Is it okay not to bring a gift to a baby shower if you are the host??
My SIL is due to have her baby in december. I am hosting the baby shower for her along with my other sister. Is it okay to not bring a gift to the shower, because we are the hosts or do we still need to bring something? I don't want people talking about how we didn't get her a present...but she is family and I really don't think that she is going to mind. With her child being born so close to christmas...we were going to pool our money together for a crib and stroller as Christmas gifts. I've always given a gift at any other shower I hosted, but I just can't afford much else at the present time. What is the etiquette on hosting and gift giving? Thanks
2007-10-25 09:59:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
We purchased a diaper cake and a recieving blanket cake as the centerpieces. On the bow they come with a deal that has to/from...could we give those to her as her gift even if we use them as the centerpiece for the tables?
2007-10-25 10:08:02 · update #1
I would not worry, for the following reasons:
1- It's already costing a bit of money just for you to throw this party.
2- You are the child's aunt, it's not like you are going anywhere.
3- You plan to help get a stroller and a crib.
Trust me you are doing more than your share as a SIL. If she doesn't appreciate you and your efforts, then beware the next pregnancy. Good luck!
2007-10-25 10:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should still give a gift. Hosting the shower is an "extra" gift/duty, it doesn't replace your regular gift. If you spent a lot of money on the shower, then it's okay to spend a little less on the gift than you normally would.
I'd suggest giving the joint gift at the shower, and announcing that it is her shower/Christmas gift from X, Y, and Z.
2007-10-25 10:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
People expect the hostess to give a lovely gift, as well as giving the party. You don't have to though, because of the Xmas gift. A token gift like the centerpiece is a good solution.
If anyone wonders or gossips, sooner or later they'll learn about the crib & stroller.
So smile and say nothing, you sound like a close family and I hope the other guests are as supportive as you are.
2007-10-25 11:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by noname 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Since throwing the party is costly in itself you should not be required to give gifts. Yes the centerpieces can be your gift along with the party. You don't need to explain to anyone. Have fun and don't worry
2007-10-25 15:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by smile4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, give those to her. Hosting the baby shower IS your gift to her. If she can't see that, she must be someone very greedy for gifts.
2007-10-25 13:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are putting a lot of money and planning into it, you could always wait until the baby is born to get her something.
Your SIL should understand your financial situation and be grateful for all the planning you've done for her and her baby.
2007-10-25 13:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you have to give a gift. Hosting a shower is expensive, so you could get a small gift, but you should have something, as standard etiquette. Get a onesi or something else tiny, just so there's something from you to open.
2007-10-25 11:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by Oakie 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
cheesy? needless to say no longer. If the wine is surely good (get your neighbor or a pal to flavor it and supply you an trouble-free opinion), then i think of it would be a remarkable hostess present. Any physique ought to purchase a bottle of wine, yet few placed forth the attempt to make their own and it takes some expertise for it to coach out tasting good. in basic terms confirm which you do place the wine in a extreme high quality bottle (or fancy jar) for presentation.
2016-10-14 00:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being very generous, and yes, you can put your names on those as the gifts!
2007-10-25 11:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by valschmal 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The cakes and the party should do it.
2007-10-25 10:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋