My husband doesn't want me to work .?or is there any reason....?

Question

I've been married for almost 2 yrs and then for almost 1 yr i don't have a work because my husband doesn't want me to work .Am so bored then this year time comes that he finally allowed me to work even just a part time but our relationship totally change it was not the same as it was before my husbands attitude becomes cold to me because it was really different i can feel it i don't know why it happens i played my role as a good wife to him and maybe it was not the reason that because am workin already things between us turns into dark.Is there any reason

Answer 1

How can you be with a chauvinistic pig that doesn't think you should work? If your husband doesn't support what you want to with your life then leave him.

Tell him if he is not going to offer you the same support as you give him then you are going to leave.

There are men out there that would love a working wife. A woman with dreams and goals and ambitions of her own.

Good luck.

Answer 2

He "allowed" you go to work? There is the problem. I don't know where you live, but most of modern society has begun to accept the fact that women are equal. Being married to him does not mean he owns you. You are not a cow or a slave, unless you want to be.

Sounds like he wants to control you. As long as you went along with everything, he was fine. Now that you are a bit more independent, he does not like that.

Get some marriage counseling. If he won't agree to it, you are in more trouble than you think.

Talk to a counselor. Talk to a trusted female friend when he is not looking. Get some feedback. If you don't have any friends, look back over time. Did you use to have some friends? Have they all gone away? Why did they leave? Does he not like you to talk to your friends and/or family? That usually goes right along with not wanting the woman to work.

Are there children involved?

Good luck.

Answer 3

You need to divorce and FAST. My soon to be ex was this way, and it only got worse. He then moved on to neglecting the children and I, he moved onto abusing me, all with the knowledge that I couldn't easily leave him becuase I had no money to do so. If he is cold now that you are using your legal right to work, imagine how much colder he wold be if you did as you chose with your money and your life. "Allowed"??? Honey, I'm a muslim woman, and the only one's permission I need to work is ALlah's, the one true GOD. GOD gave women rights, NOT men. We don't need to get any permission from a man to do what God already made lawful. This is only going to get worse. My husband acted the same way as well when I refused to let him keep me down and keep me from pursuing education. Pursuing education also got me a job becuase one class was internship. He knew he had lost his power over me when he attacked me one day and I knocked a disc to his side out of his spine. The abuse will only get worse. PLease listen to a woman who has been there already. Don't have children with this overgrown child. He is only interested in his own things, and completely self absorbed. A real man can handle his wife being happy with work, only an overgrown child would act this way by throwing temper tantrums and giving you the cold shoulder. PLEASE leave him. Don't waste 5 years of your life like I did.

Answer 4

Lots of women will tell you "oh, your husband should not be like that", but if this is how he feels, it will probably be the best to do what he wants and not be grumpy about it, unless you want to get a divorce. Yes, maybe he is not right, but if you love him and want the relationship to work, be smart and let him (feel like he) win, then use your feminine wisdom to find a way that you can be active (work) without officially working. This means; stop working, let him earn the money and officially take care of his family and feel like a man, then you find some activity; volunteer work, exercise, hobby group, meet other women in the same situation; whatever you'd like, and do that! If you start competing and complaining, he will only recent you. Don't think about who is right, but what will gain you. Good luck!

Answer 5

if my husband told me to not work i would laugh in his face. it's not about the money, it's about me doing something. i would not be stuck at home all day. i don't care. he would have to divorce me if he doesn't want to deal with it, cuz i would have a hell of an attitude after being bored all day in the house. and that's how i am anyway, i am extremely independent and i don't depend on anyone.

but if it was about being a provider for the family, i don't have a problem not making money, i would just volunteer at a library or something. i just don't want to be stuck at the house watching my life pass me by.

Answer 6

your husband my come from a family that believes women shouldnt work, not because he doesn't love you but because he may feel he is no longer the bread winner. You should express to him how working makes you feel so much more complete, as in that you are contributing more to the families needs.

Answer 7

Your husband is insecure,and figures if you get a job you will find another man and leave him.

Answer 8

stop working do as u hubby wants or else sooner or later u will face problems cause marriage is a commitment

Answer 9

He loves you, and don't want u to be overtired.