am I gay or just confused?

Question

when I have sex with my husband I cannot orgasam unless I I start thinking of women.... I love my husband very much and he does turn me on but, I can not finish unless I have thoughts of women sometimes someone I know or anywoman I saw during the day that looked good why is it am I gay or what, im confused I don't know what to think.

Answer 1

Gotta be gay! Try bringing a woman into the bed with you and your husband. Maybe you just need some spice!

Answer 2

You are not gay, most women like other women and they turn them on, because really women are more beautiful than men. I think your husband is not doing the best job when it comes to sex, or you are just a little sexually bored with him. Try to show him more what you like.

Answer 3

LOL! Very funny.
I think you're not attracted to your husband sexually! If you have to think of other women while having sex then yes you are not attracted to him in that way. Maybe other ways but just not that one. Sorry. I wouldn't say get a divorce though. And I d a m n sure won't tell him that I think of women when we are love making.
Oh and I don't think you're gay.

Answer 4

Maybe you should try having sex for fun with a woman and see what happens...maybe he (your husband) is just not arousing enough excitement in you do not blame your self or beat up on your self maybe you are a little confused...it al depends on your age bracket too you maybe be going through some sort of mid life crisis called menopause.

Answer 5

You just have a very good fantasy. Go with it. Next year maybe you'll have a new one?

If you still think you might be gay. Try kissing or hugging a gay woman. It may be kind of gross.

Then you'll have to come up with something new?

Answer 6

Although sex is as much a mental exercise as it is physical. I do not believe that you are gay, bi sexual or any of the sort. I do feel that you should consult your gynecologist and see what s/he suggests. Secondly, talk to your husband. Open the lines of communication, tell him what you want. Explore your options and fantasies.Maybe through creative technique and focus you can achieve your objective b/c of him instead of in-spite of him. Good Luck

Answer 7

Gay? Maybe you need to try....woman are all we want to be, and who would know better than another woman? Don't get me wrong I am not gay...but if you try the other side (a woman) you may find your own answer. Then the confused part would be gone...maybe ask your husband if he would mind...

Answer 8

ooooohhh, I don't know. I have heard that women more turned on by the physicallity of women rather than men...Only you can really answer that. Is this new or have you always done this with other partners?

Good luck. I would suggest exploring except your husband may not appreciate you fooling around with other women so.....

Answer 9

Are you imagining the woman having an O? If so, it makes perfect sense and isn't gay. You are just creating an aural image in your mind of what you want to do and it frees you up to do it.

If you are thinking about a woman and thinking, oh my gosh, I want to be naked with her and lick her between the legs, then you might be at least bi-. But you like sausage in your buns right? So, that means you are not purely gay. Just bi perhaps.

Hope I helped.

Answer 10

i had fantasies about women for years and thought i might be bi.....then i slept with a woman or two......discovered i only like women from the waist up. grab a woman and go for it...see if you like it. but be sure to ask your husband first...he may want to join or watch.
you may or may not be gay or bi. you may or may not be confused.....you are just curious and that is absolutely normal. more women than men are curious about same gender sex...by a long shot!