We don't have sex anymore and he is never really "late" from work and doesn't really go anywhere without me, but I just have a hunch something isn't right. I am confused to the sex thing, cause he won't initiate anything and used to be all over me....... THere are a lot of women he talks to in his job and sometimes about personal stuff that I dont think that they should be talking about. And there is one girl that USED to work there and often comes and hangs out. I dont know if it is to hang out with him, but it makes me mad!!!! Please help!
2006-06-08 05:03:02 · 12 answers · asked by Wonderinggirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I might add, when I complain about no sex, he says that's your fault not mine!
2006-06-08 05:21:57 · update #1
He is probably not doing anything wrong I do the same thing to my man! You need to learn trust, which is also an issue for me but all in all that is the glue that holds relationships together. As for sex maybe you should try and "attack" him sometimes, put something sexy on. TRUST, but if he has ever cheated or likes W H O R E S then he will always like them and keep them on the side "just in case"
2006-06-08 05:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Rikki M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may be my wife.
I am never in mood for sex with my wife because I am tired of the one doing all the work. I get so exhausted from giving her pleasure when it is finally my turn I am not in the mood any more. I might as well masturbate because at least I will have an orgasm. Don't get me wrong, I love giving her plessure but to return it would be nice.
I fantasize about coming home and finding my wife in really sexy lingerie prefatably with stockings and high heals. She would take the lead and just let me come without worrying about her.
She kinda did that once but then flipped out at me for not coming and I did.
I have never cheated and I will never cheat on her. I want to fix the problem but I ask and hint but she won't change.
2006-06-08 13:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by friend_northeast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sex is definitely a sign. That was my first sign that my husband was cheating. He also would blame it on me, saying maybe I should try to spice things up. My husband works out of town and I might see him one weekend out of a month so it was really hard for me to catch him. I noticed that when he came home he wouldn't bring his cell phone in the house so one day I snuck out there and went through his phone while he was sleeping. I found a strange number and called it. She told me everything. Good luck and remember if you feel it deep down it's more than likely happening.
2006-06-08 23:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geesssssssh woman!.......can he not have female friends?.....and this "hanging out stuff" you speak of?....where does it happen?....in your home? or at his work?......and this "sex thing"...'he was all over you at one time".....why did that stop?.....and exactly "what kinda personal stuff are you talkin about?"......cuz to me, everything in conversation is personal, just to have a conversation with another human a personal thing. Cut the guy a break here and quit being mad about stuff, It sounds to me like you're trying to control too much stuff, this will only lead you to frustrate yourself and it certainly wont inspire him...behind every good guy that's married is a great hearted woman, I rather think that a good guy is created by a great woman.
2006-06-08 12:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by theoregonartist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more to the story than you know. If he is not having sex with you, he is with SOMEBODY! You need to keep your eyes on this "USED TO WORK THERE" girl. She just might be the culprit. She has a reason for hanging around there, and it's not to work. He could be having a rendezvous while at work, or at lunch, but he has not stopped having sex...with somebody!
2006-06-08 12:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is not as interested in you as he once was.
I'm thinking he is not actually cheating with someone else, but his mind is constantly occupied with thoughts of someone else.
If I had to guess, I'd say he finds "the other woman" more exciting than you right now and it will only be a matter of time and opportunity until he does cheat.
His heart is somewhere else.
2006-06-08 12:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Sensitivity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at yourself first. Men are visual creatures and if the package isn't visually stimulating we are not interested!
How do you look now compared with how you presented yourself when you were dating? Also, are you initiating sex? Men love it when women initiate.
So.... take the sleeping cap off your head, ditch the sweats, take a bath with a nice scented bath gel, put on something sexy and INITIATE!!
2006-06-08 12:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by johnny z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could try to be more trusting of him, and have fun with him again. Think of all the positive things about him that attracted you to him in the beginning.He might be pulling away because he senses that you are suspicious of him.
2006-06-08 12:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confusion, doubts, doesnt help. we are of the same case. but this never get me. if we are not insecure, we know what to do. if we do love our partner, we need to be open, we need to be frank. why dont you just ask him for a date, and talk it over with him. try to be honest. he will appreciate it, i can tell. boys sometime needs to be awakened. this just meant to them that we love them cuz we care. but if the moves doesnt help, then there's no wrong with us... at least we will do our best to save the marriage. God bless...
2006-06-08 12:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catch him off guard and give him a good sniff in the package, If it smells like foreign soil then he's cheating!
2006-06-08 12:09:07 · answer #10 · answered by "THE BEAST" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋