I don't have one right now(I'm 23 btw), but my parents are super nosy and overprotective about me and think they have to know every single thing in my life and give their opinion on it. They are really critical and judgemental. It just makes me nervous, and all I want to do right now is get to know a guy and have some fun and see what happens.
2007-02-21 07:30:37 · 20 answers · asked by Smiles 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand exactly what you are saying..... I have been there. I think when you find someone that you know is the one, you won't have any problem sharing it with your family. With that said, that doesn't mean mom and dad will be 100% open to the two of you - just know in your heart that you have to make yourself happy. But overall, I don't see a problem having a relationship that your parents are not aware of (in the initial getting to know you stage anyhow). Just take it at your own pace and listen to your heart and mind. Good luck.
2007-02-21 07:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 too, and I probably would tell my parents if I had a boyfriend even if it wasn't serious, but that's because I have a really close relationship with them. If my parents were super nosy and overprotective, I definitely would NOT tell them until it got serious, because I wouldn't want to deal with them if it didn't work out. You're 23, you're old enough to decide for yourself whether you share that information with them, don't let them pressure you. You're an adult now, in pretty much every sense of the word. They don't have any right to butt into every aspect of your life, and you don't have to listen to their opinions at all, especially if they're critical and judgmental.
2007-02-21 07:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by greecevaca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents are people too and habits are hard to break. They see you as their little girl and are probably still protective even though you're 23. They're critical and judgmental because that's their job as a parent but when you've moved out of the nest they need to lighten up and I would tell them your thoughts. However, don't do it in an offensive or aggressive manner. Good luck.
2007-02-21 07:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by Cdub 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
On one hand they should be supportive of their girl having a boyfriend. But probably arent since parents are psycho about thier daughters.
On the other hand, its her right to spend time with who she wants to, unless that interferes with her life in some way. For instance, seeing a boy isnt bad, but staying out till 3 am seeing a boy is gonna get you in trouble, so be smart and dont rock the boat, whatever you do.
Once it gets to the point of going out and having sex then they should know, even if you leave out the part about sleeping with the boy they should know you are seeing him.
2007-02-21 07:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by twilightinsanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie you are old enough to make your own choices,so not telling your parents about a boy who you are not sure of yet should be personally up to you! I think you should wait and see how things work out then break the good news to them,but like I said that is clearly up to you Hun! Good luck!
2007-02-21 07:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing for you to do is to get to know a guy before bringing your parents into the picture. Sometimes the parents can make a possible relationship worse.
2007-02-21 07:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by whitanay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a good question, but ur 23! It doesn't matter at this age! But if u feel that u need to wait before u tell them then go ahead, because parents do complicate relaionships with their negativity.
2007-02-21 07:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to place some boundries on your personal life it you were to ask..us..
you are a grown woman now with a need for privacy.. now that you are an adult would you ask your mom if your dad goes down on her still and how it is and what he does,,, NO!..and ewwwwwww!
okay.. a bit graphic.. so you see they have their privacy from you!. and you need to place some personal boundaries up to move on to having an adult relationship with them..pushy or not stand your ground an communicate to them ..or her.. that even if you were seeing someone it is non of their beeeezswax to know personal thing concerning your relationships with me... if you find someone serious.. then they can know it is, but no details draw a ling, maybe on paper to what they can know and where they are not allowed to go.. simply demand your respect as an adult and a woman!!
good luck sweetie!
2007-02-21 07:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by Derrick Zooolander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's healthy that your first develop a relationship with a guy before you tell your parents. It seems as though you need a little space from them and I would not feel bad not telling them. If things get serious, then it would be fine to tell them how happy you are.
2007-02-21 07:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by Sarina W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In this case, you are of age and your parents shouldn't need to know all that goes on in your life untill it is of nessecary importance. So I say, have you fun and figure out if he's for you.
Live life with no regrets,
Andrew
2007-02-21 07:38:33 · answer #10 · answered by Andrew H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋