"Here's looking at you kid"...........?

Question

I think i'm lucky to feel rock solid in my relationship, but occasionally from time to time if some one catches my eye i look. The question is does it really matter if you or your partner looks in another direction at some one else sometimes....is there any real harm in looking at some one else?..... or does it boil down to what our intentions are?.......if you think so, or not explain why?.....

Answer 1

Your question is a good one............There are far far to many good
looking people out there not to want to look. Looking is normal, as
long as you " DON'T TOUCH " there is no harm..........

Answer 2

I've noticed that a lot of show Border collies have longer hair. When herding, it is better for them to have shorter hair, in my opinion (and in many others), because it doesn't get tangled in long grass, it's easier to keep neat, etc. But I have seen a couple medium length coat Border collies herding, just none with a really long show length coat. Seeing that everyone so far has mentioned that... That really means nothing, haha. Or like what Mutter said. Some show BCs are bred for looks, herders are bred for intelligence (which makes sense, if you ask me. The only dogs show breeders ever seem to produce are classically marked black and white, fluffy BCs. The reason the breed is so smart is they have never been bred for looks, which is why they can be any color under the sun, can have any coat length, and even have a pretty wide weight range for a smaller scale medium sized breed), and so it is argued that show breeders are ruining the breed. Or I suppose with banned coloring in certain breeds. The "silver" lab probably has the potential to be a fine hunter if trained properly, but the coloring means no shows for them. That's kind of the other way around though. ADD: or i suppose the AmStaff is a good example. According to some people that answered my question yesterday, the Amstaff and the APBT started out as the same breed, but the Amstaff had the "game" look bred out of it so it would be show quality. So pretty much every visual difference between Amstaffs and APBTs are for show...

Answer 3

If my partner looks at that someone, it'll definitely make me jealous.
And she'll do the same if I look at other girls.
But i guess there's no harm really if that is just a look or a quick eye contact and there's nothing else.
That's why we have eyes for, don't you think?

Answer 4

Looking at someone by the first glance can be accidental or even purposeful...either way its harmless and blameless but its when you look back for the second time or you prolong the first look to enjoy looking in complete detail...that's just very wrong behaviour.

Answer 5

Men are seriously bothered abt this. They want their girls always to be in their control. There r some girls also in the same character. It depends up on the people. Some r so social its not at all a problem.

Answer 6

If you truly have a strong healthy relationship then you will both realize that it's impossible that either of you are the last person the other will ever find attractive.

Answer 7

same problem i had with an ex before.

you know what it depends, overall accumulation of fear and pain in your heart usually manifests from time to time.

for example, he casually talks about his ex and it hurts you. then he talks about his best girl pal, and it hurts you. of course you show that pain a little bit. but he doesnt try hard to make you feel better, saying you're foolish.

then you go out and he looks at other women, even a glimpse. overall the other hurts will manifest along with that current action.
then you feel hurt, or you feel embarassed or self-conscious or insecure.

my point is if he looks at them, and you feel insecure or bad, then

a.)
it is BAD (take my word for it please), it just means hes done other things before and that his roving eyes arent the culprit-he is.

if you see him and he looks at girls, but you dont feel insecure, then

b.) hes just being what he is-a man. he should however know if hes just looking or ogling.

im pretty sure its letter a. if it wasnt you wouldnt have to ask here in yahoo answers (like i do..)

Answer 8

Not when u r together.
Other wise nop harm in harmless looks
But be carefull to give a look of intrest or something passionate to others which might lead in to relation with him too.....
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Answer 9

Everybody looks.
Everybody checks out what's there. If your relationship is good, you know who you're going home with.
Have a good time, trust your relationship.

Answer 10

dont worry about guys looking at other girls in a relationship/ visa versa... its what people do. i wouldnt worry, i would if he or you flirts more than the seldom time.But be careful i mean if you only look at other men something is wrong.maybe hes not the 1.