I broke it off with a guy I was with for only 8 mo. last spring b/c it was long distance and I have a BZ schedule but I happen to get into school not even 15 min. away from him so I wanted to try and make it work ( we kept in touch) and I moved here in Aug. I even stayed with him for a week when I got here but what i did not know then is that he did not trust me and I guess I really hurt him so being a typical guy he was being mean so I backed off, so by doing that he thought I used him. We been out a few times but he seems distant not like he used to be. I really want to be with him and I mailed him a card with a letter today telling him how I felt about our situation but waiting for days to past became to intense I have called him twice in the last hr he didnt answer but I changed my # mon. so he MIGHT just not be answerin b/c he doesn't know the #. Should I back off completely move on. Shall I mention that he doest answer my calls sometimes. Im really confused bout what he wants
2007-01-04 15:27:36 · 11 answers · asked by *sexy mocha* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes I feel like he is punishing me, he thinks I played him!
2007-01-04 15:29:15 · update #1
Let him know how you feel, and then back off and let him figure it out for himself. If he loves you he'll be back. If he doesn't come back to you, he was just trying to find a reason to break it off any way.
Also, if he's mean to you now, what will he be like once you really get serious and get in to an argument. What ever you do, don't settle, find your Mr. Right!!!!
Good luck!
2007-01-04 15:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by flyfisher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should back off, really.. It is clear that he doesn't want you around, I think you should get back and let him breath. If he wants to see you or talk to you, he will call you back. Be careful, "i did not know then is that he did not trust me and I guess I really hurt him so being a typical guy he was being mean " That doesn't sounds like a nice guy for me...
My best advice, find someone better, there is plenty out there, way better than him...
2007-01-04 23:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by wild4040 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off a bit, you've already let him know that you want to be with him. Some guys don't like it when you call them a lot. Give him a chance to call you. Make sure that he has your number. If he doesn't call, move on. Life is too short to waste time on games. The trust part, it's all guys, no guys trust their girlfriends.
2007-01-04 23:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably is nervous about getting into a relationship with you again. Maybe he just wants to be in control of it. Maybe he is just taking time to figure out what he really wants.
It's hard to not call him constantly, but you need to give him a week or two. If he hasn't called you after a week or two, call him, he might answer. If he doesn't, move on for his sake as well as yours. He isn't interested.
2007-01-04 23:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by MW 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over him. You have so much wonderful opportunity ahead of you. Concentrate on school for now and not so much the guys. You will finish school in a few years, have a great job... and be able to support yourself in the beginings of a fantastic life. You are the President of YOU.
2007-01-04 23:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by lindasue m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys always want what they cant have..and sometimes acting like u dont want them can make u really not want them...but i can guarantee u will get a phone call if stop making them........although this guy doesnt honestly sound like he deserves u and u really could do better...but until u figure that out yourself this is a wonderful way to get his attention back!!!
2007-01-04 23:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by lil blue eyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just not that into you, if he really wanted you he would take every chance he had to be with you. my opinon is he is making up excuses, and making you look like the bad guy as a way for covering up that he's not into you so instead of himself feeling bad he's making you feel bad. Men do this all the time
2007-01-04 23:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by 23aisena 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ooooooo...... yeah... he`s punishing u, I done and I still do the same with my girlfriend, if he don`t answers` the phone, and bla... things like that.... he`s punishing you, but..... you show him to much interest, wait for a while and he`ll call you back, do the same, and he will come for you :-?? maybe.....
2007-01-04 23:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Apollo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
galffrien u'r in love but y waste ur timr n energy for that loser u hav proved urself. relax n b pretty its not end of the world.
2007-01-04 23:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by rex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make arrangements to meet him, then ask him face to face. Explain everything to him and hopefully he will understand.
2007-01-04 23:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by Weiners and Beans 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋