Me and fiance been together almost 3 years and we HAD alot of problems and alot of breakups in the beginning and last June I had moved out of the house and got my own place (i was pregnant too) well on July 4th he asked me to marry him and it took me a few minutes but I said YES and when and he said tomorrow, next week, soon!!! I was so excited, I have already been through a divorce, but he has never been married and I guess he is scared. But almost a year later still not married. I asked him twice over the last year about, when? and where? and all it did was lead to a fight! What the hell did I do? Was that just his plan? Put a ring on my finger, get me back home and then never marry me?????
2006-06-08 05:37:12 · 10 answers · asked by Rikki M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be real with yourself about this situation. You have been married before, what where the tell tell signs that the marriage was heading south? Can you see that happening again? Save your self the time and trouble of getting a wedding together and paying for it, if this is something that might NOT last. Think about it, you may not have on his engagement ring but a “promise ring” to keep you around.
2006-06-08 05:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by Ray-Ray 3 · 9⤊ 2⤋
Marriage is a big committment. Maybe he is happy that you took the next step and got engaged, but he is still scared about the full leap. I would ask him to talk to you about it. No yelling. No fighting. Tell him you want to ask him questions, and when you are finished telling your side, he gets to talk. No interruptions. If you can't discuss it without fighting, you shouldn't be getting married anyway.
2006-06-08 12:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is scared, that is a big step. Probably because you were married before, he is kind of scared thinking that you will be the problematic person in the relationship. Do not push him to make that desicion. Give him some time. If yo don't get tire of him, he will. Let time decides. Good Luck!!
2006-06-08 13:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got too excited about the ring! You should have waited for the marriage before moving back in with him.
2006-06-08 12:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by nikkij 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He ain't gonna marry you, not now, not ever! Marriage talk was the tool he used to get you back. You need to take your baby, and leave him if you want to marry him. He'll ask you again, but this time, you need to decline, and move on. Good Luck!
2006-06-08 12:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Sounds like that was his plan. There are a few words that come to mind here in regards to him:
Immature. Selfish. Controlling. Manipulative. Arrogant.
Need I say more!?
2006-06-08 12:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by michael s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me as if you've let the horse graze too long,...you're pregnant?....does that tell you anything?......You have been "easy pickings for him"....Now you have to deal with it, this wont be easy to do, .....but here's the deal,....You have to tell him outright that you want to either get married or get out of this relationship!...which basically states that this relationship isnt gonna work anyway unless you have some boundries that you can keep.
2006-06-08 12:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by theoregonartist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess the only solution is to try and talk to him. tell him what you would like and have him tell you what he wants, what he fears, all this communication, if you cannot communicate, then why get married?
2006-06-08 14:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by missy isa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he want to tag you along but he doesn't want to marry you. if you cant discuss without him fighting then you know what to do
2006-06-08 12:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by Baconbits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You figured out his plan --- after the fact but at least you see what he's about .....
2006-06-08 12:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋