I'm seeing this guy but he just wants to be casual about it. We are attracted to each other sleeping together but are not in an exclusive r/ship. Well my ex-bf kept calling me on my cell phone when I was with this guy. I didn't answer the phone. The guy was getting annoyed that my ex kept calling and I said I should call him back and he didn't want me to.
Was he being unreasonable?? Is he jealous?? If this is truly just a Friend with Benefits situation he shouldn't be trying to get in the way of mine and my ex's r/ship, right??
2007-01-04 15:27:36 · 7 answers · asked by bellyyo62 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well...Hmm let me put this in your words.. He meets you.. you get together.....then his ex gf calls....and so on. Think about it this way.
2007-01-04 15:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, since the ex kept calling according to you - whomever you're out with would get annoyed.... first, ex shouldn't be calling and calling - make the call, leave a MSG and wait for the call back.... if you want the relationship to potentially get more serious you don't want your ex calling and calling while with the new potential one!
Now, if new guy is saying lets be casual ask what that means - hey, you got upset about my ex calling - let him answer why - was it that the ex kept calling, annoying anyone or is this new guy wanting to control you while saying we're casual so he can have his cake or as you put it "friends with bene's"... make sure the bene is both ways....
Now, the truth - he was jealous..... plan and simple - be careful! Talk about what casual really means - does it mean I don't have to worry about calling you everyday knowing you'll be cool or are the two of you exclusive - if you don't know how he would answer that question you should ask.... and lastly, tell the ex to chill out with the re-dial! let the ex know when is a good time to call so he has boundaries too! Keep control whenever possible.... cause if you don't men will abuse the situation to their benefit...
2007-01-04 15:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might all your attention when you are with him. Tell the ex not to call or put the phone on voice mail. Or dump the casual and get back with the ex.
2007-01-04 15:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley not. You're his territory now. He wants to be casual to keep his 'options open'- but realistically- he just wants you nand not to be fully committed and have his heart torn by someone still in touch with an old flame.
If it truly is a friend with benfits- that still constitutes a relationship to me. I think you should either patch up with your ex or concentrate exclusivlely on your new man. But I am a tad old-fashioned.
2007-01-04 15:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ministry of Camp Revivalism 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This new guy doesn't want to develop feelings for you only for you to suddenly realize you want your ex back. He feels threatened by your ex because you did care for him at one time. If your still talking to him then you still care for him on some level. If it's over then it's over move on. If your still talking then it ain't over.
2007-01-04 15:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by deniver2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps She is only Flattered That He Likes Her nevertheless... i think of you will possibly desire to communicate over with Her And tell Her If She Cares approximately You to stop speaking With Him... and additionally you comprehend only stay on your feet... there are a number of different Fish interior the sea =D
2016-10-30 01:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by roca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is acting defensive he is jealous, maybe he has feeling for you, or maybe he does not want you to get back with him because then he can't get free loving. anyway you know him better what do you think he's looking for
2007-01-04 15:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by littlehuevo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋