Family & Relationships - 4 January 2007

hi again ladies,
well i got a question for the ladies and the men even, my gal has decided she wants to be best friends with benifits but is terrified of commitment , she loves me (wich i know to be true) but wants to be free to live a life of her own choosing and see me occasionally and be the best of friends with life but also sleep together, she calls it kiss- keep it simple, she can not and will not want a difficult time as we have been thru enough as a couple.
how can a guy who wants to spend his life with her settle for second best with a woman that cant commit?, and why do women fear commitment when at the same time they want to feel safe and loved? how should i treat the situation so i dont frighten her away, which is the last thing i want to do.. any advice??

2007-01-04 15:38:16 · 8 answers · asked by Shaun 1 in Singles & Dating

It seems like since our son was born, thats all my husband and I do anymore.. tell me we're not the only ones. :/

2007-01-04 15:38:12 · 17 answers · asked by ... 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend who i live with. Well we live with his grandparents just broke up with me. I had a bad misscarriage 3 weeks ago and now he has decided that he doesnt know if its true love and doesnt want to be making a mistake. He wont tell me for sure he just says i need time dont move out but he wont even give it a chance and work on it he just wants me to still live here and wait on him to make up his mind. Not to mention he still expects sex and says well better i get it from you than someone else. Is this fair to me or should i just leave for good?

2007-01-04 15:35:36 · 16 answers · asked by colesmama118 1 in Singles & Dating

My friend has a crush, who likes me (showed some obvious signs). I have mixed feelings for this guy. He is cute and nice, but my friend doesn't know he likes me. What do I do?

2007-01-04 15:34:52 · 2 answers · asked by hello 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-04 15:34:50 · 9 answers · asked by leslie s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He's 43, been divorced 8 years, and has a 10 yr old son. I asked him how long he was married, and he said "six, maybe eight years. I don't remember." Is this odd? Don't most people remember exactly how many years they were married? Has anyone gotten this type of response before?

2007-01-04 15:34:35 · 14 answers · asked by Rose of the Valley 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 and a half years, and his parents used to be pretty nice to me. Lately, though, they have been really rude to me, not inviting me places and acting like they don't want me around. It's causing a lot of problems between him and them. Do you think we can survive with them hating me? It's nothing I did; I've acted the same way all along.

2007-01-04 15:33:34 · 12 answers · asked by angry 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-01-04 15:32:51 · 21 answers · asked by Huh? 5 in Singles & Dating

ok so heres some backround.. i hooked up with this guy for almost two month.. nothing but kissing.. i thougth we really liked eachother .. well at least i really liked him.. but i figured he liked me back bc who would stay with someone that long and just hookup.. anyway so i go to a bar one night with a friend get really drunk and sleep at this guys house with her... even though nothing happened we got into a fight and stopped talking.. no later that happened i found out he was talking to someone on myspace a few days before... after we stopped talking he went out with her!! after two months of them together she tells him shes going away to college and they break up.. coinsidently me and him start talking again and he claims hes done with her and still really likes me.. idk wut to belive bc we were tlaking the other night when she called and he totally avoided her... does he still like me? if he does am i suposed to get back with him or is that just like being the door mat.. help =]

2007-01-04 15:32:23 · 4 answers · asked by xoditzxo 1 in Singles & Dating

I am 9 and using this with my mom and dad's supervision.
I have a "friend" in my class that really bugs me, but I don't want to make her mad at me so I put up with her. My mom says "keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer". Sometimes I don't like to keep this person closer....what do you think of my moms advise? Does anyone have any other ideas how to deal with this bully?
THANK YOU!
p.s. please remember that I am 9 years old and not really into yucky language and stuff. Thank you!

2007-01-04 15:32:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

she is 15 and ill be turning 18 on jan 12...she says she loves me and that she has never said that to anyone before (not even her mom) and she also said "im going to be 100% honest here... i want to be your wife, the mother of you children, grown old with you, until death do us part", she said she has also never said that to anyone before and i am sooo amazing...should i take her seriously and trust her?

2007-01-04 15:32:13 · 14 answers · asked by BoSox 007 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

does any one have family members that try to keep you down? every time you come around they ecnore you or try to find some you do wrong. well thats my family when try just say im not coming around any more the blow up phone what should i do

2007-01-04 15:31:56 · 4 answers · asked by raquel j 1 in Family

Are there any guys here who wear a hard or soft cup with their underwear/jockstrap everyday?

2007-01-04 15:30:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-01-04 15:29:59 · 7 answers · asked by qwerty 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

well it might help if most of my girls weren't friends but most of them i just hang out with because there nice and i don't wanna hurt there feelings....... so what do u do when they start falling for u and saying they think ur the one they've been looking for?

2007-01-04 15:29:41 · 6 answers · asked by Doc h 1 in Singles & Dating

I've been w\ my bf for 3 and a half months tonight. But the past few days he talks about his ex gf. He's 17. I'm 15. He doesn't seem like the guy that will cheat. But I've been cheated on so much IDK what to believe anymore. I trust him and all. But I still wonder. I know him and his ex are friends. But when he says he's going to her house at 3:00 after skating my suspicsion begins to rise. How should I ask him? What shall I do?

2007-01-04 15:28:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm seeing this guy but he just wants to be casual about it. We are attracted to each other sleeping together but are not in an exclusive r/ship. Well my ex-bf kept calling me on my cell phone when I was with this guy. I didn't answer the phone. The guy was getting annoyed that my ex kept calling and I said I should call him back and he didn't want me to.

Was he being unreasonable?? Is he jealous?? If this is truly just a Friend with Benefits situation he shouldn't be trying to get in the way of mine and my ex's r/ship, right??

2007-01-04 15:27:36 · 7 answers · asked by bellyyo62 1 in Singles & Dating

I broke it off with a guy I was with for only 8 mo. last spring b/c it was long distance and I have a BZ schedule but I happen to get into school not even 15 min. away from him so I wanted to try and make it work ( we kept in touch) and I moved here in Aug. I even stayed with him for a week when I got here but what i did not know then is that he did not trust me and I guess I really hurt him so being a typical guy he was being mean so I backed off, so by doing that he thought I used him. We been out a few times but he seems distant not like he used to be. I really want to be with him and I mailed him a card with a letter today telling him how I felt about our situation but waiting for days to past became to intense I have called him twice in the last hr he didnt answer but I changed my # mon. so he MIGHT just not be answerin b/c he doesn't know the #. Should I back off completely move on. Shall I mention that he doest answer my calls sometimes. Im really confused bout what he wants

2007-01-04 15:27:36 · 11 answers · asked by *sexy mocha* 4 in Singles & Dating

i have been seein a friend of mine for a couple of weeks.... i liked her two yrs ago but things were different so she didnt open up to me. after two yrs that she was gone, we wmet back up and hit off right away. after a few phone games stuff between us started happenin, and it feels like we aree gettin closer. now, she said early on she had commitment issues, which i understood and althou it bothered me i stuck around. ..shes been opening up to me more, however theres always this barrier that she has....its like shes been givin mixed signs, and she knows how much i like her, and even got to the point of asking what are we? i told her idk b/c she originally said she didnt want anything serious and i understand if thats the way itll be. but now im confused, i still like her alot, i feel shes into me, but i am fed up of the mind games. should i walk away? i been ignoring her calls today and i think if somethin is goin on im about to blow it.

2007-01-04 15:26:48 · 10 answers · asked by wizzpack 2 in Singles & Dating

Hello, I need advice on something that is really bothering me and that can't talk about openly. What is happening is that I went out with this girl that had just broken up with her boyfriend, and I only lasted about a month with her and then broke up. Everything went fine, we were both alright with it. The problem comes when her ex-boyfriend (now boyfriend again) shows up at my soccer practice one afternoon to "visit" some of his old friends (he dropped out of school since last year). A supposed friend of mine told him that I was the one who took his girl away from him, so he came up with me and told me that if I ever got close to her again he would kick my ***, then I told him to basically go to hell.

That's done and no fight came out of it, but the thing is that now I'm not feeling safe. This guy besides known for doing drugs, dropping out of school, and being a total disaster, is also known for being very violent.

2007-01-04 15:26:21 · 9 answers · asked by Namas yo 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Why are men so good at phoning a girl when she acts disinterested and then when she finally admits that she is attracted to him and begins calling him she finds herself just getting blown off for her troubles? I know that perhaps some women are guilty of the same thing, but really... Do they just want us to play hard to get forever?

2007-01-04 15:26:10 · 21 answers · asked by GreySkies 2 in Singles & Dating

weird things have been happening around my house...and everytime they happen..no one is with me...so when i tell someone it always sounds like i'm making it up! should i just stop telling people...or should i try to make sure people are with me whenever it happens?

2007-01-04 15:25:17 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been dating my bf for a year, but our sex life is blah..I mean, its ok and fun, but its not really that exciting. I have never tried on top and told him I wasnt comfortable with that position yet, but that was like 6-7 months ago when we first starting being "together". Also, before him (and still now) I have very LITTLE experience with anything. Well, lately I have tried to give him hints about me wanting to "take charge" but he just laughs and says "you will never do it- so just stop"..its really discouraging me! So I was thinking, since I will be with him this weekend, should I just surprise him, climb on him and go at it? Or would that be a bad idea? Like would he laugh at me? I dont think he thinks I can be 'dominant' if you know what I mean, but I want to show him I can. I just dont want to risk embarrasing myself. What should I do?

2007-01-04 15:25:12 · 22 answers · asked by HlpMePlz 2 in Singles & Dating

It was pretty funny the first time we did it. She doesn't know why she does it. It didn't happen with her ex.

2007-01-04 15:24:58 · 8 answers · asked by algorithm 1 in Singles & Dating

I have never had an virtual close friend.I help them zealously when they meet with difficulties but all the things I receive from them are betrayal or taking advantage of me.Besides,when I meet with difficulties ,they seem to not want to help.What should I do now?

2007-01-04 15:24:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My father and my brother died in November. Although I know they are in a much better place and feel them with me everyday. I miss them so much and cannot get over the saddness that overwelms me. HELP

2007-01-04 15:24:12 · 11 answers · asked by jerseygirl3510 2 in Family

It sounds like a stupid question. I met this girl a few weeks ago, and everything has been going fine, up until last friday. Anyways, tonight she has told me that she doesn't know what she wants. She has had a bad week, and i do know why, but i would rather not say. She has said that her head is in pieces, and she doesn't know what she wants, and doesn't want to hurt me. She said she doesn't want to make the mistake of calling it "quits" now, and just being friends. Up until last week, we have been fine, its only this week. She then suggested that we talk about it next week, when she is "herself". My question is, when she told me that she wants to call it quits, and just be friends, i started crying. Why? I have only known her for 4 weeks, but i felt so comfortable around her. I want to know what you think i'm feeling? Why am i so upset about us potenially just be being friends? It has nothing to do with sex. Oh, and by the way, I'm a 19 year old male.

2007-01-04 15:24:04 · 8 answers · asked by Demps87 2 in Singles & Dating

Space for what? What do women mean when they say they need space?

2007-01-04 15:23:33 · 18 answers · asked by Tunasandwich 4 in Singles & Dating

Ive known this girl for about 3 weeks now and i told her that i like her and she told me that she liked me as well. She asked me You dont want a relationship right?" I responded by saying that i wouldnt mind one and she said she would think about it over winter break in college. During break she always wanted me to hang out with her but it was kinda far of a drive. She saw her ex over break who still wants to get back with her. She origanally told me that she didnt want to but now after she hung out with him she is considering it. She doesnt want to be with me know because she still has feelings for him. But then she went on to say that she likes me but it is just wrong timing. She also told me that when she is at school her feelings for him fade. When we get back to school if she brings any of this up should i tell her how i still feel and that i think i rushed things and tell her that i would still want to get to know her better if things dont work out with her ex? HELP!

2007-01-04 15:23:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my wang is about 7 inches and when errect cant fit through a toliet rols..a test I read about in Maxim. nearly every girl I slept with has these crazy reactions going out of their way to say its big, huge..yadda yadda..I watch porn all the time and I seem pretty avg at best....I am really big or do women just go out of their way to say that every time? I have never asked any girl about my size..they always comment. Tell me am I big or aveg?

2007-01-04 15:21:54 · 15 answers · asked by zigzag 2 in Singles & Dating