Marriage & Divorce - 8 June 2006

As some of you might know from my ongoing saga here at YA, my husband of 20 years told me he wanted a divorce six months ago. Then two weeks ago he said he was considering coming back to me. Then he said he wouldn't. And now he tells me he has a girlfriend. He has already told our 12 year old son about it. I think he must have known her before he told me it was over, but I'm not sure. What is going on in his head? It doesn't seem like he has a head at the moment, he is acting very uncharactaristically. My sister think it's the male midlife crisis (he is 43) and her ex acted like that when he was that age (they divorced as well). I tend to agree with her. How do I get over this? I definitely don't want to meet her and I'd prefer not to hear about her...it hurts too much. Any suggestions as to how deal with this?

2006-06-08 06:40:38 · 24 answers · asked by Lotte T 3

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now, after being best friends for 4 years before that. We aren't ready to get married right now. We want to be completely financially stable first and totally ready to accept the committment. We do live together so it's not like I really feel the need to take that next step right now, but I was wondering. What age did you get married and how long did it last or has it lasted? What things did you make sure to take care of before getting married, and are there things I need to look out for in married life that you weren't expecting (like how I would no longer be insured through my parents)? I don't want to rush anything, and I want to know what I would be getting myself into... also just looking for conversation while bored to pieces at work...

2006-06-08 06:36:33 · 13 answers · asked by lizwatson109 4

2006-06-08 06:29:30 · 12 answers · asked by danac210 5

for or against, state ur position.
I'm for same sex marriage because by banning it, it is discrimination. Why can't the insitution of marriage allow gays? It's not like it's going to harm anybody. No death in involved.

I know we want to protect the institution, but back then, every state wanted to ban interracial marriage, I think that was back in the 50's and 60's. Now everyone wants to ban same-sex.

Religion plays a part, but should we base everything in our lives by what religion says. Do we not steal, lie, and cheat?

2006-06-08 06:27:35 · 18 answers · asked by travis 2

i met this guy on net and in the 1st day of our chat he proposed me to marry him! now i'm 15 and he is 28; our age difference is huge and obviously i'm not in a position to to think of marriage! he loves me very dearly and i also started getting attracted towards him though i cant solve this marriage problem! he said that he would give me time i require even if that means 6-7yrs . the problem is the decision of marriage! i'm attracted towards him (no doubt) but i cant give him any asurance that i'll marry him after 6to7yrs or pobably i'm not capable of taking this decision; if i reject him, he wont call me anymore and our relationship will break! and i dont want that so wat i'm i suppose to do? i need to give him a reply fast so that if i reject he can move to another solution! i cant afford to loose him and i'm not not in a position to give him marriage asurance ! plz help me to get rid of this problem! i shall remain obliged if anyone kindly help me!

2006-06-08 06:20:46 · 41 answers · asked by Treesha 1

I have three children, and I am getting a divorce. what can I do to protect my children from the effects of a divorce?

2006-06-08 06:12:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

she was living wit him when my mom & him were still married she roke them up!

2006-06-08 06:07:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was married for 5 years seperated for 2 years and there has been DV for the past 3 years. How can I get a quick divorce so that I can move on with my life? I am so broke I really cant afford a laywers.

2006-06-08 06:06:17 · 12 answers · asked by I<3JAI 2

2006-06-08 05:48:25 · 34 answers · asked by gma2705 2

break up with me 8 months later? the contradiction is he pretended to want to marry me and then told me has been wanting to call it quits for some time now, then why give me an engagement ring? i don't understand this makes no sense. i cant ask him cause he wont tell me the truth and i havent done anything to him to do this. do you think the ring was a fake along with his proposal?

2006-06-08 05:46:25 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

We do not live together, my choice. We both are well off. Will be second marriage for both. I am breaking it off with him because he is not fullfilling my needs or wants.

I just purchased 2nd home for me and he only help with hanging my blinds, really. I paid movers to move me and took care of everything because he was not there for me. I could have move in with him but I did not want to move in without a wedding date.

Oyea, I stop wearing the ring because everyone wanted to know when was the big day. I am also ready to be back on the market.

What do you think?

2006-06-08 05:45:49 · 19 answers · asked by Unique 4

2006-06-08 05:39:26 · 16 answers · asked by Kelli A 2

Me and fiance been together almost 3 years and we HAD alot of problems and alot of breakups in the beginning and last June I had moved out of the house and got my own place (i was pregnant too) well on July 4th he asked me to marry him and it took me a few minutes but I said YES and when and he said tomorrow, next week, soon!!! I was so excited, I have already been through a divorce, but he has never been married and I guess he is scared. But almost a year later still not married. I asked him twice over the last year about, when? and where? and all it did was lead to a fight! What the hell did I do? Was that just his plan? Put a ring on my finger, get me back home and then never marry me?????

2006-06-08 05:37:12 · 10 answers · asked by Rikki M 2

my husband and i marriage for two years and have 1 kid i dont know why he always putting me down he never believes in my skills he never trust me, he's been cold to me and i dont know why although im doing everything to be the best wife for him but he never appreciate what im doing he always says that im nothing for him insulting me and my family sometimes and i dont feel that he still loved me,im trying to talk to him about my feelings and make work things out because im always crying alone without someone to talk to im so down and sometimes i saw him jacking off watching in internet and i was feel so unuseful. we have lack of communication lack of romance im trying to reach out with him but he always avoiding me. i really feel so nothing please give me some piece of advice

2006-06-08 05:35:22 · 23 answers · asked by sexysachiko 1

2006-06-08 05:29:44 · 12 answers · asked by LarryGuy 1

2006-06-08 05:27:09 · 8 answers · asked by susan y 1

2006-06-08 05:24:19 · 6 answers · asked by LarryGuy 1

He says he still loves me, but he's not in love with me. I'm still in love with him. He comes over everyday to see the kids. He has broken my heart so completely that I don't think that I will ever trust anyone again. He was my heart and soul and he took that away from me.

2006-06-08 05:15:10 · 27 answers · asked by Unloved 1

2006-06-08 05:14:42 · 6 answers · asked by LarryGuy 1

I was with a friend yesterday and she was complaining to me about the Poor Credit status of Her Boy Friend, and if she were to marry
Him, there would be a Prenuptial agreement, In my own View I feel Like Marriage should be based on trust, why marry someone if you are not
sure you are going to spend your whole entire life with the person, I have the opinion that Parties that request Prenuptial Agreement have a malicious Intent
of using their partner (whether sexually or Financially) and since they can't trust themselves , they also can't trust their partners. Any view to this is welcome

2006-06-08 05:13:19 · 5 answers · asked by voodoo 2

I get so sick of his b.s. I know I'm a b********, I'll admit that, but he brings it out in me. He's so insensitive sometimes.

I broke down this morning on my way to work. I found a ride to work (late) and he calls me back at noon asking why I called. He's been sleeping and lounging around all morning. When I told him he starts blaming me saying that he asked me which vechicle I was driving this morning. So???! I told him if I'd known it would break down I would have driven the other one. Then he goes on saying he wanted to do something to the one I drove. Well... that's his lack of communication, right?! He's such an a*****hole. He didn't even feel bad for me or offer to take me to lunch. Now I'm stranded and will have to skip lunch.

Instead of arguing I told him that I would need a ride from work and I'd let him go. He said bye like he didn't care.

Why can't he see he hurts me and eventually we will grow apart if he's always an a********?

Thanks for listening anyway

2006-06-08 05:12:58 · 7 answers · asked by Just Me 4

Broke up after 5 years on Valentines. Still talk every day but have not seen eachother at ALL.
Hes moving to a new place this weekend and Im giong to see it/help/talk.
What do I do? What can I expect? Im freaking out!!!

2006-06-08 05:09:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

When you women say that you are too tired for making love, well, is that an excuse or does it realy mean that? I am a man so I just don't understand. When I am tired and my wife initiates romance, I am allways ready to go.

2006-06-08 05:08:16 · 7 answers · asked by Andy S 3

We don't have sex anymore and he is never really "late" from work and doesn't really go anywhere without me, but I just have a hunch something isn't right. I am confused to the sex thing, cause he won't initiate anything and used to be all over me....... THere are a lot of women he talks to in his job and sometimes about personal stuff that I dont think that they should be talking about. And there is one girl that USED to work there and often comes and hangs out. I dont know if it is to hang out with him, but it makes me mad!!!! Please help!

2006-06-08 05:03:02 · 12 answers · asked by Wonderinggirl 2

2006-06-08 05:02:22 · 11 answers · asked by jake s 1

Anyone have anything NICE or special to say about their husband, wife or partner????
So tired of all the negativity... I LOVE being married....

2006-06-08 04:53:49 · 23 answers · asked by aprilsastar 2

My husband and I have been having communication problems since last year but they weren’t as much complicated as now. One of our problems is that we used to be a sexual couple but he is suffering from premature ejaculation and it's very frustrating (he hasn't seen a Doctor because of many excuses) he also has to travel for business once or twice a week and I miss him too much. I don't feel like we are connected anymore, sometimes I hate him for not even asking how I feel... He claims to love me very much and I believe him because I love him too and I don't want to be more apart from each other; any time we bring this up we end up fighting and blaming each other. What should I do???

2006-06-08 04:44:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

how will i get her back if she is still with the brothers

2006-06-08 04:41:58 · 4 answers · asked by Michael M 1

i really love both of them and we are seeing eachother as friends coz hubby doesnt know anything abt our love

2006-06-08 04:38:08 · 11 answers · asked by hii 1

woman.... Don't giggle, "I am serious!" How does one make them selves this way?? Serious answers ONLY please...

2006-06-08 04:28:55 · 19 answers · asked by IgtwhtIwant....... 1