It sounds like a stupid question. I met this girl a few weeks ago, and everything has been going fine, up until last friday. Anyways, tonight she has told me that she doesn't know what she wants. She has had a bad week, and i do know why, but i would rather not say. She has said that her head is in pieces, and she doesn't know what she wants, and doesn't want to hurt me. She said she doesn't want to make the mistake of calling it "quits" now, and just being friends. Up until last week, we have been fine, its only this week. She then suggested that we talk about it next week, when she is "herself". My question is, when she told me that she wants to call it quits, and just be friends, i started crying. Why? I have only known her for 4 weeks, but i felt so comfortable around her. I want to know what you think i'm feeling? Why am i so upset about us potenially just be being friends? It has nothing to do with sex. Oh, and by the way, I'm a 19 year old male.
2007-01-04 15:24:04 · 8 answers · asked by Demps87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know it's not love, i have been in love before, and know what it feels like. I just want to know what i'm feeling, it's really confusing as to why i felt like that, and the need to cry?
2007-01-04 15:33:34 · update #1
thats not a stuped question, you know what, you say u feel really comfortable around her, but its like when you found out that she was going to be gone, away from you, thats when ALLL of ur true feelings for her hit you, its natural, thats how you know you really like thin person, not it could be love, but its only been a few weeks but that never means anything, nomatter what she says or her desision is, the best thing i can tell you, the same thing i told my bestfriend when he was going through this, you cant ever change what the situation is, but you can always help her desision, if you really want to be with her, and try to keep things working, just be there for her, sit down or call her and tell her," u kno since these last weeks my feelings have grown 4 u so much, but i know that ur going through some things but im willing to work it out, help u in any way that i can and i just want u to know that im going to be here for u nomatter what" just let her know that you care, that ur up 4 trying to hel her out,and everything should go better after that......good luck,...n best wishes
2007-01-04 15:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you obviously like her a lot and feel comfortable with her. If she has had crap to deal with then you could also be feeling that weight too. Maybe it would be a good idea if you sent her a note saying that you understand that she needs to sort stuff out and that you will be there for her should she need you. You can know somone for a short while and really care for them......so if either of you is hurting in a situation like that, then you would feel the pain of the other person.
I hope that helps a bit.
Good Luck hunx
2007-01-04 23:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by crazeeladee no more 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May b u've never been so close 2 a girl bfore. Blieve me 1st these crushes might hurt but soon all is over. it just can't b love cuz u can't luv anyone widout knowin her properly...4 weeks is yoo short a time. Moreover u wouldn't hav cried at the thought of being just frnds if u really lovd her cuz frndshp is even more wonderful than love. Love says, " Whenever u'll need anything i'll b there" but Friendship says, "When i'll b dere u'll never need anything".
2007-01-04 23:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by True_lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your disappointed. Maybe you felt like this relationship had alot of potential. It's ok to be down about that. I can probably guess that she recently broke up with someone else. Sounds like you might have been someone on the rebound. In which case its probably better for you to just be friends. And if you think its too akward just tell her that it would be and that if she ever thinks of you as more than a friend to look you up.
2007-01-04 23:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really like her. Just wait a week or something and say how you feel. say that you understand that she needs space but you care for her that you are willing to do so. Also ask if you can help in anway and don't try to break down. Good luck!
2007-01-04 23:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie_Pie6464 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You felt sad, because you hoped for something and then you realized that you might not have it. It's normal to feel that way. What you can do is: try to support her in the best way you can, when she gets back to herself, she'll appreciate it!!
2007-01-04 23:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by baby2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is because you love her and that you dun want to lose her and see her being with another guy or just stay as friends. It happened to me once..trust me :)
2007-01-04 23:26:54 · answer #7 · answered by casperluvswendy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start crying mate you know it's love.Im exactly like that everytime my adorable American girlfriend goes back home.that's when the waterworks start.She was away over New Years & i was never more miserable.when you feel like crying you know she's got to you.
2007-01-04 23:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋