My dad is going to remarry by Dec 06, I don't have any relatives who can help me out as they all are supporting my dad & my sister or even friends, I reside in Bangalore, yes I am working but I feel the best is to leave home & start a new life some where else, it is not that I am a coward but I have come across 02 very admant people, being a lady I know people will talk but whom should I care for? Please help me.
2006-11-18 21:39:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you sure you are 27 years???? At this age my wife was already mother of our 3years old daughter. What for you waiting get a man marry him and start your life again.
2006-11-18 23:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's nice to be independent at your age. Remember only two things.
First, rents in Bangalore are very high, and if you leave home, don't expect financial support from anyone. Can you afford to move out?
Second, while living by yourself, you'll be very tempted to do something silly, especially at your age; and this can give you a bad name which will stick for life.
Remember the words from the song I am 16, going on 17 from The Sound of Music?
Boy sings:
"You are 16 going on 17,
Fellows will stand in line.
Eager young lads and rouers and cads
Will offer you food and wine."
To which the girl replies
"I am 16 going on 17
Innocent as a rose,
Bachelor dandies, drinkers of brandies,
What do I know of those!"
Take care of these two points.
The proverb "Look before you leap" is most apt in your situation.
2006-11-22 12:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 27 and still living at home, people are already talking. Yeah, it's nice to have a roof and probably food and utilities provided for you (have you saved up any money yourself?) but it's way past time to stand on your own two feet and make a life for yourself. Be happy for your dad that he can move on with his own life regardless of how he's treated you, and as for your sister, is she older or younger? Stand up for yourself to her, the "ill treatment" might stop if you do.
Most importantly, get yourself together and find your own life on your own. No one can be responsible for you but you and it sounds like it's past time that that happened. Don't worry what other people say, chances are they won't be a part of your life 10, 20, 30 years down the road anyway, so it's no big deal what small minded people think in the first place.
2006-11-18 22:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo Kid listen ya nees to just follow your gut instinct. You are still young and can do a lot for yourself ya just need to find it in urself. I have been through similar. now i realize when i first left my families house at 21 that is was going to be hard, but I knew deep down that it was best for my mental sanity. but i also had a different culture where there isnt one just the standard everyday ghetto projects cultures. So you need to ask yourself how much you want to band the culture rules. Will it be easy NOPE Will it be lonely YES, Is it possible YES, As I said earlier is that in my situation I have never been more happier than withOUT my family. I only say that because ever since i stopped contact with them My life has been taking very good turns. I am going to school working full-time and i am also in a long-term relationship. It has been 4 years since i moves out and I will say especially wit the holidays It is very lonely......Good Luck on your journey in life and you fullfill all your dreams.......
2006-11-18 22:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by defendequality05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good God, just because you are 27 doesn't mean you have to go out and get married, what are people thinking!? Yes, leave home and live your life, you work so you can obviously support yourself to some extent. Care for yourself! If you dont love yourself then no one else will. So get a move on! Get a transfer if you can, be independant and you will see life will get better! You can make it! You'll do great! Good luck!
2006-11-19 02:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by melfromhell001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not in the 19th Century and you are not a baby. 27 years old and you are still cribing about being ill treated by your father and sister for 14 years. What's up babe! You are working too. Just leave home and stand on your own feet. Don't you care what others say. If possible, ask your company to transfer you to another location. Find yourself a good mate/partner/husband and lead your own life. Just do it today! Most of you Indian women suffer silently because they are worried about "what others will say". For God's sake and yours too....grow up!Start your life NOW.
2006-11-18 21:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i be attentive to which you're offended which includes your mom yet you may desire to come back down. enable her cool off additionally. you may desire to forgive her for hurting your thoughts. on a similar time you only disrespected your mom. You harm her feeling too. She is making an attempt her maximum suitable to guard you, besides the undeniable fact that that's coming for the time of to you as though she is over controlling you. in case you have chose to get out of her administration then you relatively could desire to act greater in charge. in spite of in case you disagree with something that she is calling you to do, do exactly it. That way you will earn her appreciate and he or she gained’t harass you. Then while she is in a stable temper, bypass check together with her approximately your real thoughts. It seems such as you have some anger matters besides which you would be able to desire to artwork out. i'm not asserting that each thing that your mom is doing is right, yet you may basically exchange your self not others. You suggested that your mom is verbally abusive yet on the different hand you have become only like her. working away is by no skill a stable answer on your difficulty. you will ought to stand many issues on your life and you will't run faraway from all of them. Swallow your satisfaction and re-upload your mom on your facebook. that should take diverse braveness out of your area yet you’ll be doing the spectacular ingredient.
2016-10-22 08:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 27 you should be living on your own and NOT with your family. How do you have a life of your own if you are NOT on your own. If you live in your family's home you are open to do your part in the household and it's obvious they have no respect for you. Go be brave live! You may find it all an exhilarating adventure!
2006-11-19 02:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by linda_dematteo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should leave and start a new life. That is more courageous than staying. Don't worry about what people may say. I hope the best for you.
2006-11-18 21:43:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Jaya,
I am with you there.
U can come down to my city and I can help u out with the job and to get a rented appartment.
This is a genuine help and dont misunderstand me plz.
I have had similar situations which differ a little though.
vikram_s_bhatt@yahoo.co.in
2006-11-18 21:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by Vizz_up 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋