Marriage & Divorce - 15 June 2006

Had a family BBQ for my husbands 40th birthday. Friends , family , our kids , were there. We were having a great time until the stripper showed up....

2006-06-15 12:08:52 · 13 answers · asked by shasta 5

Friday is our 5 year anniversary and our love life has been a bit ho-hum for the last several years (alright almost our entire marriage). I often wonder if he just sees me as a "nice girl" who doesn't want to try new things (when we met I was a virgin and made him wait about 18 months, I am also a Christian). He also never suggests new things and is very passive during sex- letting me be in control all the time. To try to bring some spark I convinced him to rent a hotel room for Friday night with a jet tub- to further clue him in I left him a gift this morning when I went to work (a small red bag containing a black thong, massage oil and a suggestive card). He found the gift, but didn't email or text message- I don't know if he thought I was crazy. I just don't know what else to do to get his attention. I am becoming afraid that I am going to totally put myself out there tomorrow and have him reject me. I shouldn't feel this way about my husband, should I? I just don't get reassurance.

2006-06-15 12:05:11 · 12 answers · asked by nola 2

2006-06-15 12:00:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

i went to meet this guy my daughter wanted to date and i talk ed to him about a hour and half . when i got home my husband was mad and said i didn't want to spend any time with him and that i was a ho .

2006-06-15 11:58:34 · 15 answers · asked by sherianne_29 2

I have been to court and won custody. After having a soft spot for my son and his mother I decided to let my son stay with his mom. His mom however is very crude, vile, arrogant, ghetto, and acts like she still hasn't grown up. She tells me one thing and then her mother and her sister say another but she say's its nothing but a plot (easy to believe b/c the grandma used to be very conaiving and deceptive). IN any case my son is staying with me during the summer and I wanted to let him attend a summer day camp at YMCA to give him some extra curricular activities and to meet and mingle with kids his age. Mother is beligerant n very disrespectful constantly cursing n is saying that she doesnt want him to be in a program. She never lets him do anything to provide him with fun experiences so I'm told nor does she help with his HW from school...in any case she now refuses to send me important documents such as birth certificate and SS card to have me enroll him......how do some deal?

2006-06-15 11:57:01 · 7 answers · asked by Truth 2

2006-06-15 11:55:40 · 15 answers · asked by bbcranks 4

method of controlling men ? Is this ethical by the way ?

2006-06-15 11:54:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

she broke our marriage and is ruining my daughters lives they will think it's ok to dump a guy and be with more than one.any ideas?

2006-06-15 11:53:31 · 12 answers · asked by Rob C 1

2006-06-15 11:51:41 · 8 answers · asked by kev 1

2006-06-15 11:51:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-06-15 11:49:58 · 4 answers · asked by Guy G 1

In every disagreement, he feels threatened and becomes defensive then he tells you that he/she wants to get divorce but he does not. is it a habit or is he taking step towards divorce secretely?

2006-06-15 11:35:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

why do u men hide it from your wives? i think it is an awesome thing i love doing it together. just curious what the big secret about it is???when married or in a long term that is. being single can be a lot different

2006-06-15 11:28:00 · 15 answers · asked by ford_lovergirl_69 2

2006-06-15 11:27:40 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I left a letter for my husband stating that I need more help around the house from him, or he can leave in 2 weeks. My husband suffers from chronic pain and I think that he is also depressed. I work all day (the docs won't let him), pick up the kids from the sitters (he cannot care for them all day), fix dinner, and put the kids to bed. Weekends I do laundry, wash dishes, do shopping and we visit friends in the evenings. I am so TIRED. I get no rest except for maybe an hour between putting our boys to bed and going to bed myself. While I'm at work my hubby is on the computer or sleeping most of the day. He's made dinner once in the last month and a half (I started a new job), the day I had my tubes tied. I know the ultimatum will p*** him off, but I know that this was the right thing to do. I'm off work in a half hour and I'm kind of affraid to face him. He's not a violent person, but when he's mad he shuts me out.

Any words of encouragement?

2006-06-15 11:26:56 · 10 answers · asked by kirsty h 2

interested in hearing what pleases a man in a relationship just what is it that make you men happy? tell me your perfect soul mate. i wanna see how many men think the same. thanks yall

2006-06-15 11:25:47 · 20 answers · asked by ford_lovergirl_69 2

Alright, so she had a 6 month affair on me and cleaned out the house and bank account. We hadn't talked in about 5 months when she called me out of the blue, I forgave her and decided it might be worth trying to work out. Anyhow, one of my biggest pet peeves was that she never returned my phone calls and rarely picked up the phone...

Soooo, I was waiting for her to give me a call last Saturday and didn't hear from her (no big surprise). I ended up going home with someone else. I've since avoided her like a plague.

At this point I'm numb over the issue but would really like to know what the hell she was thinking. Why even bother apologizing for everything to only come back and pull the same crap all over again? It really doesn't matter as the only thing I'm ever going to say to her again is "SIGN THE DAMN PAPERS" but I really feel she has sociopathic qualities and might need professional help.

Any feedback is appreciated...

2006-06-15 11:25:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm always honest with him as to who I talk to, but I didn't tell him I had slept with the guy he knows I speak to as "friends". It's only happened once but it happened and i feel I need to tell him. Do you tell him in a suttle way or bluntly say something like that to a person that loves you. I don't feel the same for him as I used to, and I wonder if it's because i feel something for this other guy. The thing is my 7 yr. boyfriend is or was now for 3 weeks an alcoholic and wants to change now that I feel it's too late. What should I do. In everything I do I see this other guy who makes me laugh and we did start out as friends but it became more one night when my boyfriend and I had split up. We've had problems this whole time we've been together and most of it was because of the drinking, but now that he wants to stop I wonder if telling him will make him depressed and want to start drinking again. I think it's still to early to tell he's only been sober for 3 wks.

2006-06-15 11:09:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Serious answers only (unless they are sarcastically funny, I do love sarcasm, but it's gotta be funny, not mean)

2006-06-15 11:04:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-06-15 11:00:47 · 7 answers · asked by abel g 2

do other married people feel the same way? Doesn't it feel stronger than when she was a girlfriend? (or boyfriend for the ladies)

2006-06-15 10:58:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

like for example his mom tells him something to do and he will do it whith his kid she will basicly tell him how to raise her and tuff like that i dont know if tis her budding in or he so atached to her.

2006-06-15 10:52:22 · 4 answers · asked by yaya 2

I need serious answers, and the truth please!! I want to know if my husband and I are having 2 much sex, not 2 much, or the normal, I want to know what is the average when you are newly weds...

2006-06-15 10:49:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband cheated on me w/ some movie actress wanna be he met on the set .So I moved out with my 4 yr old 3 months ago.Never looked back & concentrating on getting my life together. I'm financially secure as I have a great job.I look good and work out.There is a guy at work who wants to go out with me but he's willing to wait while I take time for myself.I have only slept w/ my husband.He made fun of me for not having experience in bed. But now my husband is begging me to come back.He broke it off w/ that girl & wants to go to counseling.He keeps crying when he comes to pick up my daughter.I don't want him.I loved him 100% & he din't care.Too late.Now this other chick is really mad at me because she thinks he dumped her 'cause of me.She keeps calling my house asking me to leave him alone.I told her that he's all hers.She says she wants to be family w/ him & my daughterand I'm standing in the way.It's scary. I don't know what to do.

2006-06-15 10:48:14 · 19 answers · asked by kelly 2

Before meeting my ex I had a house which I sold to live near her. The new house was mortgaged in my sole name before getting married and having one child.
The house was remortaged in January 2005 to help pay off debt she help accumulate, and debts continued to accumulate in excess of £18,000
Due to excessive spending, eventually a personal loan had to be taken out of £15000 agian in my sole name. Financial situation got so bad that there was not sufficient money to pay for sufficient heating, food and clothing. Many arguments erupted when I asked her to try to cut down.
This year she said she seperated from me, saying she wanted her own money (been married 2yr) and met someone else, (she’s since got herself into more debt!). Leaving me to stuggle on my own. She's never worked, and since got herself a new house with rent paid for by social security. She now says she wants my house!! This is so unfair. Is she entitled to it, and make me even worse off, leaving me homeless?

2006-06-15 10:42:30 · 5 answers · asked by liquid_ice_71 2

i luv my husband soooooo much! but i cheat on him sometimes. i also flirt shamelessly with any hot guy around. he has never cheated on me. hes the best. hes never so much as raised his voice to me. he supports me totally so i dont have to work. our sex life is spectacular! 2-3 times a day, every day. i dont know y i do this, do u?

2006-06-15 10:39:25 · 18 answers · asked by scooter trash 2

My sister is in an abusive relationship, she has been for over 12 years. They have 2 kids together, I've tried to get her to leave him but she doesn't, The begining of this year he caused her to break her acl in her left leg. She had to have surgery for it and shes still with him. She says he has changed but I don't believe it. I've been with her through the broken ribs and nose, tons of bruises and other things, I think he has damaged her self esteem so much that shes afraid to be without him. She needs to leave him but she won't listen to me. I can't give up on her because shes my sister and I love her, but I don't know how to get through to her, any ideas?

2006-06-15 10:31:46 · 37 answers · asked by gmglasvegas 2

Hi, I am absolutely confused, horrified and upset.
Last night or rather this morning, I woke up around 3:30AM (I smelled cigerette smoke and am highly allergic, my husband sneaks the occasional cigarette in the apt)
Well I walk into the computer room and see that my husband is in a TEEN chat room with multiple chat rooms open. My husband is 47 years old. I was really horrified and just walked out, this morning I couldn't speak to him and rather texted him asking if these teenage girls knew how old he was. He replied yes and I am a fool. I have known for a while that he fetishes over young women, I am 28, there is 19 years between us, we have been together for 11 years. Yup thats right since I was 17. For some reason i thought that I was an exception, new or whatever. But as I get older our sex life has waned and his use of "Barely Legal" porn has risen. But the fact that he is interacting with teenage girls is really alarming to me. I don't know what to do. I feel really betrayed

2006-06-15 10:30:50 · 54 answers · asked by confused young wife 1

I have been married for almost two years now. My husband and I dated for 5 years (on & off) before getting married.. Once, when we were broken up, I dated this guy and became really into him.. almost in love or something for the short time we dated. We never went all the way but got VERY close a several times.......... Well, it's been about 3 years since I have seen him.. Why do I still think about him? He was the best partner at forplaying that I ever had!!!!!!!

Is it wrong to fantasize about him? I have never cheated on my husband and do not intend to either.. I just want to know why I think about him so often.

2006-06-15 10:25:09 · 11 answers · asked by just me000 4

2006-06-15 10:22:47 · 3 answers · asked by crazytexasgirl 1