I have been married for almost two years now. My husband and I dated for 5 years (on & off) before getting married.. Once, when we were broken up, I dated this guy and became really into him.. almost in love or something for the short time we dated. We never went all the way but got VERY close a several times.......... Well, it's been about 3 years since I have seen him.. Why do I still think about him? He was the best partner at forplaying that I ever had!!!!!!!
Is it wrong to fantasize about him? I have never cheated on my husband and do not intend to either.. I just want to know why I think about him so often.
2006-06-15 10:25:09 · 11 answers · asked by just me000 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You may always wonder or fantasize about the one you never had but was so good to you in many ways. Hopefully you don't fantasize about him when making love to your husband.
What you could do is invite your husband out to dinner, wear something you know he finds you very sexy in. At dinner keep the conversation very positve and sexy! Talk to him about some "fantisies" you have had involving foreplay. You can tell him what it is you like then take your husband home, you will remove all of his clothes and lay him on the bed. He will now watch you slowly remove yours. Now lay next to him and start doing all of that foreplay you have been fantasizing about with the man you love! If you stay positive and talk openly about what you want, your husband will give this to you plus you will end up making incredible love!
Good luck!
2006-06-15 10:56:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to think about this "other guy" you will eventually think yourself into cheating. If you focus on fantasy too much it can consume you. You "real world" won't count and eventually you will "slip" and actually cross from fantasy to reality. Once you go down that path your marriage will end.
If you husband sucks at foreplay then tell him so (gently, remember that a man's sexual ego is more fragile than a woman's). Give him long foreplay (long slow blow jobs, massge him slowly etc. ) then demand the same from him. He'll respond in kind since you're giving him the same.
2006-06-15 10:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess because you are such a nasty person with no sense of humor your husband must also fantasize about being with a nice person. maybe you fantasize about being with someone else because you are so worried about telling people off and you aren't concentrating on your marriage. How do you think your husband would feel if he knew you were longing for someone else? You sound like a slefish, nasty person. Leave me alone and do not respond to my questions anymore. I don't have time for an immature snot like you.
2006-06-16 16:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fantasizing isn't bad, if it keeps you interested in sex then go for it. fantasizing about him during masturbation is probably where it is best to let it all go. There you can put your whole mind into it and let your body climax to the maximum
The reason he was the best foreplay partner is because you wouldn't let him go any further. That is all you did was foreplay. I used to have a g/f like that. She was very shy or inhibited, so I had to feel her up and get her int eh mood. After awhile , when she did get horny, she was ready to go, and c*m.
Guys have to remember that it is not just finger, jump on, get off, and get off. get her warmed up and please her. she is also into sex too.; make it worth her while.
2006-06-15 11:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by likit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this men think much more often about the opposite sex than we do, I don't like to think my husband would be thinking about some other women that was but reality it that he probably does and that is the facts of life. I don't think there is anything wrong with that as long as you do not act on it.
2006-06-15 10:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not unusual to fantasize in general. it's not unusual to fantasize about someone you know. you are probably just recalling how much FUN new relationships are and you are responding, fantasizing, about that kind of excitement. it's probably not REALLY about the old boyfriend... just the excitement of it all.
2006-06-15 10:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see my questions, I fantasize about one man all the time. I know it is wrong, but I cannot seem to stop my heart....And now my heart has gotten my head rolling too.......
2006-06-15 10:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by crazytexasgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with fantasy, its acting on those thoughts that will cause trouble. All normal relationships have some sort of fantasy...goodluck.
2006-06-15 10:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is OK to fantasize....just don't act. Imagine if you acted on all your dirty little thoughts? What would you be, then?
That's right.
2006-06-15 10:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is healthy to fantazies but maybe try to do it about someone else.
2006-06-15 10:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by greeneyes634970 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋