why would my boyfriend give me a $65.00 engagement ring from kmart ask me to marry him after 4 yrs and then ..

Question

break up with me 8 months later? the contradiction is he pretended to want to marry me and then told me has been wanting to call it quits for some time now, then why give me an engagement ring? i don't understand this makes no sense. i cant ask him cause he wont tell me the truth and i havent done anything to him to do this. do you think the ring was a fake along with his proposal?

Answer 1

Wow... a $65 ring.. hmmmm.. engagement ring is supposed to be around 2 months salary...lol.. yikes..
If that's all he can afford.. you need to run away fast...he's a big LOSER!!!!

Answer 2

Oh please I can't believe some of the answers. If the guy can only afford a $65 ring then that's not too cheap. This society is so screwed up in the brains. Who the hell cares about the damned ring. My parents got married and didn't have rings at all until recently. Some women are such ridiculous gold diggers. What about the rich guy who gives his woman 10000 rings and then treats her like crap.
The value of a ring has absolutelly nothing to do with what's in his heart. His actions do.
If he's a jerk, get rid of him but quit talking about the value of the damned ring. When I got married, I was unemployed ok. I spent a whole heck of a lot more on my wife's needs than I spent on the stupid ring. I don't like jewelry anyway, I wear a ring for her, but I hate the feel of rings on my finger. A piece of shiny metal and some diamonds have nothing to do with my love for her.
And by the way, if he doesn't tell you the truth, why are you wasting your time with him? If I would have caught my girlfriend telling me even a small lie I'd have dropped her like a hot potato. Don't ever think you can trust someone who lied to you, because even if they say they won't lie anymore, how do you know that's not a lie?

Answer 3

Does it matter whether the ring was a fake or not? Does it matter whether the proposal was a fake or not? You already said you can't ask him because you know he won't tell the truth. Why, on Earth, would you want to spend any more of your life with a person you don't trust? Lord, please get out of this relationship before there are any children involved.

Why waste one more breath trying to talk to someone who has so many mixed messages? Someone who keeps confusion and mixed messages going all the time is controling, manipulative, a liar, and has absolutely no intention of being anything different. Run, as quickly as you can, to the nearest exit!

What he does is his choice----what you choose to endure is your choice. We all have to live with the consequences of our own actions and decisions. If you choose to accept and rationalize his actions, then you're saying you want to take whatever he dishes out. That means YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM.

Answer 4

First of all why would anyone care how much the ring cost, I have been with my fiance for 5 years will be married eventually, he proposed to me with a 100.00 ring that i chose. It does not matter how much it cost its the thought that counts. women these days only think of money me on the other hand could care less about money i love my fiance and would not trade him for the world. not even a million dollars. the reason he most likely waited to tell you was because he did not want to hurt you and finally did the right thing and told you how he felt, its better now rather than later after you are married.

Answer 5

OH MY GOD! $65.00 for an engagement ring?????? That should've been the first clue to get rid of his cheap a**. In my opinion, if a man doesn't spend at least three months salary on an engagement ring, he's a cheapskate. Just my opinion.
Yes, he's the fake. Dump him and don't look back. You'll find better.

Answer 6

You shouldn't consider marrying a man who an only afford a $65 ring. If you got pregnant, there would be no way he could afford to support both you and the baby.

Let him go and don't settle for anything less than a $1500 ring.

Answer 7

What is going on is that you both weren't ready to get married. (If one of you is not ready - then both of you are not ready.) He was doing the avoidance thing that guys do - going along, trying to avoid the ultimate confrontation (like it was avoidable....either you marry or you don't)... bought a ring, but went the KMart route because he knew, in his heart of hearts, that he wasn't going to marry you, was hoping to avoid hurting you. (It is even possible that he hoped the cheap ring would make YOU angry so that YOU would call off the engagement and get him off the hook!) The proposal was not sincere, the ring was not sincere, ....he sincerely wanted to avoid any scene and strung you along anyway. It takes SO LONG for guys to grow up.

Answer 8

He only spent $65.00 --- got the ring at KMART --- what an insult ! After you'd put 4 years into the relationship !

Answer 9

Were you bugging him about a ring before he bought you the cheapy? If so he bought it to get you off his back. Men do not like to be put on the spot like that, it scares the living daylights out of them. Would it take four years to find out if a person is considering marriage? Sounds to me like he does not intend to marry at all....wants his cake and eat it too!! He broke up with you because he did not want to hurt you by telling you that he did not want to get married. I know, sounds like a coward to me. In any case you do deserve an explaination but likely, will not get one.

Answer 10

It sound like you’re another victim of the, ”If I give her this ring she’ll shut up club.” This is where fake men (little boys) give a women a ring so that she’ll stay around just a little while longer. I say keep his engagement / “promise ring” disappear (see how he likes being a fool)

Answer 11

u know something this guy is really a cheap guy how can he give u a $65.00 ring if he wants to marry u? he is just nothing. he is not fit for u who gave her 4 yrs for that bustard.