Class Bully?

Question

I am 9 and using this with my mom and dad's supervision.
I have a "friend" in my class that really bugs me, but I don't want to make her mad at me so I put up with her. My mom says "keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer". Sometimes I don't like to keep this person closer....what do you think of my moms advise? Does anyone have any other ideas how to deal with this bully?
THANK YOU!
p.s. please remember that I am 9 years old and not really into yucky language and stuff. Thank you!

Answer 1

Hello, sadly many people young and old have to deal with bullies. You are wise to ask others for opinions in helping to solve you problem.

I think perhaps one way to approach bullies is to smother them with kindness. Sometimes niceness can be catching and it may change the bullies attitude. This doesn't always happen but what is really important is that you don't let other people make you into something you are not (mean). You can not really control the bully but you can control how you will react to how you are treated. If kindness does not do the trick and you really feel bad because of the other persons actions you might want to speak with your teacher. Sometimes people are mean and bully because there are things going on in their lives (and their families) which causes them to hurt or gives them feelings which are difficult to express and what makes them feel better is by making everyone miserable like they are. Wouldn't you feel bad if someone didn't have nice parents like yours and instead their mom and dad were really mean to them, or what if the bully didn't have nice clothes and toys because their family was poor. That might make someone grumpy. Sadly there are people in life that are just plain cranky no matter what. I try extra hard to be nice to such people, in doing so I feel better.

As far as you mothers advice I think it is more fitting for an adult, sometimes our enemies act, speak, and look like our friends but they really don't love or care for us. I think it is important to love you enemies, in my home my daughter and I pray specificaly for our enemies. It is easy to love people that are nice but it is much more difficult to love people that are not.

Good luck, that you are asking this question leads me to believe you will do the right thing and it will all work out.

Answer 2

I remember being bullied by a girl in my class in grade 4. It is hard when the person bullying you is in the same class, because you do have to be around them alot of the time. I think you mum is right to a certain extent - you don't want to lash out at her or get too angry, as you have to see her everyday; but I don't believe you have to be nice to her either. Tolerate her and ty to ignore her comments, but if she is really bugging you, go and chat with the teacher (not the easiest thing to do) but it might be necessary.

Answer 3

Sometimes the thing with "bullies" is that they either have low self esteem and they bash on other people to feel better or they feel threatned by others and again try to lash out at that which they feel threatened by or lastly they are so out of touch with who they really are even though they "think" they are all that. in reality there is not much going on inside of them except harsh or hurting emotions. If im right i believe that your mom would hope for you to be the "love" in the world that makes it a better place to be and that you have the power to lead by positive example instead of giving in to a bulliy mentality. i feel for you and wish you all the best, and should you choose to "be love" i thank you for making the world a much better place to be.take good care

Answer 4

I know about bullies. they usualy are having a hard time in some area of there life, whether it is home or school or some other area. She may not have any friends and you could be that friend that change's her life, her attitude, outlook on life.

Mabe could she be feeling left out.

I remember when i was about your age, it was when the Cabage Patch Kids first came out in 1983 and every one wanted one. including me and my friends.

Well half my friends got one and the other half didn't. I didnt so we all sort of picked on the ones who did and they picked on us. It made life miserable. Untill my mom dragged me to one of those who had ones birthday party and we made up then and life was easier then

Answer 5

There’s a lot to be said for keeping your enemies close!

Is the girl actually bullying you or is it more that you just find her irritating?

Answer 6

Listen to Mom and love your enemy as you would love yourself. If you're nice to this person they will very likely respond. Look for the good and accept the bad.

Answer 7

I think if she is bugging you then you should tell her when she is bugging you she might be mad at you but i bet she will get over it

Answer 8

i think u should tell this bully your problem and ask him not to trouble you......maybe this friend of yours doesnt even know that you get bugged by her.don't make her your "enemy", she can still be your friend!