Family & Relationships - 13 January 2007

There's this guy I like. He likes me, too. We're both in relationships and both unhappy, except we care for the people we're with.

I've been through more than enough hard times with my present boyfriend (cheating, lying, possessiveness..the list goes on). I love him, but I don't think I deserve this. I'm not even allowed to have friends without problems arising.

The thing is...I don't know if this guy (who likes me) is serious. I don't date that much (I've only been in two relationships) I don't want to jump into another relationship but I don't want to be his jump-off either (someone he calls when he needs some). He seems genuine, but who knows?

My bf & I have agreed that this isn't working, we've tried to fix things, but it never works. I don't want to give up on him, but it's taking a toll on me, btw, we've been together for about 2 yrs.

Anyways, I 'm really confused. I haven't had any "freedom" for a long time & he won't change (he's a traditionalist).What should I do

2007-01-13 02:50:09 · 7 answers · asked by p00mkin 2 in Singles & Dating

We have been together for 7 years and he has always wanted a threesome. About 2 years ago I cheated on him and he kinda feel that I owe it to him to set something up for him. I really would rather not do it (jealousy issues). But I feel like I kinda owe it to him too. Right now I am 8 months pregnant and he still asks about it. I really wanted a baby, so this was kind of a gift to me. Should I do it? And how would anyone find a person to have a threesome with (girl)?

2007-01-13 02:49:10 · 48 answers · asked by belly 1 in Marriage & Divorce

well teh thing is ye that i went out with thhis boy called Sean and i really liek him! we went out two times and now were gonig out again! he dumped hid gf for me again! and then he asked me out and i said i dunno cause the second time iwent out with him we ended up in a fight! but laster i sdaid yes! and he gt well happy! aNYWAY YE THIS GIRL CALLED bILLIE TOLD IHM TO START A FRESH PAGE AND FORGET ABOUT ME AND THEN SHE ASKED SEAN OUT BUT SEAN SIAD NO! and i got well annoyed weith her hwne i heard this! anyway,then on msn his ex told me that he told her that when he dumps me hes gonig to go back to her! and she todl me not to tell sean that she told me! andi dont know whats gonig on cause im just confused help me please!

2007-01-13 02:47:59 · 15 answers · asked by Sarah S 1 in Friends

My ex-husband and I are trying to negotiate custody of our 14 year old daughter. He is moving to another state and does not want to take her with him. She is sad and does not want to move and change high schools.

I tried to speak with him last night and he still thinks that the three of us should be together. I said I don't think that we should since we both have not changed and he still sends me nasty e-mails.

He says in his e-mails that I am selfish, dishonest, stubborn and should not be able to look at myself in the mirror after I have caused so much damage to the child. He also blames me for his Dad's death and I was not even in the same state with his Dad when he died.

My ex-husband claims that I did "something wrong" in his eyes and so deserve these nasty e-mails. I did promise to go back in Sept 06 and a few times before and changed my mind.

Do spouses routinely hurt one another if they do "something wrong"? It does not make sense to me.

2007-01-13 02:46:08 · 12 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Marriage & Divorce

i like this guy...bt i cht to him on msn....i also cht 2 him on the fone but some of my other m8s dnt no....one of my m8s is far distanced cuzin wid him...n the other one likes him bt doesnt admit....and the rest dnt lyk him dey think his lame.....but i like him and its difficult because my best mate is his cousin also i dont no if he lyks me n he dnt chat 2 me as much wen i first met him...help me plz....itz tearing me apart

2007-01-13 02:45:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

my friend, ill call her mandy (not even close to her really name) is really giving me and the rest of my friends a hard time. she purposly ditchs some friends for her boyfriend, i would know SHE TOLD ME IN PERSON! i want to be neutral and help her learn the easy way out rather then in high school where all my friend said she would be put in her place and i think you get my drift. i want to tell her, but she gets mad at me really easilly and you don't want to make her mad, we try to stay away from that. how can i tell, without hurting anyone, including herself?

2007-01-13 02:45:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

This is a long story. First of all is her home life. Her Mother has been married several times and all of her kids have different There are 6 kids. Mom has been in jail many times. On drugs and is an alcoholic cusses like a drunk sailor.This girl has two uncles in prison, her Father is in prison.Her sisters have children and not married.Her brother has gotten several girls pregnant and not taken care of the babies.This girl has been on Meth, Pot, LSD, and any thing she can get ahold of. She is not pregnant so my Nephue doesn't have to maarry her. He wants to give her a stable home live. She has never been to church. I and my Step-sister are afraid that with her home life she won't make a very good wife. She is very loyal to her family. even the uncle who is in prison for raping her when she was little.Whew! I know this sounds like a soap opera. But it is real life.I could like this girl if she would clean up her filthy mouth and dress like a lady instead of a hooker.

2007-01-13 02:45:09 · 12 answers · asked by Pamela V 7 in Singles & Dating

This is for those that have been married awhile

2007-01-13 02:44:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

apprently my girlfriend cheated on me some time ago, she denies everything, has always been trustworthy and i believe her when she says she hasn't, so why do i doubt her? and find myself losing trust in her?

2007-01-13 02:42:40 · 23 answers · asked by jimbob 1 in Singles & Dating

I should ask a guy who always looks at me then looks at something else then looks at me, ect

2007-01-13 02:41:43 · 5 answers · asked by Green With Envy 2 in Singles & Dating

I think I am going to go to a shelter. I hate my family i dont have any family and I am not working. Its hard for me to get a job without any office skills.I stay with my bf most of the time so I only go home to eat and shower. when I go home late or early in the morning my parents look at me funny. But they dont know that I hate being in there house. I rather be any where else then with them. They make me upset just the sight of them. Do you think going to a shelter is the best thing? Please no rude comments.

2007-01-13 02:41:10 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

ok, before all you broads start attacking me, they KNOW about each other, so I'm not a dog or a cheater.

But, they hate each other.

I'm trying to get them to like each other so I can bring them together and hang out with them at the same time. One of them is sort of cool with the idea, but the other one is absolutely not having it.

How can I get them to be cool??

2007-01-13 02:40:34 · 17 answers · asked by The Don 1 in Singles & Dating

See i have a stripper pole in my room. n one day my parent werent home so i called my bf so i can do some stripper stuff for him. Well he came over n told me if i can put a blind fold on n strip for him. So i di. So i was on my pole with the blind fold. He was yelling o yeah baby! Since i couldnt see he brought his bro with him in put him on my bed. THen he like come give me a kiss im on ur bed. So i did. I strated to put my legs around him n all that. i still had clothes. while i was doing that my boyfriend was laughing. Then hes like yo baby take the blind fold of. So i did n i found the the nerd was on top of me n that he had also tied me to my bed. Then they grabed my lipstick n drew all over me. But the thing is i made out with a nerd n every nows it. What should i do.

2007-01-13 02:39:47 · 15 answers · asked by LIza L 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-13 02:39:20 · 5 answers · asked by lowroad 2 in Singles & Dating

I am filing a W-7 for my step daughter. I do not have any documents to prove that she is my step daughter except my marriage licence. She does not have my last name. Can I use just that, or what else do I need to file the W-7?

2007-01-13 02:37:42 · 8 answers · asked by samuel k 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i have lost my friend in oxford the only thing i know is that she lives in oxford and i have her photo
can any body tell me what to do?

2007-01-13 02:37:36 · 10 answers · asked by ricardwallace 1 in Friends

this guy name jimmy he is awsome but he is sort of a tease but that doesnt change how i feel about him i love it when he flirts wit me but he has a gurl and he is not a player he just flirts wit other girls but mainly me i want to ask him out but i dont know if he likes me

2007-01-13 02:36:29 · 19 answers · asked by Yo-Yo 2 in Singles & Dating

Im getting one today and i dont know what they do.
DO NOT MISTAKE ME AS STUPID PLEASE !

2007-01-13 02:36:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

if you found a wallet with a large sum of money in it would you hand it in or keep it be honest... no i have not found a wallet just wondering what most people would do ????

2007-01-13 02:34:03 · 13 answers · asked by hurts so good 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

im wondering if my husband would have to sigh divorce papers for it to be final in a domestic violence sittuation i called legal aid a while back and she told me i would need his address so the papers could be sent to him i can't find out because i don't want to see him for my safety so how can i get his address

2007-01-13 02:33:38 · 14 answers · asked by sweetgranny06 7 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-13 02:33:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I know this girl, R last year back in march in my college. We were in the same intake. She was a bright student back in high school, proven by the straight As she has obtained in major examinations. Till college, her passion for her education has not fade. R is hardworking, a top student in the college, friendly and pretty of course. She’s my type of girl as we share a lot of things in common. music, food, style, the way we thinks so much that it scares me at timed. Through all this years, I have never met anyone like her before. chicks aren't rare here, so at first I thought I had a normal infatuation towards her, which seems to be normal for a guy towards such girl with such 'quality'. As time flies, the feeling I had for grown deeper and more serious. I have thought about telling her, but the problem is, she already has a bf. A bf that from me and my friends’ p.o.v, is a terrible bf. He flirts with lots girls (that made him rather notorious back in high school) and rarely brings her out. He could even tell her that he flirted with other girls. Knowing that only gives me more courage to tell her how I really feel about her. She takes me as her good friend, but at times, I feel as if she’s giving me hints. Yea, that’s even more tempting. Why wouldn’t I confess to her since everything is on my side? Cause I don’t want to risk our friendship for the sake of this risky confession. If I was being misunderstanding all the time and confess, she might be afraid of me and stay away from me. That, will only breaks my heart into thousands of millions pieces.
The whole college knows that we are good friends and some people even think that we are a couple. I admit that the misunderstanding that we are a couple can give me a twinge of joy at times. Her bf even has dissatisfaction towards me for being so close to his gf. Though we are just good friends, but what we does at times certainly look more intimate. Things those are too close for friends to do and not so far for lovers to do (in our young Chinese educated penangite community (ycepc))(#no hugging, kissing) But then, she remains protective most of the times. (She even rejected my invitation to go for a dinner at night during her birthday). Friends have been asking so much if we are only friends and we have even grown tired declining.
I am an average student, unlike her, she strives to be the best, and I strive to be average. That’s one gap which I feel is the hardest to narrow it. The beauty and the beast type of relationship is something that we (ycepc) thinks it’s hardly gonna happen, though it’s possible. Mostly, it’s the 2 good-looking opposite sex friends that creates the rumors and speculations. I have gotten use with the gap I have with her now, so is she. That’s how we are so close together.. as friends.
She applied to a university in Hong Kong which her parents claimed that it’s the best for her as it’s not as far and as expensive as those in UK or US. The news hit me with a thought of not having her beside me in the future, which then trigger a terrible depressing sorrow within me. That in turns gives me more courage to confess, as I heard in movies of how they define stupidity as “loving someone so much but do not dare to tell them how you really feel about them.” So right now, I am turning for more help and advice in any possible ways. Should I tell her or should I forget her? And I just CAN’T afford having to put our friendship in risk. Our friendship is one of the last things I want to gamble with.

2007-01-13 02:32:34 · 23 answers · asked by Aaron A 3 in Singles & Dating

me+my boyfriend got a ride over to a party last nite.Some guys that he knows but isn't really close w/ drove us. In the car, my boyfriend goes "Eww "that guy" is so gross for getting with "that girl" shes nasty." I go "um you kinda got with her last year." All the guys start laughing+go give me a high five. I didn't mean to be a *****, was I? For the rest of the night he barely talked to me and when i went to sit down next to him he said this seats reserved. Around 9, we had nowhere to go so we got dropped off at his house. He says come on lets go see that movie we were planning to see be4. We get into his car, and he goes "ok just a question why did you have to say that to those guys before? I don't get you somtimes, you completely embarresed me and made me sound stupid." I said im sorry i didn't mean to. he says y did u say it, i told him well u were being a ltitle hipocritical, and he starts yelling, calling me retarted... I was crying+everything, but i love him, wat should i do?

2007-01-13 02:32:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

You answer the door and she say's she is your daughter from a an affair way back. How do you tell your wife?

2007-01-13 02:31:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-13 02:31:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

how do you get a boy to love you

2007-01-13 02:31:11 · 21 answers · asked by imagtilltheend 1 in Singles & Dating

First I want to say that I am here with my friend (on her answers, because I don't have my own and haven't actually had any use for it up until now), but I want to know what I need to do.

Secondly, before I begin, I am not looking for someone to feel sorry for me or confirm any thoughts I may have.

Okay, I am engaged. I love this person more than anything in the universe. I want to marry him so much, and I am 150% sure that he does love (reguardless of some of the answers I'm going to get).

But last night, we had an argument. He lied about something. He didn't do anything terrible, but the fact that he lied is what sparked it all. I mean, trust is important, right?

Things progressed to the point where I was pushed, thrown, bit, kicked, threatened, smacked, etc. all because I demanded an explaination. I was absolutely horror struck....I couldn't even believe that something like THAT (that he did) could make him so mad. Today, I'm so sore.

I'm writing more..

2007-01-13 02:30:37 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

at a bar last night, got too buzzed, + started bein a dick to this girl. to my surprise, she got fed up, and kneed me. she gave me all the warnings, but you only see what you want to see sometimes . . .

it was the first time it ever happened to me, and it was the worst. instinctively i ended up on the floor, and of course it took me a while to get back up. the whole time, i had to listen to her freinds tell her how good a shot it was and how much i deserved it. so it sucked.

but it was almost like a religious experience too. here was this girl, just 5'2"ish, and i'm destroyed. i kind of felt like i did deserve it for underestimating her powers, and felt like wow, i;d be wise to never make such an underestimation again. and getting kicked in the nuts isn't like getting kicked in the knee - i felt like she exercized the power of a goddess. it seems insane, but i feel like i had a bad acid trip that opened my eyes to some unpleasant things that stillneed to be seen.

So whats it like for the girl doing the kicking? To me, it seemed like more pride/ amusement with my predicament. And its kind of sad, because it was a huge life experience for me,

2007-01-13 02:30:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok well me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years on and off. we got back together recently because he moved back to ny. it hasnt been going that well. i think hes cheating one me lol but idk hes weird. he start going to church like da hypocrite he is and made a friend there. a girl. so he has a phone thats under my name so ive been trackin his calls and everythin even checked his voicemail. well she apparently calls him a lot he be on da phone wit her a lot for like 30 or more mins and idk if all about god that they are talkin about. ima quote her last voicemail from yesterday, "hey babe its _____ just calling to c how u doing i get out of school at 5 so yea call me i miss you." now does dat sound like a friendship idk. honestly he doesnt even spend 2 mins on da phone with me n hardly sees me so i wonder. ive said enough before new years but im not really stressin it now i just want to kno if i should leave him or not. i love him but im startin to doubt his love.

2007-01-13 02:29:54 · 26 answers · asked by liz 1 in Singles & Dating

my friend is being really rude 2 my other friends by going up 2 them and telling them they look like nerds, and she keeps on saying she has this boyfriend, but the first time she told me about him, she didn;t even know how old he is... is she lying?

2007-01-13 02:28:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends