I've been w\ my bf for 3 and a half months tonight. But the past few days he talks about his ex gf. He's 17. I'm 15. He doesn't seem like the guy that will cheat. But I've been cheated on so much IDK what to believe anymore. I trust him and all. But I still wonder. I know him and his ex are friends. But when he says he's going to her house at 3:00 after skating my suspicsion begins to rise. How should I ask him? What shall I do?
2007-01-04 15:28:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, you're 15 so (and I'm sorry to say this) he probably isn't the guy that you're going to spend the rest of your life with or anything. Tell him you're sick of him talking about his ex all the time, and that he should spend more time with you and less time with her. If he doesn't like it tell him to get lost. You're young, you'll get over it, and there's a lot of other guys out there, who arent' obsessed with their exes.
2007-01-04 15:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ashleigh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But I've been cheated on so much...............MY question to you is why do you stay in a relationship that hurts you?
I know you don't like it or do you?
Kick the problem to the curb. Your young and have your whole life in front of you. Your experiencing the young love blues and that will fly away, but it hurts sometimes because we as humans have feelings.
We need love and care and when we get it, we get attached very quickly to it no matter where it comes from same sex or opposite sex.
Love is a major role in relations, but you must be about something to cast out what is not needed and keep what is sufficient for you.
Since your young, your going through the trials. It's going to be alright.
This is a learning lesson and a learning device of relations that how you handle this will determine how you handle future relations and when you get older to make good decisons, don't be cruel, but understand and execute your divinty of love and hook what is right for you!
Words of wisdom...a soft heart leads to a hard asss.
2007-01-04 23:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't go off chasing after him or spying, this only tells him you are very insecure and immature.
Start thinking positively about your relationship and banish the negative thoughts! This is not healthy nor is it helpful.
Accept the fact that you do not know his every move, you are insecure, a little confused, and young. Give yourself some credit for taking the plunge and giving your heart to someone. It is the first step in growing up and learning about caring for someone.
Take it one day at a time. Be the best person you know how to be. If he strays or wanders off, he isn't right for you. There will be other people who will appreciate who you are.
2007-01-04 23:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the best policy. Tell him your concerns. Remember delivery is key. Ask him in a way that won't put him on the defensive. Maybe you can ask to come along one day and see his reaction. Always keep it honest and never play the role of the jealous girlfriend. It just makes things worse. good luck!
2007-01-04 23:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be open and honest with him, tell him how you feel. tell him that you do trust him but it does make you a bit insecure that hes seeing her because you think that he might still have feelings for her. just be honest and talk to him, youre in a realationship with him and he already likes you and the key to make a realtionship work is communication. so just tell him how you feel. good luck.
2007-01-04 23:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by So in love. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun you have to ask him strait out i know that it has only been 3 ina half months but you never know so do us all a favor ask him
2007-01-04 23:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by angel tears 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋