I recently received an invitation from my cousin, to attend his daughter's bat mitzvah (the Jewish version of a communion, for those unfamiliar with the term) in late November.
He addressed the invitation to me, not me and 'Guest.' However, he didn't know that I have a girlfriend, and that I'd like to bring her.
I already sent the RSVP back, saying I was coming (the RSVP date was yesterday). My question is, is it proper to ask him if I can bring my girlfriend, even though I was the only one invited, and even though the RSVP date has passed. And if so, how should I go about doing it?
My girlfriend has yet to meet my family, and I thought that this would be a great opportunity for that to happen.
Thanks.
2007-10-25 11:59:30 · 10 answers · asked by funnyme 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It is a catered event at the country club my uncle (my cousin's father) has been on the board of directors for decades. So it will be place-card seating. I would never bring her without first asking--there might not be a seat for her!
2007-10-25 12:33:14 · update #1
Oh, and it is not just a girlfriend, but the woman I'll be spending the rest of my life with, though we're not yet engaged.
2007-10-25 12:34:52 · update #2
Yes, and it's very polite of you to ask him before you just bring her along. Tell him you would like her to meet the family, but you understand if arrangements for an additional guest can't be made.
2007-10-25 12:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by smartsassysabrina 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd go ahead and ask. I'm sure he would like to know and plan for an extra guest, and I can't see anyone having a problem with a relative bringing a date to the event.
2007-10-25 19:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, catered events are quite expensive. You could call up and ask, but don't be disappointed if he says no.
It really isn't proper to ask to bring a guest if one was not invited.It puts people on the spot, and they may have to say no because of the cost.
I'd find another time to introduce her to your family.
2007-10-25 19:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's reasonable to ask if you can bring a guest. Hopefully, you cousin will say, "Sure, the more the merrier!" And, it is a happy occasion and a wonderful way to introduce your girlfriend to the family.
2007-10-25 19:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would mention your girlfriend to your cousin, just to let him know she is an important person in your life. Hopefully, he will get the hint and invite her as well. If not, I would let it go. It really isn't proper to ask if you can bring an extra person.
2007-10-25 21:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy Lou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask your cousin. Just explain that if he says no, then that will be ok, and find something else for your g/f to do, and then suggest meeting for dinner somewhere after the bat mitzvah.
2007-10-25 20:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't. It's their daughter's big day, not your day for introducing your gf. Introduce you gf another time at your own functions.
2007-10-25 21:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, It is not! Your family can meet your girlfriend on your time and your dime. Do not put your cousin on the spot.
2007-10-25 19:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by heyMare 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
of course..better to ask before hand than just show up
2007-10-25 19:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that would be good to ask
2007-10-25 19:07:03 · answer #10 · answered by blondie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋