Marriage & Divorce - 24 August 2006

My husband called an "old friend" of his and didn't tell me about it. When I found the number on our phone bill, he lied and said he didn't know who it was. He had called her 5 times in 1 night and then again a couple of weeks later but he swears he never intended to take it further. Then why did he lie about it? He says he loves me and he didn't think of it as cheating when he was doing it; if he was truly not looking for sex, why else would a man risk his whole family? Is he just an idiot or am I the fool?

2006-08-24 04:39:19 · 30 answers · asked by JC 1

Everything is done, the separation agreement, property settlement, all been taken care of and settled and it's states that in the divorce complaint. If I do not disagree w/anything on the complaint and do not contest the divorce can it just go ahead w/o me filing an answer? I called the county clerk and she said that I do not have to do anything unless I disagree w/the terms. They have to send me a copy of everything that's filed and that's all the complaint is and I do not have to go to the hearing b/c if they were going to try to change anything or take away what's already been given, they would have had to notify me of that change and they have not. Just looking for a simple answer if I will be ok not answering the complaint since I do not disagree w/anything and want it to move forward but don't want to get screwed if there's a way for them to do that..

2006-08-24 04:38:51 · 5 answers · asked by readyforadivorce 1

2006-08-24 04:38:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-24 04:37:15 · 3 answers · asked by Mike L 2

I have often wonder how couples can have children together which I think is a life long commitment but then when asked why they don't marry they say its too big of a commitment financially, emotionally, etc. wouldn't it be better emotionally for the children to know their parents have committed to staying together. I know the argument that divorce is difficult on the children which it is but isn't just ending just as difficult and I would think easier to give up on each other when times are tough...just wondering, what are your opinons.

2006-08-24 04:36:55 · 12 answers · asked by sammie 1

"if we broke up it would not matter to him cause i bring nothing to table" his words and i bi%ch all the time. Now here's the question Would you go the wedding and reherasal dinner after all this?? I keep going back and forth need other input

2006-08-24 04:26:06 · 39 answers · asked by ycd71 2

2006-08-24 04:25:54 · 4 answers · asked by sska 1

I have been married for 13 years and at first our marriage was really good, we got marrred at 15. As the years went by we never really talked anymore.I know that we loved each other but just didn't show it.I started telling my husband that I was going to leave if things didn't change his answer was always I don't give a crap leave if you want to I don't care. So after hearing this so many times I believed he meant it. I meet a builder I am a Realtor and became good friends with him and eventually had a affair with him I know the affair was wrong but I thought my husband didn't care after all that is what he told me so many times.My husband knows what happened as I told him we tried to make it work but I think neither of us thought the other meant it and now he has moved out and says he is tired of trying. This builder I know really loves me and has been there for me this whole time even as just a frind to talk to. I love my husband and I can't imagine my life w/o him. What should I do?

2006-08-24 04:23:27 · 21 answers · asked by Confused Beyond Belief 1

i believe he is not my friend

2006-08-24 04:21:06 · 6 answers · asked by DORIS A 1

I saw this question on a website and wanted to know our stories tell me, vent, I would like to read and give away 10 points!

2006-08-24 04:17:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've been together for 3 years, and are planning to marry in the Spring. His marriage to his ex was the result of a "suprise pregnancy" (she's recently admitted that she new what she was doing, and did it on purpose). He tried very hard for many years to make things work out, even having a second child, but it was inevitable.The relationship I have with his children is wonderful, I love them as my own. However, being a christian, I question whether we can create that perfect life that I've always wanted, by just doing things the right way, and correct order, when I approach the subject of children, he shys away claiming "Ive already done all that stuff", refering to the two children that we see once a month and on holidays. He's a wonderful father and I know he'll make a great husband, but I worry that our values and ambitions will conflict. So basically what I need is advice and like a "What to expect when you're marrying a man who's been married before and has 2 kids" book.

2006-08-24 04:17:05 · 12 answers · asked by J.A.G. 1

I have an idea about some of the questions that may be asked, but would like to hear from someone that has already gone through the process. What questions were asked of you and your fiance/fiancee?

2006-08-24 04:10:59 · 14 answers · asked by just r 1

I feel very depressed and alone in my relationship and wantt o be happy again. I truly feel I want to seperate from my current relationship and be single. Does this mean I am brekaing our family and being selfish?
Two children involved and I am not stopping the father from seeing them.

2006-08-24 04:10:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm married for 14 years. 2 Kids. Full-time job. Wife is stay-at-home mom.
I also have a part-time weekend job. Overall, I make around 50K plus.

I work 8 to 14 hours a day.
I have school after work to further my education.
I skip lunch every day to cut down on financial spending and get more work done.
I come home at night and do at least 80% of the overall chores. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, dishes etc...plus be Super-Dad for my kids before bedtime.
I'm Super-Husband after the kids are in bed.
Is it too much to ask for a thank you or a little appreciation?

I'm wondering If I'm just a messed-up person or whether there are others like me. I almost feel like a single parent sometimes.

2006-08-24 04:09:50 · 24 answers · asked by genetic_traitor 2

2006-08-24 04:04:10 · 3 answers · asked by hellokitty 2

my first anniversary is coming up in about three weeks, I have know idea what i should do for my wife to proclaim my love for her. i want to do something for her to show her her i much i love her. the thing is that i will probably be shipped off to army boot camp about a week or two after wards. so i want it to be special, romantic and rememberable. any thoughts or ideas?

2006-08-24 03:59:00 · 4 answers · asked by daniel e 3

Go bowling, see a movie, buy a prostitute?

Any suggestions.

2006-08-24 03:56:36 · 15 answers · asked by Lothario 1

Did you blame either parent or were you just mad at both of them? How did you deal with it, especially as teenagers. Did you ever get past it and did it hurt the relationship you have now?

2006-08-24 03:55:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Husband & Wife jus had a newborn in addition to a 2 yr old daughter. Husband has bad drinking habits, drink until land in hospital. Husband also has been returning home late very often.

Wife starts to persuade Husband to return home early and stop drinking. Wife did suspect if Husband was 'straying'.

Husband starts to feel 'controlled', thinking of divorcing his Wife.

Is Husband guilty of something? Is Husband not giving Wife the sense of security? Is Husband taking Wife for granted? Is Wife being too paranoid? Should Wife give way and try not to control because of the kids?

2006-08-24 03:51:06 · 24 answers · asked by DumbUglyBoring 2

2006-08-24 03:47:24 · 25 answers · asked by Lothario 1

I thought marriage was supposed to be a two way street? After a few years my hubby got very lazy and boring. I asked for counseling, he asked what he could do to change, but never did. After two kids I got depressed and he said I was fine just to stop being so sad. {How kind is that} Things got rocky and someone else came into the pic. I left hubby and he says it's all my fault. Hubby and I were going to work it out and we were sleeping together while in the meantime he had a new girlfriend. He doesn't want me to ever tell her about us. I want to tell her so bad so she sees what kind of a person he is but I don't want to hurt her. She is a really nice girl. I just hope if they stay together he doesn't make her his "mother" also. Am I being stupid???

2006-08-24 03:45:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had an affair with a man that I work with, I really thought that my marriage was coming to an end. We never spent time together. My husband would have rather spent time with his father or friends than with me. I felt neglected and then this man came into my life and showed me how I should have been treated. I told my husband what had happened and he acted like he wanted to try to save our marriage at first but he kept bringing up what happened and I don't blame him but he expected me to get over what I did and all I felt was him trying to throw it back into my face over and over again. He has now walked out my life and when I cal him he really doesn't even act like he wants to talk to me. We have been married for 13 years and we have 2 children together. I know we have always loved each other but never showed each other that much. I would tell him I had something I wanted to talk about and he would tell me he didn't want to talk, he never seemed to have time for me. What should I do?

2006-08-24 03:45:36 · 16 answers · asked by Confused Beyond Belief 1

2006-08-24 03:40:48 · 8 answers · asked by ? 7

2006-08-24 03:35:21 · 50 answers · asked by Lothario 1

A test? What happened?

2006-08-24 03:32:07 · 13 answers · asked by fairygodmother 3

2006-08-24 03:31:38 · 16 answers · asked by fatkid0006 1

I need some help...

We have the opportunity to either get married or have new windows - Cannot have both as cant afford both.
I really want to get married but there would be no money left over to pay for new windows.
We need windows as we have wooden ones at the moment that let in the cold etc..
Wouldnt be able to save up either
Is a possibility his dad will pay for windows next yr.....
What do we do?

2006-08-24 03:29:50 · 10 answers · asked by schmushe 6

2006-08-24 03:26:15 · 16 answers · asked by Lothario 1

I'm 23 years old and single. But I have this one question. Are you afraid of attachment to your spouse?

What I mean is, in the prospect of death, does it ever bother you that when you die you will turn the rest of your family's lives upside down?

I know that in the wedding vows - you vow to stay together until death do you part. But this really doesn't answer my question. This issue is also one of the reasons why I don't date. I don't want to run the risk of destroying someone else's life. Please share your opinion.

2006-08-24 03:24:25 · 18 answers · asked by Oklahoman 6

She is so lazy. What is wrong with women?

2006-08-24 03:21:33 · 23 answers · asked by Lothario 1