I have three children, and I am getting a divorce. what can I do to protect my children from the effects of a divorce?
2006-06-08 06:12:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because you have kids you need to get a lawyer. Protecting them and their future is the most important thing you can do and that is why you need a professional to handle your divorce. Imagine how bad you would feel if the divorce went through and a few years later you learned that you had messed up and robbed your kids of a better life simply because you didn't use a lawyer.
2006-06-08 06:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really no way of protecting your kids from the effects of divorce. No possible way. Are you the mother or the father? Talk to a lawyer and see what your options and rights are here... Why are you divorcing if i may ask?
2006-06-08 06:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to involve a lawyer but a lawyer helps you figure out what rights you have as the custodial parents as far as what your spouse will need to pay for child support, alimony, and what is your best options for figuring out who gets what. It is a more expensive way, but you won't be responsible for filing paperwork and going to court. That is until it is time to go in front of the judge for the actual divorce hearing and if you are lucky he will grant the divorce and you won't have to go back. I have children of my own and I had to pay for the divorce on my own because my ex-husband said he wouldn't pay a dime of it. But it is the best thing I could have done. As far as your children go, the best thing you can do for them to get them through this is to explain to them that you and your spouse are divorcing( do this together if at all possible)...but don't get into to much detail and gage it according to their age. For the children's sake you should never bad mouth the other parent or fight over divorce issues in front of the children. Lastly provide a loving stable environment and the children will get through it just fine. I divorced one year ago and have three preteens myself and they are doing just fine.
2006-06-08 06:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with your children and make them feel secure. Explain to them that it had nothing to do with them. Mommy and Daddy just couldn't get along but that both parents love them.
Yes, have a lawer to protect you and your kids. Many times as parents we don't want to continue hurting the other person and in that we leave out the lawer.
But when our lives start changing and demands come alone at least you have it straight from the lawer.
2006-06-08 06:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by deelitefuldreams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im getting a divorce too and also have 3 kids but two from him. and my case is a domestic issue. and im still tring to get sole custody and child support. I ve been married since 97. but lived with him for 9 months. my first son was conceived after we broke up. and my second son was concieved because i went to this party and i was drinking and he raped me. so my kids dont even know him which is a good thing. lol. just find a good lawyer and do what you think is right for the kids and look at why you are getting a divorce. good luck
2006-06-08 06:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by babysonia23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a woman, You get the kids, house, bank account, car and his retirement automatically and he gets to pay you child support and pay off any bills you may have while you get a new man and live off him for the next 18 years.
2006-06-08 06:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, they have 'do it yourself divorce kits' in places like Office Max.
2006-06-08 06:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by spookykid313 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you and spouse are totally in agreement as to who gets what then no, you don't need a lawyer.
2006-06-08 06:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋