Do women have some type of sixth sense when you are getting over them?

Question

I was in a long term relationship with someone that I loved very much that I wanted to marry. She felt she needed to date around and hurt me very bad. In the meantime I have avoided all contact, started seeing a therapist, rediscovered myself, finding my identity before her, and beginning to lose that sense of attachment with her. The strange thing is everytime I start to heal, its as though she can sense it, by trying to send an email, calling me, to prevent the process. I do still love her dearly, and I'm a little confused, but for the first time I am beginning to lose the feelings I once had. It's a strange feeling, and I feel myself letting go. I refuse to reply, b/c I want to heal, make her feel what its like to not have someone there for them, and I am beginning to not care so much anymore. The question I had is its as though she knows the exact time when I start to lose feelings? Anyone experience that before?

Answer 1

I don't know about the "sixth sense" thing, but it sounds like you are doing everything right - you're seeing a therapist, etc. and seem to be making great progress in getting over this person. Continue to see your therapist, and continue doing what you have been doing - ignoring her e-mails, and do not have any contact with her whatsoever. If you have contact with her now, you will "un-do" all the progress you have made so far, and you don't want to have to start all over at this point. If you continue to ignore her e-mails, etc. she will eventually get bored when you do not reply, and she will eventually stop. Hang in there and don't give up!.

Answer 2

I've had that happen to me several times with the same person. The last time was about 5 months that we were apart. I start to feel good and bam!, he's back. I think it's going to be different and try again but nothing changes. It's probably just sex, in fact I know it is. After 8 years of an off and on relationship not ONCE has he ever seen me outside a bedroom. I've asked, invited, until I was turned down so many times that I didn't ask any more. You need to face reality just as I did. It takes a lot of time and a lot of heartache. It's hard to imagine your life without this person and TRULY move on.

You say that you love her dearly. Well, that's not getting you anywhere with her and obviously she's not going to give you the loving relationship that you want when she is wrapped up in dating others.

I know it hurts badly to feel so much for someone who doesn't feel the same for you. Forget about the revenge and making her feel what you have felt. Stop being the "go to" person whenever she feels like it. Fill your life with the things you love to do and the people you enjoy being with. Don't let it sit empty waiting for her.

Don't do what I did. I was only 36 when I met this man and now I'm approaching 44. I think of where I might be now, the loving relationship I could have had, the companioship of someone who truly wanted to be with me, had I not focused my energy on him.

Answer 3

It feels weird to read your question and then wonder about the current situation with my ex. He and I broke up about 1 and 1/2 years ago, and since then I've been dating someone else. The reason he and I broke up wasn't because I wanted to date around or anything. It had to do with the fact that we had been together for around 5 years (lived together for almost 4), and things had gotten really messed up. Details are unimportant.

Anyway, I've been living with this other person for the past year or so, and I've sporadically kept in contact with my ex --not because I want to torture him, but because I really want to know how he's doing and, I admit, I miss him. I miss him very much. And I find myself wanting to talk to him and/or hear from him once in a while, even though I'm in another relationship.

He's accused me of something very similar to what you're describing right now: Of jumping back into his life just when he's started to pick up the pieces again. I REALLY don't do it on purpose. I honestly miss him. I don't tell him any of this, of course, because I don't want to hurt and/or confuse him. But I have to admit that if things were less complicated right now, I would probably get back together with him.

Next time she calls/writes, ask her why. Maybe you'll like the answer.

Answer 4

I would do whatever is needed to avoid hearing from her while you are healing. Change your email address, block her incoming mails, change your phone number etc..

It may sound a bit over the top, but you are in a healing process and you don't want things or people to stop that, there will be a time when you are fulled healed and won't have to worry about little things like that.

Answer 5

I have. This guy I had once been involved with started to just dissapear for certain reasons and as I started to get over him and move on, out of the blue he'd call or email or something. I was tired of playing games or him doing that, so I began to and continue to not get back in touch with them so that I can continue to do well. I don't wanna fall for him again, because that would be a big mistake. But it IS as if he does know the moment I truly feel nothing for him or something such as that, and he contacts me. Something going on, not sure what!

Answer 6

No we don't really have a sixth sense for these things and I've wondered at times if guys had this ability to. It just happens that she thinks of you around the same times as you are feeling better. You are doing the right thing not replying, it's best to just sever ties, Its a lesson learned. You would be even better off if you just deleted those emails or mark them as spam, that way her emails won't even make it into you inbox. Good luck just keep healing, you'll find someone better

furthermore I'll tell you what my mother told me when i was in the same situation: " A person who makes you cry isn't worth your tears, and a person who is worth your tears won't make you cry"

Answer 7

While it cuts both ways you're trapping yourself in a road to nowehre fantasizing about what could never be. Relationships take work and that begins with you being of sound mind knowing what you want out of a wholesome relationship then finding one worthy of your love and affections who shares your ideals and goals for a wholesome relationship.

Cutting off communication with your Ex might seem like satisfying revenge but in reality you're still holding onto something that was never worth the trouble. So, sit down and have an honest chat with your ex about how you feel then let go and move on to finding that special one who is worthy of your love and affections. We learn from our past but only the foolish allow themselves to be trapped and defined by it. Time to set yourself free cause there's a big wide world of joy awaiting your discovery of what it has to offer now that you've put your house in order.

Answer 8

She is playing games with you because you don't stop her.

She wants to date around, she does things to hurt you... why even give her the time of day? It don't sound like she is very loving towards you.

There are better women than her out there - go find one. Better yet, go out and just have fun. Date around, get to know people better before hitting the forever button.

Concider her a mistake that you caught in time. Thank the gods that be that you did not marry that and be happy.

Answer 9

No, they don't have a 6th sense. They just notice you haven't called, and are checking in to see if they can still mess with you.

So normally, I would say to not reply or anything like that, but here's what I suggest instead:

If she calls, tell her that for a while you thought you could be friends with her, but you have discovered she's not the kind of person you can be friends with because you just don't even like her one little bit.

If a friend calls for her, tel the friend that she's been stalking you and needs professional help and that you would appreciate their help in the matter.

For email: SPAM filter.

Answer 10

Yes. I have discovered that there are some people who do not want you but their egos do not want anyone to else to have you. I know it sounds a little sick but I have experienced this. Continue the journey that you are on without her in the picture. She wants to feel free to explore and date around and have you waiting in the wings. I t is not a healthy relationship for you and you definitely deserve someone who does not cause you such distress. Let her know that you have moved on and mean it no matter how she tries to string you along.