My dads wife is using him for money & were gonna be poor what do i do!?

Question

she was living wit him when my mom & him were still married she roke them up!

Answer 1

First off as much as you don't want to admit it, this person didn't break your mom and dad apart. If they really loved each other nothing could have broken them up. There for there were problems that you must not be aware of or understand. As for the whole money thing, I wouldn't worry about it. Your dad is probably a lot smarter than you give him credit for. His new wife may spend a lot more money in more obvious ways than you are used to but I would bet he still manages to stay out of debt.

Answer 2

my dad has a lot of mistresses and illegitimate chilren. in my country, these children have a right in my dad's (even though it is both mom and dad's) possession -- money, house, everything. what i did? the house was named after my mom and dad -- i convinced them and my grandparents to transfer the house to MY name so that the other children have no "say". (what are they gonna do? take my property?) if you are concerned about your father's money (and well-being), open up a separate bank account for him under your name, and ask him to deposit/transfer his money there once in a while (little bit - by -little bit and while his wife is away and/or doesn't know). that way, if this wife takes his money, he has an emergency fund he can dip into when he needs cash.

Answer 3

i understand your concern and i see where you are coming from.
but is she really 'using' him for his money? what evidence is there for you to think that?
make sure firstly that you are sure and that you are not basing that on the fact that you may still feel bitter towards her for breaking up the marriage between your mom and dad.
but if you are sure she is, then talk to somebody, if you do not feel comfortable talking to your father straight then talk to your grandparents or his older brother/sister. uncle/aunt. about your concerns - meybe they can pass it on to him as if it were concerns from them and from you.
if your father is smart, most men with money are, then im sure he knows what he is doing. he is probably giving her the same amount but she is just spending it more obviously like buying new expensive Material things, than perhaps your mother, and so yu did not notice your other's spendings but you notice hers. every woman is different.
but having said that i know people who have been in a relationship where love has made them blind and completely clouds their judgement to the extent that they can not even see what is clearly in front of them. if this is your father's case, then you should definitely talk to him or somebody. he should know what you are worried about, at least. and see where it goes from there.
hope that helps.
Good luck.
x

Answer 4

Poor????Ive been poor forever but still mange to give my wife n kids love n respect and that is far more rewarding than money..
PS i still could do with some money tho so tell your dad to give me some b4 his wife spends it all .I will share 50/50 with you..

Answer 5

It's your father's life and his business. Butt out. I think you are biased against your father's new wife; don't automatically place all the blame on her.

If you're really concerned about your impending poverty, you could always get a part-time job.

Answer 6

If u and your father have a open and honest relationship...let him know how u feel. He has to make the final decision...it is his money and his lady,

Answer 7

Talk to a lawyer and talk to your dad about how you feel. She may have broke them up but your dad wanted her too you know. It takes to to tango.

Answer 8

Did his wife sign a prenup?

Answer 9

Speak to your Dad but it is his money, his life and his happiness!

Answer 10

talk to your dad and tell him how you feel and get legal advice from a lawyer or a solicitor