Help with death?

Question

My father and my brother died in November. Although I know they are in a much better place and feel them with me everyday. I miss them so much and cannot get over the saddness that overwelms me. HELP

Answer 1

i'm sorry for your loss. the only thing that is going to help you really is time. i know it hurts, but the only thing you can really do is slowly work on accepting it, seek grief counselling, and give yourself time to heal. you will always love and miss them, but will come to terms with it on some level. but that will take time. keep praying

Answer 2

hi i am so sorry for your loss and trust me i do know all to well how you are feeling . i lost my brother when he was 13 years old and the following year i lost my father and 4 years later i lost my mother and 2 of my sisters in a car wreck.so i can understand your feelings and its OK you will be OK . take one day at a time and allow yourself to cry and feel sad if that's how you feel , talk to other family members or friends about your dad and brother, and know that you will have good days and there will be days when you have bad days . and as i said its OK. its all apart of grieving. i know you have heard this before and trust me when i say this it is true time really does heal all wounds. just don't rush the time. accept how you are feeling each day and allow those feelings. and one day you will wake up and realize the sun has shined for you again. all ways remember your father and brother would have wanted you to carry on with your life and be happy . and honor there memory in trying your best to be happy each day . and remember to pray and ask God for courage and strengh .please take care.

Answer 3

I am so sorry . I lost my dad in December and I know the sadness you are feeling. I try to remember all the good times and to remind myself as you do he and they are in a much better place than we are. Sometimes I just stop fighting it and let the sadness take over and I cry and get angry , it helps relieve some of the stress. I miss my dad too and I pray we both make it through this tough time.God Bless you my friend.

Answer 4

I feel really sorry for your lose. I too have had family members pass away (my mom in 70, my brother in 81, my other brother in 94, my dad in 00, my youngest brother in 01). I know exactly how you feel. You really don't ever get over the sadness and hurt, you just kinda have to figure out a way to deal with it, in some sort of way that only you know how. As for me there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of my family members, especially my dad, even though it's been over 6 years, I still feel as though it was today that I lost him. I do talk to him in my heart and there are alot of times that situations have happened that I felt that my dad guided me in making the right decision, I feel he is still with me, and it helps alittle to ease some of the pain. God be with you.

Answer 5

your doing fine . i know its sad and since you lost both of them in one month or i dont know perhaps on the same day well thats hard.
right about now you might be at the point of balling your eyes out from time to time thats fine. i know you are going on the computer and i see you wrote the question well so i figure as
bad as it feels your doing good.
pray
and dont think there is some sort of guide line to this .
there is no guide line there are no rules
how long does grief last . it last until the day you die.
right now its beyond words. your up down sideways fine and freaking out all at the same time. thats normal.
as long as you dont refuse to feel what you feel then you will continue on this path the right path and things will get easier.
dont even for a moment not think that you cant send them a message via God or ask God to pay specail attention to them
i am sure god nows how to deliver a message and how to give oh say billion star treatment to people.
take care
i will pray for all of you .

Answer 6

Oh goodness...I am SO sorry to hear about your dad and brother. I know you have heard this before...but time heals all wounds. And I can imagine what you are going through. And my heart aches for you.
Something that helped me was....I wrote down all my feelings in a letter as if I was going to send it to someone. Some how...putting it all down on paper sorta 'released' what was bottled up inside.
I hope your pain is soon healed.

Answer 7

Ill be completely honest with you...after my Dad died I felt like I would never feel the same again.I cried all the time and everything i saw reminded me of him. It does get better with time, along time tho. Make sure you always talk about them and remember the fun times you had together. Im sorry to hear about your loss but it really does get better. It just takes along time

Answer 8

my grandma and uncle and my grandmas bestfriend all died in november i understand your sadness and i'am so sorry that you have to feel this pain and yes hun what your feeling is your dad and brother they dont want no more tears they just want you to be happy and cary on you have to do that for you i hate the feeling of loss it makes me sad writing this to you but hun you have to move on i'am strugling with that every day me and my grandma were very close and her best friend and my uncle all i can say is that you will never be alone they will watch over you take care sweetie

Answer 9

I lost my father in October to Suicide.... So I know exactly what you are going through. The things that help me are to sit and think about the funny stuff you can remember about them and think about that all the time..... Try not to think about the sad things. I know its hard, but just try to think funny and happy thoughts.

Answer 10

I am so sorry for your loss, you will never get over it but it will get easier over time,(it will take along time this is normal.) Try to remember the good times you shared.