Marriage & Divorce - 18 October 2006

My ex husband and I do not get on, mostly due to the manner he treats our two children. We parted company with a bang after he manhandled me and hurt me, which the kids know about. He didn't intended to hurt me, but nonetheless he did. He met a new partner and moved in with her and this made the kids feel insecure. I know this cannot be helped, but he made them aware that they come 2nd to his partner. On one visit my ex hurt our eldest child (12), she needed to be chastised, but he still hurt her and he should know better. Now she refuses to visit with him. He does not try with her, he comes and collects our youngest (who is starting not to want to go either) and even forgot the eldest's birthday! Both children feel like they mean little to their father, he even told them they were only guests in his new home on their visits. Because the youngest is now refusing to visit as often he is now threatening court and saying i should force the kids to visit. I would appreciate any advice

2006-10-18 06:34:00 · 14 answers · asked by Godiva 1

I dont know what to do? I have been with the same guy for just about 4 yrs. We were together before for a year and then seperated for a year adn got back together & got married (we have been married for over 2 yrs now). He is a raelly GREAT guy and treats our children very well! However, for some reason I feel unhappy. I have felt like this now for about 6 months. I cant kiss him or be intatmate w/out feeling sick to my stomach. He is EVERYTHING I could ask for in a relationship but for some reason I am not attracted to him anymore! He does have some bad habits but so does everyone else. I recently meet w/ my high school sweetheart (who I was w/ for 3 yrs), and ever since that day I feel like I want to be with him. I know for sure that I still LOVE him and he still loves me. We have talked about wanting to really get back together. He is married and so am I! But ever since that one day with him, I have been totally depressed and cry a lot! And wnat to be with him so bad!!

2006-10-18 06:31:25 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-18 06:31:13 · 5 answers · asked by Sosan M 1

Hi, i have sole custody of my son who now is 14 wishing to reside with his dad. I am allowing him his choice on a temp intermin basis. I was wondering what is the best way of words to change a private agreement, but to make it as legal binding contract. eg:should i ask for joint custody? He wants sole cusotdy and I am not ready to give him that as of yet. What are my other options? Any help is appreciated. thanks

2006-10-18 06:27:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 5'2 and 160 lbs. I've gained about 40 lbs in the last year and a half. We've been together 8 years and have 2 children. Should I just leave him or wait for him to leave me? Should I work hard and lose the weight to save the relationship? I know I need to lose the weight but I am having a hard time getting motivated with his constant put-downs.
I am really stressed out, depressed, and don't feel like he treats me well enough to do all this for him. Meanwhile, he doesn't gain weight but surely doesn't look as good as he used to either.

2006-10-18 06:24:58 · 62 answers · asked by Trinity 3

If so why hide from your husband. My wife said it has to do with being self-conscious but I would like to be a part of the fun

2006-10-18 06:21:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I would like to see what my ex is making a year...I think he is lying to avoid paying more child support.

2006-10-18 06:21:27 · 8 answers · asked by ruby 2

2006-10-18 06:12:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-18 06:11:11 · 6 answers · asked by Linda H 1

2006-10-18 06:10:43 · 26 answers · asked by jenny64093 1

My husband was emotionally abusing me for the last few years until i met someone else. When he found out, he started being really nice. So i made the decision to make my marriage work. My lover, who is married as well, and i broke up because of this. Now, my husband is back to his abusive self..often giving excuses for his behaviour that i cheated which made him return to his old self. He keeps bringing my affair up even though we both agreed to leave it behind us and try again. I have 2 beautiful kids. what should I do? I am thinking of leaving him...

2006-10-18 06:08:32 · 38 answers · asked by angelheart 2

I am always the one who asks if we are having ice cream. I'd feel better about eating it, if she suggested it. Maybe I should buy different flavors?

2006-10-18 06:08:16 · 10 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

i feel so lonely when home alone

2006-10-18 06:04:33 · 10 answers · asked by schleichercbob 1

My soon to be ex husband is an abusive, liar, cheater and negligent man. I filed for divorce on April 14 so he deicded to get back with an old girlfriend of his so I ask my lawyer if it matters that he is dating someone else he says no and that it is ok if I would want to do the same so I chose to. In July and then my ex finds out and begins sending threatening messages to my boyfriend saying he wants to beat the living stuff out of him. Remember he is doing the same thing also, however I don't bother his girlfriend. He was overseas when this was happening so I informed his LTC and he told my ex that he faces jail time should we press charges. Now what I am wondering is it possible for me to draw up a contract of what i want out of the divorce and set up a visitation schedule for him to see our son that he could either agree to or face the jail time? He has caused so much pain in our lives I just don't want him to think that he is going to get away with doing things everytime he does

2006-10-18 06:02:42 · 14 answers · asked by Nikki 1

Myhusband is going through a difficult time and keeps telling me he doesn't think things will work out with us. I tell him to leave and work out what he wants and he tells me that he can't afford it or he misses our sons too much.

This has been going on for months.

I don't want to push him but it is very difficult for me to live my life not knowing if I am planning a future with or without myhusband.

There is psychological things to consider here and he is signed up for help and has gone once but oit is taking weeks to get to the next session and they tell me with his case it could be a over a year if not more for him to work out everything.

I love him with all my heart and want what is best for him but I have to do what is best for me too. I need an answer. I have desions to make financially etc to consider.

Currently he is not bringing in an income. I handle everything for us from the finances to mowing the lawn.

Anyone been through this? Do I wait? Should he go?

2006-10-18 06:02:15 · 10 answers · asked by Sandra C 2

say the wife is a virgin and new to marriage. what is the best way to break woman virginity in the first night? (from people who have exprience please).

2006-10-18 06:02:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

when I have sex with my husband I cannot orgasam unless I I start thinking of women.... I love my husband very much and he does turn me on but, I can not finish unless I have thoughts of women sometimes someone I know or anywoman I saw during the day that looked good why is it am I gay or what, im confused I don't know what to think.

2006-10-18 05:58:22 · 29 answers · asked by nanonuno 1

Help, my husband and I have been married for 4 years and together for 6. We had sex all the time like twice a day at first and now it is about 1 to 2 times a week. My husband asks me every day just about , to have sex with him but I am not in the mood the only time we really do it is when I want. sometimes I will tell him we can do it that night and then when the time comes i will say im not in the mood......................OH MY GOD IM A JERK

2006-10-18 05:56:19 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

in the past i caught my loved one using drugs by injecting them.we have crawled out of hell,only to notice the changing behaviors again.is there any other place to on the body to use the needle and what is it going to look like?(oh,the drug is meth)please thank you

2006-10-18 05:53:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live in Romania with him, so i'm not self sufficiant, I can't just take him out to dinner... (and no sex either guys)... so I have to find something online.. have any ideas?

2006-10-18 05:51:04 · 6 answers · asked by Pook 2

I see so many times here on this forum that men will avoid going to relationship counseling if their wives or girlfriends suggest it. I mean, if you had a financial problem, you'd go to a tax expert. If you had a foot problem you'd go to a foot expert. If you have a car problem you go to a car expert. So what's the BFD??

My view is, I think many of us had bad relationship role models growing up. I know I did. Unless your parents were similar to the Bradys, you may have skewed ideas on what makes a good relationship. Even women who think they know how to have a good relationship can be wrong; an expert or counselor can set you straight on so many different things, it can be a real light bulb moment for many people. And if your insurance covers it, why not go learn some new tricks? Sometimes ONE small piece of advice can save a marriage.

2006-10-18 05:46:23 · 13 answers · asked by Ade 6

I'm confused as to whether or not I should order one of the 'name change packages' that say they provide forms to fill out to change my last name on all legal documents. Some other sources say that my name will automatically change once my marriage license is sent in. Which is right?

2006-10-18 05:44:06 · 12 answers · asked by PAULA M 1

2006-10-18 05:40:46 · 31 answers · asked by patagonia 1

2006-10-18 05:38:48 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I resently told my husband that I had cheated on him when we were seperated. I know I did something wrong. I am not dening that. but before the big confestion we ad been trying to have a baby, now of course that isnt something that we are trying for. But lately he has been talking about never having childeren, I for one want a family. I really dont know what to do. Is this a normal reaction? Will it just go away with time. Or do you think he will ever get over it?

2006-10-18 05:38:42 · 12 answers · asked by JOJO 2

2006-10-18 05:37:23 · 6 answers · asked by tmg30 1

of frankenstein dvd? The copy I have is scratched. I'm really into horror movies and she thinks I'm odd, so I hide these from my wife. I know, it's not healthy.

2006-10-18 05:29:41 · 23 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

I asked earlier if it was acceptable for a man to have sex with another while married would you? Due, to the answers of a not so astonishing yes. My question to you men would be, if it was acceptable and you would. How would you feel if your wife had sex with another man?

2006-10-18 05:29:05 · 9 answers · asked by BB 2

2006-10-18 05:28:10 · 11 answers · asked by sagar m 1

2006-10-18 05:26:41 · 21 answers · asked by PATRICIA P 1