit u on the couch and u sit back and tell them your stories and stuff, those work usually. If u were physically/emotionally abused when u were younger that could be it.

Answer 2

Yes, I have some advice. Explain to your husband exactly what you have explained here, and also tell him sincerely that you are resolved to correct this defect in your character. Tell him you appreciate how he has been handling you so patiently up to now and ask him if he would be willing to help you change permanently for the better.

Then, here's what you do. Every single time you get into an argument, the *instant* you begin to feel stupid or to wonder if you are overreacting, STOP. Just shut up and count to ten. Then, apologize. Tell him you think it's one of those instances you told him about where you are overreacting or behaving badly just because you can, and tell him that you are sorry for doing it. Remember: do this every time you start a fight, and do it as soon as you recognize what you're doing, not an instant later.

And here is how your husband can help. Work out a signal between you, such as the "halt" sign (palm held forward), and authorize him to use it. Tell him to give you the sign at any time he recognizes that you are picking a fight for no reason. When you see your husband give you the sign, do exactly the same thing as above: STOP and apologize.

This technique is easy to implement. You will begin to see results immediately, but don't expect the behavior to go away for at least several weeks. Even then, there will be times when it starts to come back, but then all you have to do is implement the technique again. Eventually, assuming you are serious about improving yourself in this regard, your bad behavior will go away completely.

Answer 3

There is something deeper than just anger. Anger is a reaction or result of something else; possibly from the sub-conscience. The relationship issue could be a separate matter or it could be related to the same situation but it sounds as soon as you've labeled a relationship - you change with the label. I would talk to someone about the issue.

Answer 4

i act like this alot, drives my hubby nutz. I found the best remedy, was going out with my freinds once in a while, having more of a life. When im not bored alla time (im a stay at home mom) things go much easier, andi let the stupid lil things go

Answer 5

Go back to anger management. Also, some other form of therapy may be in order. No, all girls don't act that way.

Answer 6

what i would do is schedule at least 1 day/night a month that is just for you. either you go somewhere for the whole day and night or he does. that way you get what you want, more time just to yourself. if this does not seem to work start going to a counselor. you need someone to talk to. someone you can vent yourself on, not your husband or family.

Answer 7

My wife is just LIKE YOU. R u Sisters? It is very much worth taking her crap when it comes to making up. I love her to death and her quirks came with the "I DO". Good luck.

Answer 8

You have become a WIFE.

Good luck