Hate family should I go to shelter????

Question

I think I am going to go to a shelter. I hate my family i dont have any family and I am not working. Its hard for me to get a job without any office skills.I stay with my bf most of the time so I only go home to eat and shower. when I go home late or early in the morning my parents look at me funny. But they dont know that I hate being in there house. I rather be any where else then with them. They make me upset just the sight of them. Do you think going to a shelter is the best thing? Please no rude comments.

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Thats the reason why I try not to stay there I dont like it. Actually I never did like since I was younger. I am trying to get a job but its hard. Retail jobs wont pay rent. Me and my bf trying to get a place but its taking a little longer. If I were working it would be better. He got enough for a place but I want to contribute aswell but no one would give me a chance at a good office job. So I figure shelter it is.

I nevre liked my mother she always say neg things to me nothing encouraging, always loose weight your fat- oh dont eat sweet you get pimples ( she was embarrased to walk with me) - are you a prostitute, ect. things mothers wouldn't normally say to there kids. but never nothing to my brother always me. If I dont go to church you wont get your blessings. My brother and father dont even go to church.

she always say to me if she was to live her life over she wouldn't have kids so how am I supposed to act towards her with love?? She told me things over the years that mad me hate her and everyone else. Even the neighborhood. Honestly she is driving me crazy. I just need to get away from her

Answer 1

You hate your family? I won't even bother with asking how old you are because you are entitled to your emotions no matter what age you are.
Why do you hate them? How big is your family and do you hate them all? Dad? Mom? Siblings? ... Pets??
Do they neglect you? Abuse you in any way? Dismiss you as if your input is invalid? Do they ask you how your day went, you know, show an interest in your life? Do they at least tell you from time to time that they love you?

If you are experiencing some form of abuse (and it doesn't always have to physical) then you need to leave. If a shelter is your only option then a shelter it is. But most states sponsor some kind of a half-way house program that you might want to look into.

As far as my questions as to why you hate your family... you might want to switch those around and ask yourself... do you abuse them, neglect them, ask them about their day.... or tell them from time to time that you love them?

Have you tried talking to them? If not, why not? If so, how often? Family issues aren't solved overnight.

Don't be afraid and quit running away from your issues. Face them. Deal with them... or you are gonna go through life hating more than just your family.

Good luck

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Answer 3

Are U old enough to be on ur own? If so, go be on ur own. U will have to get a job, skills or not, and a place to stay. Shelters have a limited amount of room and they all have rules and regulations. U may not be eligible to stay long term. I think U should spend more time studying and looking for a J-O-B. Good luck.

Answer 4

I would say you left out a really important factor. WHY do you hate them? Is it just because they won't let you do exactly what you want to do all the time, or is it because they truly abuse you?
If the worst they do is look at you funny,then you really need to grow up, and have an adult talk with them about what problems you are having with them. In a calm, adult, non-dramatic non-yelling way.
Unless they are abusing you in some way, running away would be so incredibly mean to do to your parents. Everyone gets annoyed by their parents, but hate is very harsh. What did they do that was so horribly mean to you?

Answer 5

Honestly hon, unless you're being abused or something you really shouldn't go to a shelter. You think you're family's bad? This would be 20 times worse. Is there any way you could stay with your bf or his family? Or another friend? I would only utilize the shelter if I was in dire straights!!

Good luck to ya.

Answer 6

first of all, how old are you? I think that if you are under the age of 18, I think you should sign up for Job Corps or if you are over the age of 18, I think you should go to a shelter, let them help you with getting some type of assistance because I think family or no family, life is too short to be STRESSING especially over something dumb.
If I was in your shoes, that is what I will do

Answer 7

have you ever lived in a shelter?? I have and its worse than living at home you will not have the freedom to do what and whatever you want to do maybe your parents are just concerned about your safety with being out all night just where you are and who you are with you do not say how old you are but I'm thinking you could be a teenager parents know how the world works and are only trying to keep you safe and secure you all need to talk with each other not accuse each other of faults but just try and talk it out your parents will listen I know i had a teenager who went her own way at 16 to live with her boyfriend and his family she ended up sleeping with him. his dad. and his brother. But she would not listen to me and now she doesn't know who is the true father of her daughter. My father was old world italian. His rule was if you put your feet under my table I have the last word in the house. It worked for all of us He allowed me to state my case to him but he still had the last word

Answer 8

First, your age, whatever it is, is important here. If you are of legal age, then get a job first and then move out. Or go to college. You sound very young. I would go live with a friend or relative before I would go to a shelter. Do you have a car? If you don't work, where do you get your money? From your parents???????? How can you hate your family if you never there? You might be surprised - they may be anxiously waiting for you to leave.

Answer 9

It's hard to give advice on this little bit of information. A huge question that I have for you, is how old are you?

Leaving isn't the best resolution for you. Honesty can be so helpful. Ask your parents to sit down and talk with you. Discuss how you are feeling - calmly and without emotions - maybe, by airing your "grievances" so to speak and by hearing THEIR point of view, you can all come to a conclusion on how to resolve things.

Your family is your whether you like it or not. It's best to try to work through your problems.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Well being that I am a parent and you only come home to eat and shower, early in the morning or very late at night, Yes I would be looking at you funny, expectually if you didn't have a job..I am trying very very hard not to be rude!!!! But do your parents a favor and move...They deserve better from there Kids. I would shovel sh!t to support myself....How dare you go home and eat there food and use there water and elect. to shower, you are ungrateful.. and deserve to be in a shelter...... and your family is just looking at you funny!!!!!!! shame on you!!!!!!!! I am glad you are not my child, better yet, you be thankful that I am not your parent...