Etiquette - October 2007

I recently received an invitation from my cousin, to attend his daughter's bat mitzvah (the Jewish version of a communion, for those unfamiliar with the term) in late November.

He addressed the invitation to me, not me and 'Guest.' However, he didn't know that I have a girlfriend, and that I'd like to bring her.

I already sent the RSVP back, saying I was coming (the RSVP date was yesterday). My question is, is it proper to ask him if I can bring my girlfriend, even though I was the only one invited, and even though the RSVP date has passed. And if so, how should I go about doing it?

My girlfriend has yet to meet my family, and I thought that this would be a great opportunity for that to happen.

Thanks.

2007-10-25 11:59:30 · 10 answers · asked by funnyme 2

There's an office moocher at my place and he mooches all the time. He never contributes to any of our potlucks yet he is always mooching off our food. It irrates me. What do I do? How do I tactufully tell him to contribute?

2007-10-25 11:50:47 · 24 answers · asked by **El Amo de Gymmy** 4

I'm graduating from college in December and I mentioned to my mother that I would love a certain necklace that I've had my eye on at James Avery. Its about $130 and is very classic and timeless.

I paid for college by myself (with student loans) and I worked while I was there.

My mom seemed fine with my request and seemed happy to oblige. My dad, however, felt it necessary to say "Aren't you getting enough at graduation already?" To which my inner response is "You mean the degree that I WORKED FOR and PAID FOR?" Well, if that's what you mean, then yeah I guess I'm just a selfish brat.

I know I won't be getting money or anything like that for graduation (my extended fam's not close.) So am I really out of line in my request? I mean, some people get new cars and stuff!

2007-10-25 11:42:55 · 17 answers · asked by lauren 3

My husband and I are invited to dinner by one of his co-workers. I've never met him, or his family before.

What should I take with me?

Note 1: I've never been invited to dinner by Americans before - this is my first time. I don't want to take something which is culturally acceptable for me and not acceptable for them. I also don't want to go empty handed.

Note 2: No drinks please!!!

2007-10-25 10:34:31 · 12 answers · asked by ✿Purple✿ 5

I know there are good kids here and there, but what I want to know is why I see so many kids that are just awful. They're brats that have no respect for elders and feel they are owed their hearts' desires. Why do you think this is so common?

2007-10-25 10:29:47 · 14 answers · asked by ►solo 6

Well, I just recently started (yesterday) walking to my room nude after I shower. Well, normally my mom is out in the family room, and my room is in the other part of the house, so I have to pass her. My mom says she's okay with it. So I walk past her, and she closes her eyes, as I have gone skinny dipping before, and I told her to close her eyes when I was out of the pool (I have better self-esteem now.). I told her that I didn't care if she saw, so she just "Really? Ok." and just walked by. Is this normal of me to do this?

2007-10-25 10:29:03 · 14 answers · asked by Jesse 1

im 15 & flat chested. i had my period for 1 year. everyone has boobs but me. i want to be a B cup. i dont want implants & excerises dont work. how can i make them grow? i dont look good in tops cuz i dont have boobs. my friends tease me about being flat. they squeeze their boobs together and say "arent you jealous?" i just run to bathroom & cry. i came home & ran to my room crying cuz kids on the bus were teasing me about it. i was throwing everything on the floor in my room. i screamed at my mom and told her to go away. then i slammed the door & beat up the pillows. help its ruining my life

2007-10-25 10:22:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

In the apartment above me, there are two people that my sister is best friends with: Ray and Renessa. My sis was the one that got them to buy the apartment. (they are 20 and 21), and they work late nights so I can hear them stomp up the stairs at 3 AM. They play wicked loud music all the time and I can't concentrate on homeowrk, or sleep.
What do I do?

2007-10-25 10:02:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it okay not to bring a gift to a baby shower if you are the host??
My SIL is due to have her baby in december. I am hosting the baby shower for her along with my other sister. Is it okay to not bring a gift to the shower, because we are the hosts or do we still need to bring something? I don't want people talking about how we didn't get her a present...but she is family and I really don't think that she is going to mind. With her child being born so close to christmas...we were going to pool our money together for a crib and stroller as Christmas gifts. I've always given a gift at any other shower I hosted, but I just can't afford much else at the present time. What is the etiquette on hosting and gift giving? Thanks

2007-10-25 09:59:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you greet and say goodbye to the employees, especially ones you have become friendly with?

2007-10-25 09:58:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

if you have been invited to a wedding that you cannot attend, do you still have to give the newlyweds a gift?

2007-10-25 09:52:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

It doesn't happen to me now, but it used to. I mean I know its a good thing to look nice, but you can look nice with out expensive designer brands. Why should the clothes you wear bring you down on the social list? What is the world comming to when you see a 4 year old making fun of another 4 year old becuase she got her outfit from libby loo and the other one got her outfit at walmart? I really bugs me, and no matter what you say or do, you can't stop snotty, selfish, bratty people who just want to be a bit*h becuase they can. Any one agree?

2007-10-25 09:23:54 · 13 answers · asked by Ohhemmgee_its_Angie 2

Mine inclue but are not limited to liars (includes those who tell half-truths, hide the truth, etc, promise breakers), people who show up unannoced and a friend giving my # without my permission..What get's on your nerves????

2007-10-25 09:06:52 · 15 answers · asked by Nemos Mom 2.2.10 3

I don't mean close friends or family members ( although they can apply to this question). I mean guys or girls you just started dating or neighbors you just met, or someone you are just starting to get to know...Does it annoy you???

2007-10-25 08:58:07 · 18 answers · asked by Nemos Mom 2.2.10 3

A tiger is program to kill and eat, dolphins like to play with humans and so forth, you know exactly and understand their make up, but the human species are manipulating greedy angry jealous' also can be kind nice charitable gentle inventive, You can not understand the human as he has different mood swings unpredictable suicidal and melancholy My question' do symptoms of man is inherit from
inteligence or soul ? your views

2007-10-25 08:25:12 · 6 answers · asked by denis9705 5

A friend of mine is getting married.. (I'm friends with her through a friend). Anyway, her ceremony starts at 11am but the reception isn't until 3:30pm. I live 45 minutes away from both locations. Is it rude if I just go to the reception? I'm going alone, and I'm not sure what I am supposed to do for 4 hours while I wait for the reception. I'll be in a formal dress, and won't be able to just go and walk around... Some people have told me it is okay to just go to the reception. Any thoughts??

2007-10-25 07:14:15 · 16 answers · asked by Bella143 2

O.K. folks please be honest as you can be
Here goes. This ? is not meant to make anyone look like a easy person : I just want to know, The rules are so mixed up now:

1: Who do you want to be the pursurer and who
should make the first move toward a relationship M or F or You

2: Who do you want to be the first one to initiate a KISS M or
F or You.

3: Who do want to be the first to indicate its time for much more than Kissing M or F or you..

4: Should M be more passive or F be more passive in arousal touch or do you proceed full throttle ?

5: Is there anything you as a M or F want to add

2007-10-25 07:07:20 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I attended/organized a baby shower for my boss yesterday. I was told to arrange it at a very nice restuarant. It included a salad, main course with two sides, and a dessert, coffee, soda, water service (and favors) Everyone from the entire office (about 30 people) were invited to attend. It was at noon, and afterwards the executive director kindly gave everyone the rest of the day off. This morning I have heard several times how unhappy some employees are that there was no open bar. The meal was at least $30 a person which doesn't include tips, or a fee for renting out a room. Since I didn't deal with the bill (the executive director did) I don't know what the total cost was, but I know it was a lot, especially after all the decorations and flowers were totalled up. I work at a small nonprofit organization, and the organization surely footed the bill. Do I have a reason to be upset that people complained about no open bar?

2007-10-25 06:29:21 · 13 answers · asked by missy 2

I would like some advice/second opinions...
Whenever I order out from Applebee's, Ruby Tuesday or a similar restaurant, I feel compelled to tip the person who bags my meal and provides the silverware. Yet, when I pick up a pizza, I never feel as though I should tip the counter person.
This is relatively the same situation - had I dined in the restaurant, I would tip, no question. Had I asked to have my pizza delivered, I would tip, again - no question.
Has anyone else run into this problem? Do you know iof a "rule of thumb" about this issue?
Many thanks! :-)

2007-10-25 06:17:11 · 36 answers · asked by YSIC 7

"I would like to take you up on the offer".

2007-10-25 06:09:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

This guy is supposed to be "training" him. He works at Cummins. My boyfriend said that he constantly expels how he knows nothing and that he is better because he knows more. Witch in actuality he seems to know less. He says people that have worked 2nd shift are lazy good nothings. My boyfriend has worked 2nd shift but there is nothing to do second shift. It’s not anyone’s fault. My boyfriend was changing the oil and this guy told him that he was not spill oil! Of course you’re going to spill oil. Then when oil would drip he would complain that he was not cleaning it up right away. There no use in cleaning it up right away you'd spend forever cleaning and it would take a long time to change the oil. He would stand there the whole time and complain. So this guy just loves to rant about how much better he is than him and when he is not. My boyfriend never says a word to him. I think he is scared to say anything because it would probably get him fired or something.

2007-10-25 05:34:51 · 6 answers · asked by Random 3

2007-10-25 05:24:49 · 11 answers · asked by jimmywalls1982 3

Well, I am a supervisor at a crisis residential shelter for teenagers. I've been working there for 2 years now. During that time I've worked extremely hard to get the promotions that got me where I am today.

Lately I've been making some appearance changes. (strange hair colors, nose piercing..) For my 20th birthday last Saturday I got my lip pierced. My boss flipped out on me. He said that my image is an embarressment to the company.. blah blah blah.

I feel as if my appearance shouldn't influence their opinion on me. (I already get looked down upon for being the youngest supervisor)

I just feel like my clients don't really mind. In fact they tell me that they like having someone around that they feel like they can relate to.

So what is your opinion on this? What would do you?

2007-10-25 05:18:27 · 16 answers · asked by Raina 5

2007-10-25 05:11:14 · 8 answers · asked by ally 1

I'm in college and there's this diner that's right across the street from the dorms. I go there once in a while for breakfast. Usually I either forget or I don't even think of asking anyone to come with me, usually because I'm hungry and/or my roommates all have class. Sometimes when I'm in there I see people I know and they all ask the same question "what are you doing eating by yourself?". So yea, any thoughts?

2007-10-25 04:46:54 · 28 answers · asked by mjolnirandgungnir 2

Especially when out in public and in my own home.

2007-10-25 04:39:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm homeschooled, so I have very, very little oppourtunity to meet members of the opposite sex of my own age (16). So, is it possible to be able to strike up a conversation with a random girl in the street, or does this only happen in films? Any advice on how to open a conversation, and in what context, like in a shop, etc. I guess I dress scene, so tight jeans, tight t shirts, side fringe, etc.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

2007-10-25 04:09:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is a new employee who goes outside to take smoke "breaks" at least hourly (productivity!). Management won't say anything b/c there is no smoking/non-smoking policy in place. Yet, the smell is so bad that it has permeated our small (less than 15 people) office! Air fresheners don't help.

2007-10-25 04:06:16 · 14 answers · asked by MystiOne 2

My brother-in-law & sister-in-law were married in June 2005. It is now October 2007 and they never sent out thank you cards for their wedding or her bridal shower. Some of our family members feel begrudged and my sister-in-law gets very embarassed when the situation is brought up. AFter 2.5 - 3 yrs should they send out thank yous or would it be worse to send them? I told her to send them to the family members who are upset with a little apology in it but she still hasn't sent them. I don't want to hear about it anymore!

2007-10-25 04:04:32 · 16 answers · asked by beast 4

Man in his mid 30's works with an overweight woman (in this case, the woman has had to have a special chair ordered to fit her rather large carriage).

So, apparently duing a meeting, there was discussion of accidentally bumping cars in the parking lot (backing in, putting a car in gear and letting it roll...etc)

Well, this woman's car hit another one in the parking lot...

The man asked "well, was she in the car?"

Someone responded "what difference does that make?"

He said that "well, if she were in the car, and it rolled into another it would most likely be wrecked"

Someone told him to stop... this was IN A MEETING!

He then asked "have you ever read a physics book"...(referring to the momentum the car would gain with the large lady inside).

What would have happened at your workplace in this situation?

2007-10-25 03:50:50 · 14 answers · asked by Reserved 6