My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 and a half years, and his parents used to be pretty nice to me. Lately, though, they have been really rude to me, not inviting me places and acting like they don't want me around. It's causing a lot of problems between him and them. Do you think we can survive with them hating me? It's nothing I did; I've acted the same way all along.
2007-01-04 15:33:34 · 12 answers · asked by angry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There are no problems between us. We are together almost all day every day (and I realize that's probably part of their problem) but there's certainly nothing with us and definitely no other girl. He talks to them about it, and they fight, but the don't listen/believe/care.
2007-01-04 15:38:33 · update #1
Talk it over with your boyfriend. Your boyfriend will have the biggest problem because he will be caught in the middle as if he needs to choose between you and his parents. You don't say how old the two of you are. If you're both adults living on your own, then he is the one that will need to stand up to his parents and say "Emily is my choice". If you're "minors" living at home, it's going to be difficult to do that. Again, you need to discuss it openly with your boyfriend by telling him how you feel. Do not put him in a position where he needs to make a choice between you and his parents.
2007-01-04 15:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by huskie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are acting that way for a reason. Something has changed their minds about you, and you need to find out what it is. It could be a simple misunderstanding, or someone could have lied about a situation involving you. If you have asked your boyfriend what's going on and he doesn't know, I would ask his mom out to lunch. If she accepts ~ great - if she doesn't, I would be on their doorstep at the next available opportunity. If it's lunch, then after you order, simply talk to her. Tell her that your a little upset and really hope that you could talk to her about it. Ask her if you have done or said something that has upset her. Then handle it from there. Oh - and you pay for the lunch! If you show up at her door - apologize for coming over unannounced, and tell her that you really need to speak to her. Then do the same thing. At least you will know what's going on, and you are handling it yourself with the utmost respect for her.
2007-01-04 23:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES you can make it if you have a good foundation. Not too long ago in my relationship, my fiance had a major major major blowout with my dad and brother. It caused a lot of stress for everyone involved and it took almost a year to heal. We made it because we loved each other and refused to let others break us up. If it was going to end, it was going to be because we decided to, not because of what others do. If this is how y'all feel, then you can make it too:) n Just remember, this relationship is yours and yours only. Others may influence you, but only if you let them. Good luck!
2007-01-04 23:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by WanderingAngel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend should speak to them about their recent behavior. If something is bothering them, they should tell him so all of you can work it out.
It is your boyfriend's place to make sure you are respected. He should stand by your side through thick and thin. If his family's moodiness is causing problems, then it has to stop. He needs to make it clear that their attitude is not an acceptable way to handle things, or to show towards you.
The sooner he speaks to them, the sooner you'll know what's going on.
Good luck to you; I hope this helps. :)
2007-01-04 23:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well alot of times if the gf does something the bf dont like the bf talks to his parents about it with out your knowing. if you argue lol samething he is thier baby so they are on his side rather he is in the wrong. this hun sounds like typical inlaws and i think you guys can still be together your dating him not his parents most ppl there main complaints in there lifes are in laws you want to live a life with there baby boy and not so much them. lol if you guys move in to gether youll have unannounced visitors alot lol almost just like the every body loves rayman show what ever its called but its not just your bfs parents its almost all guys parents
2007-01-05 01:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by cute redhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship with him can survive if you both want it to. If your bothered by their behavior talk to him about it and see what he can do, find out. Don't let other people take a influence in love and relationships. It didn work for Romeo and Juliet..look what happened to them (by absolutely no reason do that! It's jus an example). You two can work out anything, jus talk about this with him.
2007-01-04 23:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by * Kittles * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lets see. It's possible that they think that you are taking him away from them. Usually that's the issue. Maybe he has stopped paying attention to the family and they are jealous. Just give it time. If it's true love then you guys will stay together. good luck!
2007-01-04 23:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should have a talk with them and tell them how you are feeling. Then they could tell you why they are acting that way, and maybe they dont even know that they are!
2007-01-04 23:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make sure it's nothing you have done, go to them and confront them on the different attitude they have on you and explain that you'd like to know what it is that they feel you have done wrong.
2007-01-04 23:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its not you, have you thought it maybe him. Or a new girl in the picture? Maybe his parents don't want to get attached to you, because you are about to be out of the picture?
2007-01-04 23:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by brandley_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋