me+my boyfriend got a ride over to a party last nite.Some guys that he knows but isn't really close w/ drove us. In the car, my boyfriend goes "Eww "that guy" is so gross for getting with "that girl" shes nasty." I go "um you kinda got with her last year." All the guys start laughing+go give me a high five. I didn't mean to be a *****, was I? For the rest of the night he barely talked to me and when i went to sit down next to him he said this seats reserved. Around 9, we had nowhere to go so we got dropped off at his house. He says come on lets go see that movie we were planning to see be4. We get into his car, and he goes "ok just a question why did you have to say that to those guys before? I don't get you somtimes, you completely embarresed me and made me sound stupid." I said im sorry i didn't mean to. he says y did u say it, i told him well u were being a ltitle hipocritical, and he starts yelling, calling me retarted... I was crying+everything, but i love him, wat should i do?
2007-01-13 02:32:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dump him....
2007-01-13 02:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get out of there! If he can stand there and yell and call you names over something simple like that, then it can get worse. It starts somewhere with abusive relationships. You already know what you NEED to do! You know what he did with your last line was and WILL ALWAYS be UNACCEPTABLE. Find a man who is worth your time and love. By staying with this kind of behaviour you are telling him and everyone else around you that what he did is acceptable, and it isn't. By the sounds of it you are young. You and only you can make the decision but by leaving him the men who are respectful will come to you and not more immature, verbally abusive guys. Know this one thing people do actually sit down and talk about things and work things out without screaming and calling each other names. If what he did hurt you then your behaviour is different than his and you need to invest your time with a guy who can treat you kindly.
2007-01-13 02:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to get a hold on yourself.Personally,i wouldn't accept someone in a relationship calling the other names even after apologizing.Don't u think he's harsh on u?what u said was just a joke..u apologized..he should have got over it.Since he did not and u say u love him...perhaps u should try talking with him.Just explain to him why u said that(just to tease him perhaps?) and then tell him that no matter what, he shouldn't have called u names.A relationship is not just about love..but about understanding and respect too.U should not let anyone treat u that way.Make that clear to him.Just remember that life isn't over at anything.Don't break your heart over anyone.Take care and good luck:)
2007-01-13 02:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the way, what you said...it WAS funny...lol. I'm sure he was embarrassed, but he's the one who was with her! Don't worry about that too much. But you should worry about him calling you names, yelling at you and being an a*s in general. I'm guessing your really young...there are sooo many good guys out there that can take a joke and not call you retarded. Don't put up with that, no matter what the situation. Good luck!
2007-01-13 03:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by GraceSlickChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't beleave what I just read in your question. All this stuff and you still said you LOVE HIM. What is wrong with you. Red flags flying all around and you cant see what's wrong.Girl get a life.This boy is using you. I'v got a better word for you. Get some new friends befor you mess up your life..
2007-01-13 02:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by SAM M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this seems like just another typical relationship fight. He is upset because you embarassed him and your upset because he is upset. Just let things relax and everything will be ok. He obviously knows that you are sorry but he is just upset that you said that in front of "guys". Maybe you should take him to the movies and pay instead of him paying (if thats how you do things). Do something sweet for him to let him know your sorry. He was probably just doing what anyone does when they see someone they used to be with and thats degrade them.
2007-01-13 02:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by AiR 2 Breathe™ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Apologize. Men are sensitive about things like this. They don't want to be put down in from of the other guys. It's a macho thing. Tell him your sorry, that you didn't mean to upset him and that you won't do it again (but you will, we all do).
2007-01-13 03:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep away from him for a while. Think about how you treat each other and think about what you want from him. He shouldn't have been abusive after you said you were sorry.
2007-01-13 03:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't mean it but it was his "pride" at stake... that's why he called you names... he made you cry... ok, you love him.... but what if he starts hitting you+beating you up for mistakes? would you bare such a thing? /:) i think you're still young... there are many fish in the sea :D good luck with your decision %%-
2007-01-13 02:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by Flavia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't invest your heart too much in someone who calls you names.
Second, he probably didn't want anyone to remember that he was with a skank, she probably hurt him.
2007-01-13 02:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep you mouth shut
2007-01-13 03:05:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋