We do not live together, my choice. We both are well off. Will be second marriage for both. I am breaking it off with him because he is not fullfilling my needs or wants.
I just purchased 2nd home for me and he only help with hanging my blinds, really. I paid movers to move me and took care of everything because he was not there for me. I could have move in with him but I did not want to move in without a wedding date.
Oyea, I stop wearing the ring because everyone wanted to know when was the big day. I am also ready to be back on the market.
What do you think?
2006-06-08 05:45:49 · 19 answers · asked by Unique 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been dating for 9 years. He only gave me the ring when he thought I was going to be with someone else.
I have been addressing my needs and wants thoughtout the years. I just do not understand why someone would be so mean and keep feeding false hope.
I do love him; however, I cannot go on living like this.
2006-06-08 05:52:06 · update #1
chika_4_eva2...
I do not live with him because things would be worst. I would completely lost myself. And would be playing wife without being his wife.
You know that saying "Why bye the cow when you get the milk for free".
2006-06-08 06:00:15 · update #2
I already had a big wedding. I was just looking for a marriage date. I am pretty happy with my life except for the bf.
I have travelled and lived in Europe for some years; I have a child from first marriage, who is off to college; I am educated and have a great family/friends/job/houses/cars. I just need to move on so I can make myself availble for a real man and enjoy the rest of my life.
2006-06-08 06:13:25 · update #3
Go on and live your life, Girl!!
2006-06-08 05:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by michael s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1.) he probably has taken a lot from you (read: bedroom action) and has hit plateau. you know the saying "why buy the cow, if you can get the milk for free?"
2.) another thing... he's probably having second thoughts about marrying you. or sorry to say this, but there's also a chance that he may regret proposing to you but is too afraid to ask for the ring back because he is going to be "branded" (as loser or something like that) and is probably hoping that YOU will break off the engagement, and he will come off as "clean". and he makes that happen by frustrating you with the looooooong wait. because otherwise, if he really really really loves you and wants to marry you... why wait?
tell him the engagement is off... if he says "ok" -- then he doesn't love you. if he doesn't agree and cries that he wants to be with you. give it some time and let him do some of the planning (of the wedding) that way you will see if he is serious about this.
3.) another thing... are you asking for a BIG wedding? because guys are intimidated by that and they shut down. so consider that also. you don't need a big wedding... MARRIAGE matters more than a BIG WEDDING.
2006-06-08 05:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by PC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 18:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be real with yourself about this situation. Save your self the time and trouble of getting a wedding together and paying for it if this is just some thing that is going to end a year or two after you really get married. Think about it you may not have on is engagement ring but a “promise ring” to keep you around.
2006-06-08 05:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by Ray-Ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should pray about it and then ask him about it if he sets a date then good if not keep moving or it will never happen. And since you are ready to get back on the market then marriage wont be good for you and him because obviously you are not happy with him now so marriage will not change that. Seek God or you will make a big mistake.
2006-06-08 05:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. first off i think it is a good thing to suggest!.....my tia` esmeralda her n her "husband" well not exactly cuz she has an engagement ring, and they live together, and they have one kid togetha + he has been her man for over 6 years,and she also has 2 other sons!...that have grown to love him!....and im am pretty sure it has been more than 3 years that he gave that ring to her, they argue, and bicker all tha time!....i think u chose tha right choice!..but let him kno how u feel first b-4 doing "it", cuz what if, or who knows he could be tha one!, and if he doesnt change his ways then drop him! but i think it would neva work out n*e way cuz ya'll engaged, and dont even live togetha!?....come on now!...
2006-06-08 05:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by ~*CHIKA*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you even talked to your bf about what your needs & wants are? You don't say that anywhere, so I have to assume you are expecting him to read your mind. Bad idea!
Talk with him, if you value your relationship. But since you've already removed your ring and seem ready to toss in the towel, I would say your mind is made up and you're moving on.
2006-06-08 05:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh MY Word. That sounds terrable. FIrst have a sit down talk with him about it. And if you can't resolve anything then give him the ring back and say your goodbyes. Your bf should be helping you with all that stuff and should be caring and loving towards you not a moron. I would kill my bf if he did that to me. Good luck with it all.
2006-06-08 05:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by pinkbunnylol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to set a date already. If he gives you any ****, then take that ring as your parting gift, and "keep it moving". P.S. Some men give their girls rings to take them off the market,buy themselves times, and allow him to straddle the fence longer.
2006-06-08 05:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by phillymami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been ready to dump this guy for a long time-
tell him just what you said above- he's not meeting your needs-
Best of luck!
2006-06-08 05:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by Rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer....just reread what you wrote!!! It's obvious...you can find someone else who treats you right or just be happy being by yourself!!! Good luck!!!!
2006-06-08 05:50:05 · answer #11 · answered by star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋