Etiquette - August 2007

Sorry about the repost, I just wanted to see if anyone else had any ideas for me. The situation is that there's this guy who lives in the apartment below me and he likes to smoke on his patio. Problem is when I have the windows open, smoke gets in my apartment. I do have an airconditioner but sometimes enjoy a breeze when it doesn't smell like smoke.

Me and my downstairs neighbor are both guys in our mid-twenties, and I don't want to offend him. I've never talked to him before, but he seems like a decent guy and I could imagine being friends with him, so long as he doesnt blow smoke in my face.

Me, I'm LDS (Mormon) and don't look to faviorably on smoking and just want to enjoy the little space I have without being assaulted by smoke.

2007-08-19 21:22:15 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

for example; " just got a little wet."

"my panties are a bit damp."

or other such statements.

please let me know your opinions on this matter. ps be as detailed as possible i am trying to understand etiquatte.

2007-08-19 21:05:54 · 13 answers · asked by so so lost 1

I and my friend (a girl) was making a long bus ride which lasted for 13 hours. 6 hours later I had to pee really bad. I kept asking the driver to pull over, but he refused to stop in a dark and deserted place. I might have kept asking him every half an hour. 8 hours later I still need to go. I grabbed an empty water bottle and asked my friend to close her eyes. She asked me to hold on for another hour or two, we might make it to some rest stop. But I ignored her and peed in the bottle. She thinks I did something gross.

2007-08-19 21:00:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm asian and I went to a grocery store to get some things. It was late and the stock boys were out. One came up to me and asked "How do you make rice like in the Chinese restaurants." I responded that I didn't know and tried to move on. He followed me and kept asking. There were several other stockboys watching him and laughing. This stock boy did act a little mentally challenged, but I felt the others could've stopped him.

A few months later I go into the same store and was at the checkout. The clerk there says, "Didn't you already come through here?" Puzzled I said no. She proceeded to say "Oh well, you all look alike." I was upset. I don't know if I have anything legal I can do. I feel like these employees should be trained already not to say these things.

2007-08-19 18:23:35 · 14 answers · asked by Carrie C 2

2007-08-19 18:01:21 · 23 answers · asked by OoLong 3

i hate when people say dont fart and burp its not ladylike. accordin to who? why is it that just because i was born a girl i cant relieve myself of gas. we all have gas ok! a man can fart and everyone will say eww how smelly but a girl does it its just horrible. just because im a girl doesnt mean i should live up to the standards of someone who made this crap up! one of my friends said i have to because im a girl. well because i dont want to do that crap does that mean im not a girl. there is no place in the bible or in the law that i have seen that says i cant be the way i want to be. so who came up with the crap

2007-08-19 17:58:17 · 6 answers · asked by Gina 7

I met a guy through a dating service and we had a great first date. We made plans to go out again, but he stood me up.

Now, I see he has posted his profile again. I set up a fake e-mail address and I'm setting up a "date" with him so he'll be stood up this time.

2007-08-19 17:46:33 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

1. Where do you think you CAN fart in public ?
2. What do you think about farting in public ?
3. If you do fart in public, how would you react ?

2007-08-19 17:39:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-08-19 17:27:58 · 9 answers · asked by mango lover. 2

2007-08-19 16:16:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just started a new job and I am in an office with six other women who all love to talk! They seem to talk all day long and I haven't been able to find any similarities to join into the conversation. My supervisor seems to join in with them like she doesn't mind them not working, but I'm unsure of following the crowd because I am trying to make a good impression since this is a job that I am really excited about having. I am essentially a quiet person anyway, but I lighten up when I get comfortable with people. Im usually a pretty fun person to be around, but these women didn't go to college and I am a new grad. How do I connect with them without kissing up to them and my new boss?

2007-08-19 15:58:11 · 5 answers · asked by SunshineT 2

If you called/wrote/emailed somebody, how long do you allow them to respond before you call/write/email them again? Or do you?

2007-08-19 15:57:27 · 6 answers · asked by Wandering the Shadowlands 1

The thing is, I never liked the guy, in fact, he was at least at one time very rude to me, and at best acted snobbish around me like he thought he was better than me. My boyfriend only knew him because he was a sound-guy for his old band a year ago. They were friendly, but not "friends". I know that people will expect me to be at his funeral, but it seems wrong to me that I should go when the only feeling I harbor for the guy is distaste (no-one that expects to see me there knows I disliked him, I hid it well). I'm not even sorry he died, I mean, yeah, sucks to be him, but I just couldn't care less one way or the other (I'm sure he has some family that misses him, and I do feel bad for them). So, should I go, and be holding back rolling my eyes when they give his eulogy (cause he was a jerk, and I know they will probably be making him out to be perfect in every way), or should I just stay home and send my boyfriend with a cake or something to give to his family?

2007-08-19 15:11:09 · 74 answers · asked by Phaewryn 3

I've been asked this question many times.

Here's the skinny, right from the horse's mouth: What I cannot tell you to your face at the door, because it is against company policy to even discuss the tips.

The driver gets paid a wage, typically minimum wage. However, the car he uses is a commercial driving expense roughly equal to that. $200 (expected) for either loan payment, or extra maintenence expected on a beater car.
$250-300 a month on commercial insurance. I have to have full coverage so that if we collide on the road, everyone gets paid and goes home happy. (We are among the safest drivers on the road, by the way. Unsafe drivers get fired or not hired to begin with)
Maintenence is around 100-200 a month but thats a estimate. Sometimes it is way more than that. Gas is about 300 a month or more. Tires every 4-6 months, could be $400.

Basically, my wage covers the car only. I live on tips alone.

2007-08-19 14:41:50 · 12 answers · asked by askthepizzaguy 4

I live in a townhouse. My neighbors in the building behind me have a rock band which practices in their garage ALL weekend long, usually 4-8 hours a day. Most of the time they keep the garage door shut, but it is still really loud and annoying. I feel like a prisoner in my own home. I can't open my windows or enjoy my patio. Is there any action I can take? Every website says to confront the neighbor, but these kids usually have a whole posse of friends with them at their rehearsals, and I can just picture them as the type to retaliate. They usually do stop playing by 10pm, but the fact that they play all weekend long, for several hours at a time, is extremely bothersome. There must be some sort of action I can take. I work hard all week. I want to enjoy my weekends again.

2007-08-19 14:16:29 · 10 answers · asked by Annoyed 1

first time this ever happened to me.....someone got offended by my sneezing.

I went to McDonalds. As I was putting my trash away, I had some allergies and sneezed several times, into a napkin. I overheard a man saying "cut that out..etc:.., I first assumed he was talking to his little girl especially since he was not any making eye contact with me. However, I noticed that only he said that after I sneezed so it became clear my sneezing bothered him. To verify, I then blew my noise and he said, without making eye contact, to "do it outside because they were trying to eat." I went outside because I am a peaceful person and for all knew, he was some kind of nut job who might have become violent if I sneezed again.

I could see being offended if I was sneezing at a play or movie or something, but it's just McDonalds, not exactly a place one goes to for ambience. There are obnoxious kids, dirty surfaces, loud people all over the place, seemed I was just fitting in.

Thoughts?

2007-08-19 14:12:10 · 29 answers · asked by O'Shea 5

...even though I don't like him that much or really want to hang out with him? The only reason I am thinking of going is because the lunch is at an Indian Buffet restaurant, which I absolutely love.

2007-08-19 13:10:08 · 11 answers · asked by Belko's.Apprentice 1

I'm getting my first car next week...and my friends have already started requesting that I pick them up from work, and other places. I have no problems with this, because that's what friends are for. However, one friend is starting a new job, and is going to be working over an hour away from where we all live. She has to be at work at 9, and will get off at 5. She's already suggested that I take her and pick her up from work, because otherwise, she'll have to rely on the public transportation...which are buses. We live in Houston, and the buses are slow....and the schedule is unreliable. I'd hate for her to have to be late to work and stuff because of this, so i've already agreed. My question is, would it be appropriate to ask for gas money? It's an hours drive,&I don't know if i'll be able to afford to pay for gas to do this regularly,but I also don't want my friend to think i'm being a b*tch for asking..I know friends do these things for one another.

2007-08-19 12:52:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-19 12:52:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do my neighbors need to ask me first if they want to take family pictures in our back yard? I was watching tv and I noticed my neighbors in my backyard. They never asked me if it was ok.

2007-08-19 12:47:31 · 4 answers · asked by MTG 1

have told that you do drugs or alcohol to,have berated,went back and forth with still try to be polite cordial want your attention and even smile at you at times.

2007-08-19 11:59:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just came home from the grocery store. Got to the front of the building w/ a huge jug of tea & several bags in both hands. A group of no less than 5 guys was down there. None were older than 24. None of them did a thing to help me as I kept dropping the door on myself and having to put all my **** down to open the doors.

Another thing that happened in this building is we bought a new couch. We were struggling to bring it down the hall to get it in the elevator & healthy young man after another just wandered past. The thing is, what was obviously a homeless crackhead helped us get it out of our car & into the building w/out asking for anything.

Another thing about this place that annoys the crap out of me is we have a 10PM noise curfew, & apparently no one these days knows how to read a watch as on more than one occasion there have been loud wall shaking band practices going on until 12AM.

So basically, I think I live in a building filled w/ inconsiderate *******. What do you think?

2007-08-19 11:45:37 · 10 answers · asked by Skanky Skeezer 3

Hey. Yesterday we were swimming in gym and there is some work being done to the girls locker room, so the teacher said we had to SHARE - that is boys and girls in one room. I was in disbelief. Can they do this? We ended up being in corners getting changed under towels. it was pretty embarrassing. And it's also quite a big class. Is this legal?

2007-08-19 11:23:25 · 7 answers · asked by Rachmanioff 1

One of my coworkers was talking to me about her family, and how all of her children have graduated from college and are on their own. As a follow up, I asked if she had any grandchildren.
She didn't seem to want to answer.

I don't think this is rude, since she brought up the fact that all of her children are completely grown up and out of the house. But what do you think? Does a question like that somehow imply something negative about her age? Because that's not what I meant at all.

2007-08-19 11:18:19 · 17 answers · asked by Stargazing 3

2007-08-19 10:29:35 · 14 answers · asked by Hot Coco Puff 7

Since I will never give a racist a minute of my time, or even the benifit of doubt.

Does that technicly make me a prejudice person?
should we really treat ALL people fair and equal?

2007-08-19 10:06:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can anyone explain why the Mother of a Knight of our Realm did not show him how to eat with his mouth closed. Sir Alex Ferguson is shown regularley with about a weeks chewing gum in his mouth which he cannot close to chew, this he throws on the ground when the game finishes, please tell him someone. I wonder if he eats his haggis and neaps the same way?

2007-08-19 09:41:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have friends who have had us over to their house for dinner several times. However, their daughter is very allergic to our pets and the one time we had them over for dinner got ill. We have taken them out to eat, but don't feel we are responding with the proper courtesy. What is the best way to handle this??

2007-08-19 08:53:13 · 5 answers · asked by US_DR_JD 7

I just answered a question on swearing and it got me thinking. A lot of people do believe that swearing signals a lack of intelligence or an underdeveloped vocabulary; they can't think of any other word etc etc.

I would argue that a person being able to use a wide variety of cusswords appropriate and effective to a given situation is in fact showing a larger vocabulary than people who refuse to use any such word.

I am an English teacher and as such, am expected to know and use lots of words, and even explain what they mean (and yes, I have lost count of the amount of times I have been asked to define buggery and cunnilingus by spotty teenage boys and girls).

I realise that there are times and places when swearing isn't the right thing to do, but equally, there are times when nothing else will do. So, if you think only stupid people swear, could you please explain why so I can try to understand?

2007-08-19 08:46:12 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a job interview tommorow and I don't know what to wear bring and it's in tk max! Where I'm a meant to go! Like to the till and say im here for a job interview! I'm only 16! So it's my first ever job interview..

Please help meee

2007-08-19 08:13:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous