she broke our marriage and is ruining my daughters lives they will think it's ok to dump a guy and be with more than one.any ideas?
2006-06-15 11:53:31 · 12 answers · asked by Rob C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the kids need me.i rasied them.i stayed with her when she balloned to 260 and she had bypass surgery and thinks she's to good for me.she took my family and the house where i grew up from me i want retribution!!
2006-06-15 12:00:24 · update #1
i want revenge i want her to feel the way i feel.i want to meet someone and have her help me raise my girls right.does anyone understand what i really want?
2006-06-15 14:24:57 · update #2
I've been there.
Don't abandon your children. If you really are the better parent, get custody and cut her out of your lives as much as you can.
Retribution will never work. She is the mother of your children, any retribution against her is retribution against them. No matter how old a person is, thier mother is still part of them, and they are still a part of her.
Losing the house sucks, but , Dude, it's a house. Just a place. the memories of it are in you. In your heart and mind. She can't touch that.
Best advice I can give.... Don't expect to get over it. Divorce is like death only worse. The person you gave your heart and life to is dead, and some other evil warped person has taken thier place. Like Night of the Living Dead or something. How can anyone ever get over that? That pain will probably never go away.
The good bit is that eventually you will learn to cope with it.
Believe me, you are not alone in your pain. There are sooo many of us out there sufferring the same way you are.
It make me wonder sometimes how anything so simple sounding as "divorce" can wreck so many lives.
2006-06-15 12:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by ljfmw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hatred in your heart. Let go of your hatred and you will feel better. She already had her retribution as you said she is just having a bypass. Sometimes this kind of human will never appreciate whatever she have now.... such as a good husband like you... Don't think of revenge, because its will makes you more painful... Why suffer??
2006-06-15 21:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about this a lot, and seek counseling. If she won't go to counseling with you, go by yourself and get professional advice on what your next step should be. Pray together, or pray alone if she won't pray with you. Instruct your girls the best way you know how. They will see what her behavior does to your family, and if you keep loving them and talking openly with them, they will know that it's not right. If all else fails, get a divorce, but that should be the last resort. I hope everything works out for you. It will take a lot of work.
2006-06-15 18:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a good relationship with you're daughter? If you do talk to her, just for her to know you are there, and you care about everything that is around her. We listen to everything our parents have to say even thought it seems that we don't care or that we ignoring the advice. Defenetly she'll like her mom's way of thinking because her mom is ok with everything, but she will come to you whenever she need a real advice.
2006-06-15 19:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by ixelda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your children, move out, file for divorce, ask for child support....
Why would anyone stay in a relationship that is broken...and to use the children as an excuse to stay together is just wrong...the children will be miserable...the adults will be miserable...Children learn what they live...break that cycle of misery...make yourself happy, give your children a stable, happy Father...Be their "HERO"
2006-06-15 19:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by Barbie in a Truck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you act now after the divorce. Usually it has a different affect on girls than guys. More than likely the will resent her for it when they get older and will do just the oppsite of her
2006-06-15 18:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by brittany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her- explain that she needs to clean up her act or the marriage is completely over. Plus you need to talk to your daughters and explain to them that just dumping guys and having more then one boyfriend is just going to cause them problems later down the line.
2006-06-15 18:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very traumatic for children if their parents break up. This is why it s crucial that you are very strong now and focus your energy on a upbringing of your daughters with love and morals.
2006-06-15 18:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did she feel she had to leave your marriage. If she is a habitual cheater then you have every right to file for divorce. It was not ok for her to dump you if she was cheating!
2006-06-15 18:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there! I had to find the personal strength to leave so that my children knew it wasn't OK for their mother to disrespect me or her vows.
2006-06-15 18:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋