Family & Relationships - 18 November 2006

I've hinted and I don't think he hasn't recieved them. My friend cross-examined him and she said he chose me over another girl, but I still don't know if he likes me. How can I ask?
And please don't tell me "just try", I'm really shy.

2006-11-18 22:25:13 · 5 answers · asked by Spirit 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-18 22:24:46 · 1 answers · asked by Alan Patrick T 1 in Friends

I've been married for almost 2 yrs and then for almost 1 yr i don't have a work because my husband doesn't want me to work .Am so bored then this year time comes that he finally allowed me to work even just a part time but our relationship totally change it was not the same as it was before my husbands attitude becomes cold to me because it was really different i can feel it i don't know why it happens i played my role as a good wife to him and maybe it was not the reason that because am workin already things between us turns into dark.Is there any reason

2006-11-18 22:22:47 · 9 answers · asked by cute cute 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-11-18 22:21:12 · 10 answers · asked by serene 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-11-18 22:18:47 · 17 answers · asked by hedgeybear 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-11-18 22:18:19 · 5 answers · asked by 21questions 4 in Singles & Dating

Mainly the problem is I'm not sure which state's courts or paperwork I should research-- we were married in Colorado in 2003; I have lived in California since March 2006 and he has been out of the country since then; and we were both originally residents of another state before the marriage.

I've tried to learn how to file on my own, but it's been hard because I don't know where to start.

No children, and all I want out of it is OUT of it. What can I do?

2006-11-18 22:18:13 · 5 answers · asked by Lindy 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is paying lifetime alimony for a person that was blind in one eye at birth. This a grown woman that is capable of working why should he has to susport her the rest of her life.

2006-11-18 22:16:29 · 6 answers · asked by Mary D 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 35 and my husband is 40. We both are broadminded and have a lot of understanding. Once in a month we go for "spouse exchnge" programmes with other like minded healthy couples.( I get sex from the other man and his wife gets from my husband). Tell me, is it good or anything wrong with it?

2006-11-18 22:15:02 · 3 answers · asked by tullu 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Guys, I'm a handsome guy. I'm not a show-off like guys usually are. I am well-mannered, cultured, disciplined... I have everything except for one - A GIRL. Now, I do like a girl but I cant quite gather the guts to speak to her.
I live in India. Here, its quite different from other countries. If I goto a gal straight and tell her how I feel abt her, there's just one answer I would get - a SLAP. I wanna be her friend. My friends are her friends too & they know I like her. But they have bitched all kinda **** abt me to her. I've spoken to her a couple of times & yest., she looked at me twice and when I looked at her looking towards me, I didnt know what she was expressing through her silence. But I think she's interested.

The problem is...
1. My tongue that fails me all the time.
2. I'm bad at presenting myself.

One of my friend told me that I was a sleeping giant who has everythin to charm gals except for the art of presenting myself properly.

Any suggestions regarding all I wrote?

2006-11-18 22:14:23 · 11 answers · asked by DJ ShamZ 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-18 22:12:15 · 8 answers · asked by serene 1 in Marriage & Divorce

im in love to death with this guy...we're not of the same race but we've transcended since we were close friends. hes a bit..racist towards other people..saying this and that, to me, not to their faces.
should i be worried? i love him...i really doo........*music in ears*

2006-11-18 22:08:19 · 16 answers · asked by happybeanstalk 3 in Singles & Dating

I want to find unique ways of showing my girlfriend how much I care for her. We have a good relationship but with some extra stress that we both don't need. I just want to show her that I am there for her no matter what. I already do the normal things but I would like some sweeter ideas to use here and there. The suggestions that I am asking for should be one's that I can use from time to time. I want to be the best boyfriend in the world for her as she is the best girlfriend for me. If you are a female I'd prefer an answer from you but if you are a guy that is okay too. Thanks everyone.

2006-11-18 22:05:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

sex is essential to me, at least! but my husband happens to not be as before prior to our miscarrige he was extremely sexually affectionated I know this is a personal problem but I just got out of bed to get this off my mind it bothers me I cried to him to ask him why he has not giving me any pleasure nor he has not giving me any oral sex? I stress about this he seems to react less absurd than I, he tells me that a relationship is more than just sex we are 20 years apart, also I know that his pass relationship sucked they rarely had sex if they did it would only be once a month,as crazy as it sounds i feel that if i were to be in that position I would be miserable like i am starting to feel anyways I need advice???!! I almost would like to walk away or "threaten" marriage just because i have not gotten LAID!

2006-11-18 22:05:28 · 12 answers · asked by mommy2be 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i.e. brother , sister, mum ,dad ,partners... how should we know what they want or like

2006-11-18 22:04:25 · 16 answers · asked by bit of fluff 2 in Family

those mean girls lol, do you think the woman doing your pedicure has ever intentionally tickled you? Or was it obvious that she was?? if so, what were you tickled with?? did you like it or did it creep you out?

2006-11-18 22:04:06 · 2 answers · asked by docboom2386 1 in Singles & Dating

This girl was my secondary school classmate. We used to know each other only barely. But God knows how many times I peeped at her during lesson instead of looking at the board. However, I was a shy boy (though still is) and the fact is that she had boyfriends one after another THROGHT OUT the teen years. and God know how many times I felt sour and my heart sank whenever I saw her with her guy(s).

During the poly years, I had a girlfriend and she was having a relatively more committed relationship. so my heart was with my girl at the time and hence you can only say that I have been a secret admirer "on-and-off" for 10 years.

OFF, is when I have a gf, my heart have no one else. and even when I'm single, I won't fall for a girl who is attached.

ON, is for the times when we were both unattached. it kind of give me hope bcoz she is available. For the past 10 years, I never take any action for these "on" periods.

For the past 2 months, we kind of reconnect our communication. Bcoz i'm studying in uni now and she is working, we have chance to chat for few hours daily on MSN. (mon-fri working hours only though, because she don't usually use msn at home)

From recent chats, she told me that she is now single, and she mentioned that she is not a late-queen for dates nowadays. And after she know that I used to have one painful and hurtful relationship, she said that people have to move on and "if there's a good girl whom you like then give it a try" She also claims that she only regard herself who had only 2 relationships because sec sch histores are just childish ones.

We talked a lot rubbish, shared a lot of views, joked a lot and "suan" each other a lot and I feel (or maybe only I feel)that we start to have some connection.

So, last week, I managed to find some courage and said..

"you wrote on my sec sch autograph book that I can call you anytime, so.. can I call you tonight?"

but she replied "lol.. I have a dinner appointment tonight."

I was rather disappointed. I thought, if she doesn't mind me calling she would have state a time or sth.

But soon after, she said "next time we catch up with a movie, after your exam?", "when your exam finish?", "talk is cheap, fix a date now"....

so, our tentative date (or sec sch class monitor-monitress re-union if putting it mildly) is 3 dec!!just 2 days aft my exam. But the point is that we only chat on MSN and have not advanced into phone-talk and constant sms-es.

I keep thinking of her recently. and thinking.. Should I postpone it? because I just had a bad haircut. what shd I say? how should I behave? will I just blush and panic? is that anything in my walldrode that can match her smile and style? shd I pay for everything? where shd we eat? It's not like I don't have experience. Although I had gf before. But this time is different. She is a special person to me. (else I won't admire her for a decade
So now i'm like completely anxious and excited at the same time.

She is a very pretty girl to me. I looked at her that way for the past 10 years. so it's not like i'm saying this because she is grown up now and having her own fashion taste.

But I have a low esteem of myself. because I don't think I have the look. and that i'm just a poor student who owes the bank loan of $18k.

The tough point here for me is: Are there another guys who express interest in her? DOES she already has someone in mind? when should I tell her my feelings? the feelings that have been kept inside me for 10 years? Should I buy her a present (and say it's christmas present) for that day? Should I just write a love letter and confess everything? (probably not because she might freak out) What should we do after movie? OR.. after all, she might actually just take it at friendship level and that I am thinking way too much?

I feel that, sooner or later, I have to confess my feelings for her and give it a try. else i'll only keep thinking of her and suffocate myself.

What shd I do?
1) Taking it easy and naturally? (I think she will be taken by another guy if taking it slowly. because she is just such a nice girl)
2) Show my feelings soon? (what if she got stunned and don't talk to me even on msn)

I'm so paranoid!! How I wish that behind every girl there is a equation and by solving it, you understand her thoughts and have her loving you! (haha.. i'm engineering student)

Can people out there advice me? Especially girls. I would be glad to hear your opinons. Thanks a lot if you manage to read finish this essay.

2006-11-18 22:00:33 · 9 answers · asked by sp_jimmy 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-18 21:59:15 · 23 answers · asked by sonali 2 in Singles & Dating

Married for 10 years and no "juice" left in the relationship but do not wish to divorce my wife as she is a good person and I like her. I'm good to her too and you could not say that there is anything that warrants a divorce except - our sexlife is dead and buried. Tried counseling, therapy, medicines but she just does not feel like it. I can't bring myself to ask her if I could ...."go out". I don't want to hurt her. You know what I mean! Hence the need to be discreet.

2006-11-18 21:58:28 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2006-11-18 21:57:49 · 11 answers · asked by wondering 4 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-18 21:52:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-11-18 21:52:11 · 14 answers · asked by Toves 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-18 21:51:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i met this guy in a ..self help chat channel before. i was an emo teen then. now we've both grown to our mid 20s. still havent met yet. hes nice and sweet and i'd rather not go into details :)

thing is how do i know if he jst does it for fears that i might cut myself or something?

its weird....guys usually want it to be "official"

if he really loves you right?

2006-11-18 21:50:45 · 2 answers · asked by happybeanstalk 3 in Singles & Dating

Why is it every time you start dating a girl she brings up marriage or babies within the first two weeks?. I had a girl not to long ago ask me to move in after knowing me for 3 days. Why can't you all relax and just let things take their natural course.?

2006-11-18 21:48:58 · 13 answers · asked by gypsy_soldier79 1 in Singles & Dating

i work in the entertainment business, and i'm in a bit of a dilemma and need your help, i usually work in the older peoples section, like say from 30/40ish range, so the music i play is normally dated back to the 70's/80's, anyways i have started this new job where the people are aged 18/25, and last night i had a few problems with music, so i need some help here, yeah i am an old fogie....lol...and waaaaaaaaaaay behind the times...and would appreciate you 18/25's to help me out with the music of today....yes see, i told you i was behind the times....so guys, could you tell me whats the in thing today for your age range...i would truly appreciate it, as some lad asked me for some music last night and i had no clue who he was talking about..lol..so fire away people...i need some help here....thankyou...serious answers only please...not in the mood for smart *** quips today

2006-11-18 21:48:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I think i'm lucky to feel rock solid in my relationship, but occasionally from time to time if some one catches my eye i look. The question is does it really matter if you or your partner looks in another direction at some one else sometimes....is there any real harm in looking at some one else?..... or does it boil down to what our intentions are?.......if you think so, or not explain why?.....

2006-11-18 21:41:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hey, i've heard that one of the best ways to turn a woman on is to breathe on her neck and slowly kiss her, anyone else got any ideas??

2006-11-18 21:41:16 · 4 answers · asked by thugster17 2 in Singles & Dating

My dad is going to remarry by Dec 06, I don't have any relatives who can help me out as they all are supporting my dad & my sister or even friends, I reside in Bangalore, yes I am working but I feel the best is to leave home & start a new life some where else, it is not that I am a coward but I have come across 02 very admant people, being a lady I know people will talk but whom should I care for? Please help me.

2006-11-18 21:39:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I have been married to a man for 5 years. In all of this time, he's managed to isolate me from everyone, and two years ago I stopped putting up with it and fighting back. He used to really physically abuse me, and then I kicked his butt back one time so badly it dislocated a disc in his spine. Since then, he never attacked me like that again. But all of this time, he's never been happy for any successes I've achieved. He always expected me to act like his success was the best thing in the world and the reason I was alive. I am graduating from College in December, and he's refused to even take off for that. His cheating brother controls his every move. I am divorcing him, though he doesn't know this is in the works. This just adds fuel to the fire. I feel so alone and am given absolutely no love or affection from him that I've started to spend more time with an ex. And he doesn't care. What can I do to stop all of this ? I don't want the marriage to end, but I also know

2006-11-18 21:35:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce