I get so sick of his b.s. I know I'm a b********, I'll admit that, but he brings it out in me. He's so insensitive sometimes.
I broke down this morning on my way to work. I found a ride to work (late) and he calls me back at noon asking why I called. He's been sleeping and lounging around all morning. When I told him he starts blaming me saying that he asked me which vechicle I was driving this morning. So???! I told him if I'd known it would break down I would have driven the other one. Then he goes on saying he wanted to do something to the one I drove. Well... that's his lack of communication, right?! He's such an a*****hole. He didn't even feel bad for me or offer to take me to lunch. Now I'm stranded and will have to skip lunch.
Instead of arguing I told him that I would need a ride from work and I'd let him go. He said bye like he didn't care.
Why can't he see he hurts me and eventually we will grow apart if he's always an a********?
Thanks for listening anyway
2006-06-08 05:12:58 · 7 answers · asked by Just Me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's currently "Mr Mom" but I won't go into detail as to why. I'm not happy about that either, though.
2006-06-08 05:22:05 · update #1
DOC... I'm sorry but you are way off by your comments. Your post makes me wonder if you have a dislike for women in general. I DO try to communicate and if he's being an insensitive jerk then it's not me misreading him. He's inconsiderate and I don't deserve it when I am good to him. I'm a b*****, yes, but look what I have to work with. You have no idea. Thanks for making me feel even worse. I'm not on here to whine and get sympathy. I'm just frustrated and hurt. There IS a difference! But you're entitled to your opinion. Thanks.
2006-06-08 07:57:07 · update #2
He is not understanding you at all and does not understand how you feel . You need to seek counseling and help and so does he... See if he is open to marriage counseling. If you ever need or want to talk i am here.
2006-06-08 05:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I do feel sorry for you. Your husband does seem inconsiderate and insensitive. May I just say a few words for the other side of this issue? You know there are always two sides.
Your question is filled with what your husband is doing wrong, which is understandable, but listen to yourself for a moment. Perhaps he did tell you not to take the car you took, but you were not listening to him. Men don't communicate in the same way as women communicate. It takes two to communicate, and his lack of communication is only equaled by your lack of effort to understand how he communicates, and your lack of encouragement for him to communicate. You need to make a 100% effort, not a 50% effort. By the way, he is going to think he is giving at least 50% when you think he is giving nothing. He would feel the same way about you.
Stop trying to tell him what his feelings are or should be. You don't know whether or not he felt bad for you. All you know is that you would have said or done something different had you been in his shoes. But you are not him. He is a man and expresses his feelings in a different way than you do. It does you no good, and a lot of harm, guessing how he feels or why he did the things he did. Women rarely get it right when it concerns the feelings of men. Maybe he said bye like you would have if you didn't care, but stop judging him on the basis of mirroring your feelings.
Can you see that you are hurting him? You admit you are a b*****, have you any idea how that hurts a man? You whine and complain about his behavior; don't you know that is very hurtful? You really aren't trying very hard to communicate with him, you are actually trying to undermine your relationship by reducing communication in order to make him look bad so that you will feel justified for the bad feelings you have for him because of other things he is doing which you don't like. You want to change him to be someone else, and he is resisting your heavy-handed controlling nature in a passive resistive manner. Try love and training him with positive rewards for good behavior. Try being the hot sexy thing he thought he was marrying.
2006-06-08 06:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by Doctor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should've taken a cab?
As far as lunch, you're not stranded... Call Dominos or Pizza Hut.
As a woman it's partly your responsibility to know the person you're marrying. If he wasn't the one for you, you should've found out before getting married.
Women have this fantasy of a white knight charging into their lives to save the day from childhood. Every man that doesn't live up is either an a**hole or, in some other way, unworthy.
Cut him some slack.
2006-06-08 05:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by Steve G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we lose that touch to talk with each other instead of down to them it makes it worse when something like this happens. Does he not work or just his day off? If this is the way he wants to be then I would consider if this is worth it. If he or for that fact any married person can't be there for the person they claim to love then that is sad because all you learn from this is you can not count on them. You have to decide what is right for you....
2006-06-08 05:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your husband is lazy and could care less about you, all he cares about is that you go to work and pay the bills I would kick him out I wouldn't put up with that type of behavior
2006-06-08 06:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats okay girl vent you have the right! they area holes and dont understand anything. remember, guys dont get hints, tell him straight out!!
2006-06-08 05:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg that is wrong. if i was you i would leave his a** you can do better
2006-06-10 18:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋