i luv my husband soooooo much! but i cheat on him sometimes. i also flirt shamelessly with any hot guy around. he has never cheated on me. hes the best. hes never so much as raised his voice to me. he supports me totally so i dont have to work. our sex life is spectacular! 2-3 times a day, every day. i dont know y i do this, do u?
2006-06-15 10:39:25 · 18 answers · asked by scooter trash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because you have very low self esteem. You can't trust your self and therefore you have a hard time trusting others. Get help... or you will be divorced.
2006-06-15 10:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by Brent 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do NOT love your husband. Love is many things, but being unfaithful in thought and act are not part of love. Sex is NOT love. Love is NOT cheating when the opportunity arises. Love is NOT flirting.
Love is wanting the best for your spouse and sacrificing whatever is necessary to make sure your spouse is content and happy. Love is companionship, friendship, staying the course during the tough times, patience, gentleness, understanding, sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice, unconditional.
Do your husband a favor: either learn how to love him or divorce him so he can find someone who does know how to love him.
If you are uncertain about how to love him, get into a Bible based marriage counseling situation. Your relationship is headed for disaster. How do you think your husband will feel when he finds out you have been unfaithful to him? Delighted? No Supported? Not hardly. Completely and utterly destroyed and betrayed. Yes!
2006-06-15 17:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you're bored sitting on your can all day not working. Gee, must be nice to sit home and watch soaps while the rest of us go to work every morning. He takes care of you, treats you wonderfully and you have a great sex life. Most of us could only dream of being so lucky as to get married to a guy that supports us fully so we don't have to go to our jobs where we're paid 75 cents to every man's dollar and treated like second-class citizens because we're women...where men stare at our chests and don't listen to a word we say even when we are experts in our fields and can statistically back up everything we say. Oh sure. Doesn't bother any of us at all. Your poor husband should wise up and find himself a woman who'd appreciate him and be faithful to him. He deserves that much. Pathetic that you have all this time on your hands and he does all these things for you yet you can't do one thing for him which is keep your legs closed around other men.
2006-06-15 17:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an attention junkie. You flirt because you want other men to notice you, find you sexy, find your sexually desirable. It's not the sex, because you acknowledge your sex life with your husband is good, it's the attention. You probably enjoy the sex, but that's not what gets you in bed. It's the way they look at you, the way they want you, the way they have to have you.
You're also addicted to the hunt, not the capture. Your husband is already yours, so the challenge is gone. He loves you, so the attention isn't mysterious or new anymore. There's no chase involved anymore. You know going in that your behavior is destructive, but you can't help yourself because you feel the rush whenever you feel those hungry eyes again.
2006-06-15 18:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by BeenThere69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get professional help?? I suggest to do this if you really love your husband... If he treats you ok & supports you I he is a rela nice men then, get help so you can give him back what he deserves. A loving, honest, & caring wife. But most important don't cheat on him, why if he finds out??? You might end up loosing what you have for nothing take care of your relationship & be a better wife at least the wife that he deserves. Get help you will not regret this. Good luck & best wishes for you & him..
2006-06-15 17:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have some issues with a lack of confidence in yourself! You could try just talking to your husband about this, not the cheating but that you just need a self confidence boost.
You could also look into seeking a counselor. Someone who can sit and listen to you then offer solutions to help you from doing this. You love your husband and he loves you. You owe it to BOTH of you to seek some answers to help you with this situation. Good luck
2006-06-15 17:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually kind of ironic what kind of advise to you give to others if you actually pay attention. ( In refrence to a question asked if you would forgive someone for having an affair you responded with: no way!!!!! and dont 4get, wat goes around comes around. if he'll cheat w/u he'll cheat on u.) You need help and you should tell your husband what's going on before someone else does. Tell him and hope that everything goes well, even if it means you going to counseling or something because he sounds like a great guy and your being a poor excuse for a wife!
2006-06-15 17:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by Mia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to believe anything you're saying based on your actions. 2 or 3 times a day every day?!? Please....No one can can help a selfish liar. Grow up, he probably knows what your doing bu doesn't want to admit it.
2006-06-15 18:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lakin J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its depend on how old r u
younger than30:u still want to enjoy the world u should set ur self free and plan 4 a long vacation its wat u need
ur probably bored of the same thing everyday
try look at porn to look 4 new positions
not joking or subscribe to cosmo's so u found out how to spice ur life adn dont tell him the truth it will only ruin relationship.
2006-06-15 17:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by chris z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right you dont. I hate to be blunt but this is the truth... You need to get help and change or let him go and divorce him and set him free so your husband can find someone who will stay true and loving and devoted to him!
2006-06-15 17:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its cuz youre a whore...you dont mean to be a whore you just are...kinda like how you breathe when youre sleeping...you really dont know how you breathe, you just do...same thing, you are just a whore, its just the way it is...embrace it...love yourself and whore yourself around as much as you can because eventually the hot guys aernt gonna pay attention to you anymore and the best your are gonna be able to get out of them is a quick Bl*w job behind the local Wal Mart
2006-06-15 17:49:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋