apprently my girlfriend cheated on me some time ago, she denies everything, has always been trustworthy and i believe her when she says she hasn't, so why do i doubt her? and find myself losing trust in her?
2007-01-13 02:42:40 · 23 answers · asked by jimbob 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No trust, no relationship...Either you have to find proof or let this go...If you cant, you must end this...
2007-01-13 03:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A good reason would be because you were told it, planted the seed of doubt. What you need to do is try not to worry although its gonna be hard because you wanna believe in your heart that she hasn't cheated.
If you were desperate to find out you could try tricking her into telling you by pretending that u are cheating on her, be careful though it could backfire.
Other than believe your gut instinct I really dont know what else to suggest.
2007-01-13 10:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are more unsecure than women.
Trust is hard to get back but the only way you can trust her is to let her do things on her own- dont text or bell her every 2secs so she'll know.
why not spend a weekend away together. get to know eachother again and what they like doing.
its hard to trust one again after hearing that but if you cant do it then you shouldnt be together.
just be cool and let her do normal things she'd do and see what happens-. there are alot of spiteful people out here who'll do anything to split one up. if anything she should be giving you reason to trust her.
if i was in her boots id think that i'd have to just be normal and nothing changes. if she has done anything, she'd have changed the way she scts now that oyu know or even decided to spend more time with you. its all signs of guilt. so if you've noticed any changes she is prob feeling guilty about something.
2007-01-13 10:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off - who told you this or how did you come by this info!
Always treat someone else's word with sceptism and distrust!
Perhaps the person that told you has a gripe against her or has an ulterior motive for stirring up this mistrust!
Unless you are absolutely positive that she is not telling you the truth - disregard the comments!
It sounds to me that you are not actually doubting her, you are doubting yourself for some reason!
2007-01-13 10:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by jamand 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once the trust is gone, its gone. There is not getting it back. People try hard sometimes, but its always in the back of there mind. Why live your life like that, plenty of honest people out there. Women you can trust. Shes not worth the time or day.
2007-01-13 10:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by notalucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who told you that she "cheated" on you? Look at the quality of that relationship as opposed to the one that you have which is more trustworthy? If you keep doubting-you will eventually lose her.
2007-01-13 10:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by singsong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok heres a girls point of view of how she probally feels,
She probally knows that u're starting to lose trust in her because of what you thought happened. Every girl knows that when i guy loses trust in her it may end soon!!! you only doubt her because you don't want to get hurt again, and neither does she. Also you find yourself losing trust in her because you want to be sure that she didn't lie to you. Get ur facts straight and only hope for the best!!!
good luck
Kelse
2007-01-13 11:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by Kelse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the important thing is that she's not cheating on u now.. people make mistakes and we should forgive them sometimes.. its human.. i think your doubting her becuz u care and u worry about that. anybody would in your situation... find out if she's still cheating on u.. if she is, then i think you should let her go. u deserve more than that.. but if she's not than juz put the past behind and try to move on.. real true love can withstand anything.. don't lose hope.. good luck..
2007-01-13 10:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by syahidah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just human nature. you love and trust her, but something in you tells you not to, so you don't get hurt. i've been in a relationship where trust has been there even though lies have been told and discovered. just figure out how you feel and if she had cheated, would you take her back?
2007-01-13 10:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stay with someone you can't trust, even if you don't really know for sure she was cheating on you, somehow deep inside you really do know. Go with your feelings and you will find someone who you don't have to worry about for the rest of your life everytime she wants to "go out with her friends".
2007-01-13 10:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by meansawbean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somehow the human mind just seems to know. most wives know it when their husbands are hiding something, and visa versa. they just hope that it changes, and usually it does. but things are usually never quite the same. its a type of abuse that cause many many killings, and its a shame that people are so proned to that sort of thing. but you could be over reacting. she is just your girlfriend, you havent married her yet. but if you still have doubts, hire a private investigator, then set her up.
2007-01-13 10:50:57 · answer #11 · answered by whohsaltheanswrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋