i met this guy on net and in the 1st day of our chat he proposed me to marry him! now i'm 15 and he is 28; our age difference is huge and obviously i'm not in a position to to think of marriage! he loves me very dearly and i also started getting attracted towards him though i cant solve this marriage problem! he said that he would give me time i require even if that means 6-7yrs . the problem is the decision of marriage! i'm attracted towards him (no doubt) but i cant give him any asurance that i'll marry him after 6to7yrs or pobably i'm not capable of taking this decision; if i reject him, he wont call me anymore and our relationship will break! and i dont want that so wat i'm i suppose to do? i need to give him a reply fast so that if i reject he can move to another solution! i cant afford to loose him and i'm not not in a position to give him marriage asurance ! plz help me to get rid of this problem! i shall remain obliged if anyone kindly help me!
2006-06-08 06:20:46 · 41 answers · asked by Treesha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't be crazy.
2006-06-08 06:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you even considering this you said yourself that after the first chat he proposes??? can you say pedophile this guy is obviously a sick individual and you really need to tell someone how could you have feelings for this person when you are only what 15 years old this guy is twice your age. Get out and live life with someone your own age. In 6 or 7 years when you are old enough to make a decision like this you may be in a totally different situation and won't even remember this guy. I really hope that you are not foolish enough to meet this perv somewhere I would hope that I'm not going to reading about you in the paper one day be smart and stay away!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-08 06:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by Weapon X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is not behaving normally. Nobody in their right mind proposes marriage at the first meeting. Marriage is about a lifelong partnership and needs thinking about.
He says he loves you very dearly but anyone can say that (especially to a 15 year old) and make it sound convincing. I am sorry, but if he does wait for you and you marry, you will soon find that he is not a good man or a normal man. Just the fact that he says he will 'move to another solution' shows that he is desparate to get married and doesn't really care about you at all.
Give him up now and save yourselves both some heartache.
2006-06-08 06:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand ur dilemma and its a tough call. Tell me something- is love more important than marriage? Even if you commit him about marriage and u people stop loving each other after 2-3 years will he still want to marry u? U just have one solution. If he loves u now and if your love can sustain a period of seven years - do marry him. But do not commit something which you are not sure of at the moment. I think asking for a commitment 7 years down the line make him look like an immature person and u have to be realistic in this
2006-06-08 06:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I think you already realize marriage is out of the question. Sounds like you haven't even met him in person. Don't do it. You need time to be a kid because you have the rest of your life to be an adult. Think of your future. You will meet boys in high school, college, work, etc. Don't ruin your future because of this guy. You are so young and have so much to look forward to. I hope you make the right decision and realize the pain of losing him now will be alot less than the pain of realizing you have made a huge mistake when you are 25 or 30.
Truly, I hope this question is someone joking around and you aren't serious.
2006-06-08 06:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by ajillity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i reject him, he wont call me anymore and our relationship will break! <<<
2006-06-08 06:29:32
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Why the heck are you taking this guy on. Come on, you're 15, you haven't lived life yet and already he wants you to think about marriage. Something is wrong with this guy, he's 28, for god sakes surely he knows you're way too young to even make a decision like this. Stop talking to him, he sounds like a real psycho, probably just playing you along. Don't waste your time on him, besides you're underage I believe. You should be concentrating on your studies not a possible husband.
2006-06-08 06:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you realize how pathetic it sounds for a guy to ask a girl he met on the Internet to marry him. I'm sure it is flattering to you to think you are so desirable to someone, when you obviously don't think you are normally desirable ("i cant afford to loose him").
If he truly loved you he would want what is best for you, not him. He wouldn't be so anxious to move on to someone else. He would not be so demanding and controlling. He would understand your situation and give you plenty of time to grow up and learn to understand your own feelings. In a short period of time you can't develop the love, trust, respect, and commitment that it takes to have a meaningful relationship. Don't you see, this guy is not right for you. He will only bring you heartache and sorrow. There are guys out there who will show you real love, not this fake romance crap he is giving you. Take your time. Stay away from him.
2006-06-08 06:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by Doctor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a pedophile... trying to lure you. he's trying to appear "sincere" by proposing, he wants you to think that his "feelings" are "genuine" and "true". don't fall for that trap. pedophilia is the least thing that we can worry about right now, what if he was a serial killer? i read things about this and i have a strong feeling against this. you should seek help from an adult you can trust.
marriage is all about love. you cannot love a person in just ONE DAY! especially in the internet!!! you are young, and you are definitely not ready for this. focus on your ambitions! focus in school! i've had friends get married and/or have children at a very young age (one of them 13) -- all of them regret it! that's why it is advisable to get married when you're older. because you become selfless once you've matured (well not everybody) you start to think that the world DOES NOT revolve around you. these things are quite hard to explain, especially to younger kids like you. but all i can say is i've been in your phase... i was 15, i had a huge crush on a guy who's almost 40! and he liked me also. good thing i had matured (older) friends who guided me. otherwise, what would i do if i had a child with this man? i will not be able to study, i will be working a low-wage job to support my baby? think about your future! don't go for this. i can guarantee you, you WILL regret it. once you say yes to his proposal, then you will be stuck in his death trap!
and honey, it is NOT love! let's say we'll give him the benefit of doubt. let's say he IS capable of love... if he loves you, HE WILL WAIT! NO MATTER WHAT!!! that's true love. my best friend has been with her man for 7 years already... they're living separate lives, as of now... but he is still waiting. my best friend is loyal, she will come home to him someday. now that's waiting...
2006-06-08 06:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by PC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right in saying that you are to young to think about marriage. And I would say that if you break it off with him now you'll be better off, because at your age you will probably change your mind 100 times about what you want to do with your life. And even in 6-7 years you'll be 21 or 22 and may want to go to college or travel abroad. Don't promise your life away just yet. Just tell him that you dont know what you want ot do yet and that you would like to remain friends.
2006-06-08 06:30:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way to young!!! Does he know how old you are? I fhe does he is a pervert and a pedifile and turn him into the proper authorities! He does not love you he hardly even knows you! Is he married or attached? How much do you know about this guy. If he is not willing to wait till you are at least 18 then dont go for it and walk away! If he truley loves you he will wait until you are old enough and ready for it or he is not worth your time trust me!!!! You can afford to lose him if he is not willing to wait for the right time and age! What do you mean he will move on to another solution?
2006-06-08 06:25:25 · answer #11 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋